Are Black/Coloured and Indian South African men...?

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Inno, you got most of us off guard here. What's most interesting you emphasised "colour" - not race. But those obsessed with race fell into it. Now -

Starting with me: I don't consciously go for a particular skin pigmentation. I've had light skinned, the "coffee colour" and dark sinned women in my life. But

I have two friends who swear by light skinned women. One of them would say to me; "no man mokgotsi, omopila but gase type tsa me. Ke omontsho thata. Ke batla ba basweunyana" and this â€œmontsho thataâ€ woman being the coffee coloured one..

Come to think of it - my aunts used to tell me that during their youth days, when a girl was to go to the alter, she would spent so much time with skin lightening creams. They would spend less time in the sun - all in the name of getting lighter skins. And then you'd hear the song; "tswang tswang le mmone ngwana o tshwana le lekhalata" at their weddings.

Most of older bros van Alex, I mean the real clevas, would tell you that hull soek hom thekeni (girlfriend) to shine in the middle of the night down John Brand street. From these one can safely say there is a big number of black men who dig light skinned women.

So, maybe your stranger friend was right....

The Blue bull

This is a very debatable issue. You can just look at some of the contributions in this section and you will find enough reason to believe that South Africans still consider the issue of skin color.

Skin color does not even play a roll in my life and it is the person, the attitude and honesty that attracts me to any person.

dWali

Inno my friend - I think colour is definitely an issue.

As you know I love ALL MEN, but the ones that are just slightly darker than me is simply so much more delicious. My dream man is sorta east asian darkish skin; lol.

NOT that I exclude any colour, I am an equal opportunity admirer.

jovvijo

Sorry I go for brains and an offbeat sense of humour. Your skin colour, age or even gender are irrelevant to me, it's YOU that I want to get to know better!

mr.mars-"H"-mallow

I guess one of those things that you just will never be able to put a definite rule to Inno. Some like them skinny, some plump, some fair, the list can go on.

A man stays a man I guess. Keeps the world interesting I guess!

Donnchadh

I do tend to prefer chocolate skinned ladies above any thing else, but it never limited my hunting fields.
So as for color struck. Not me.

I get slapped behind the head quite often when the missus and me go mall crawling. I tend to openly appreciate a fine sample of the finer gender, no matter the color.
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Ayiza

You know it always the darker guy the say things like he wants a fairer lady.
Which I always find funny.
I suppose its the same things about a guy liking big boobs
thats all.

I know with the Coloureds and Indians its a big deal especially with the Indian guys.
It has something to do with ethnicity as well you get the Gujarati's now they are really fair some of them you may think they are white or Arab.

Hindu's they are balanced going dark. Like South African black people.
In fact some African people are fairer then them.

Tamils now they are dark.

So now the thing is that back in India the darker guys got discriminated against and they were given useless jobs.
So now there is tension when a Gujarati marries a Tamil girl.

Coloured people it not as obvious as the Indians because there are differences as well some coloured people look like us Africans and some look like white people my one of my friends looks like a white guy(Italian/Portuguese/Spanish look alike) he had to tell me he was coloured.

In places like Cape Town the call each other names and stuff but around the country its not like that at all.

But as you know love beats it all one of the Indian guys use to go on about Fair Indian girls now he is engaged to a dark girl.
So you never know.

Crista

I've always been attracted to good-looking people--whether they be white as a marshmallow or black as night.

I have heard before that among black people the lighter-skinned ones tend to be more popular, but I think if anything that is a disgusting product of media bias (and people watching too much TV), and has nothing to do with human instinct or inborn preference. There are beautiful people of every shade.

Everyone usualy sticks to there own in South Africa

johnnyhawkyns

I like dark skins.
When my wife and I first met 30 odd years ago we lived down at Sandy Bay copping a tan. She was extremely dark at that time. I could not believe a few years later when we had moved to Europe that she was actually very light even more-so than me and I have light blue eyes hers are brown.
Probably why I love the dusky ladies in the South of France.

Ni Ten Ichi Ryu

I don't think so. In general it appears that most people still date along ethnic, race or culture lines although there has been a marked increase in so called inter-racial relationships. The last two relationships I've been involved in have been across ethnic, race and culture lines. What mattered most then and now is that we share the same values and value system.

And I don't think that you are "truly deluded about race relations in South Africa" as commented by a certain non-South African resident. Your question touches one of the realities in South Africa - that more and more inter-ethnic/ racial/ cultural relationships are becoming a reality and thriving in South Africa.

not.just.a.pretty.faceâ™¥

Why should it matter what color we are? For one, it's not like we can help it, and how is a color different in a person? Are we 5 year olds or something? We distinguish a definate difference in people, we notice one person's skin color, but why should we treat that person different?

-One Love-

Hey Inno...wow, I really dunno why she should've worried. Ya, I'm attracted to any race, as long as they're goodlooking and have a good personality.

shura r

It's true that no one can do anything to change their skin color, but that does not solve the global problem regarding color discrimination. Just like everyone has unique fingerprints, he/she has created customized preferences (perfect partner image in their mind) based upon their education, upbring and other factors.

So if you can find someone who prefers for what you are, that will make things easier. Also the more conflicts/differences in your attitudes( not skin color), with ur choosen one the more compromises you both will have to do, sometimes just one of them ends up comprises most of the time and ultimately breaking off painfully.

gerkie

de sun ien de north birn i olif broun kaller end de sun ien de souf i ader kaller oll piepel ien mid efrika ies blek end ol piepel ien europa ies whyt end ol piepel ien de far north ies pienk

Alf Garnett 9

Innocentia you are truly deluded about race relations in South Africa. Most White South African women are truly fearful of African Males and find them quite repulsive.This story from News24 says it all:
While on a flight from Dar Es Salaam to Johannesburg, three drunken black males had a field day, sexually assaulting a lone White woman for the entire duration of the flight. Neither the cabin crew nor the flight captain lifted a finger to intervene. A Pretoria woman has laid a charge against two "drunk and lewd" South African men after being sexually molested on a SAA flight. Medical product manager Belinda van der Merwe, 39, says she had a nightmare flight from Dar es Salaam to Johannesburg when one of the men also grabbed her between her legs. She was also disappointed by SAA's handling of the situation.
According to Van der Merwe she was flying home from a work conference when she ended up between three South African men who, judging from their conversation, worked on a mine in Tanzania. They apparently each consumed up to eight mini-bottles of brandy which the flight attendant continued to serve them, even when the men were clearly drunk.

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