Do you Agree or Disagree ........... and WHY ?

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Salloo7a

When a man loves a woman for true love, she never comes after family or friends but sometimes she can complain that she comes after his work but this is not true either because after marriage, the manly way to say "I love you" is the same as "I work more to provide lots of things for you"
Simple as that :D

Ruby

I disagree with u dear. I believe that when a man loves a woman dearly he too makes her his first priority just like she does. If the man does pay a lot of attention to his work, it is still because of her, to always be able to support her financially and buy all her needs. They're not just working for themselves, they're doing it for a purpose.

Ranoush(ppl thumbed me down:p)

hun,you are explaining the man's nature..that's how God created man,why? because that's what is right,he must think about his work first because he's the breadwinner of the family,he must focus on his work..
but as the nature of a woman as God created her is that family first,agree with me or not,every woman's basic job is taking care of her husband and kids,that must be her priority,other than that would be odd..

do we like it?no..but if a man really loves a woman,he'll try not to make her feel that she's not important,he will make her feel that she's the world to him and even when he's studying or working,he's doing this for her,to make her happy and to make their life easier....

Samantha

If my hubby was like that I'd throw him out the window!

OR... put him second or third to get back at him!

So see... I'm totally against it :D

Crystal P

I don't agree or disagree.

I think that some guys are like that. Some guys are not like that. Some women focus as much on their career, and as soon as they have children, that man is second, third, etc. priority.

I just think everyone is different, I guess.

I would say that is the same everywhere.

I can see how a society can accept this...if a guy has no brain to think about family and job, why would an egyptian woman want to marry him...he will need to work and support the family they will have together.

I can see how it would be a very integral part of Egyptian society......his contribution to his marriage depends on connections and income.

Not only in Egypt, but in other parts of the middle east, that is typical...the wife stays inside the home, and has her friends over to drink coffee all day. She isn't suffering...that's for sure.

In addition, this type of prioritizing also happens in the USA by some Americans.

THE-GREEN-VISITOR

First of all, welcome back ya Noha, I missed your Q's indeed.

As for your Q, I was going to give a long speech as this would be so unfair for men. I would wonder why there are some girls and women (a lot indeed) "mesada2een nafsohom" that men are the most hateful creature Allah Has ever created.

But when I had read your additional words, that you're not generalizing, I got satisfied with your Q, so you ask if there are some cold-blooded men or those don't care, in first place about their beloved girl, then yesssssssss, of course there are, and there also are women who can't be satisfied with any means.

kol 7aga feiha kol 7aga, mate2la2eesh :-)

Mom@do

here are you my point of view, i just couldn't hold myself back answering this question :)

I think ..

that is because women are more concerned by emotions and feelings, other stuff comes in a second priority

for men their main concern is and should alwayes be taking care of the family taking by their hands to a good final destination through life, it's never been easy, men .. and i mean good men struggle in nowadays life to ensure good life for all the family, so men are more intouch with harsh life stuff on the other hand women are most of the time with their children even if women work it's not their first priority cause for men it's a commitment then comes love in second priority for men .. and we can't settle it as a rule ;)

Gamal :)

Sahar

Noha, i will give you serious advice, from someone who is probably a lot older than you are, lafa ye dayra, but not in the bad sense
you're a sweet girl and i want to give you what i have, what i have learned
men here in egypt are in an adoring relationship with their parents, family, and their friends are very important
nothing in this should make you feel inferior, and nothing in this should make you feel insecure ever on the contrary
this took me years to learn and experience really has proven eli maloosh kheir fi ahlo maloosh kheir fi 7ad, you will discover that your partner will be ba2i 3aleiki just as he is ba2i 3ala ahlo and his friends
the most important thing is, and think of it this way, he has known his parents all his life, you a lot less, the most important is never to interfere in these relationships and never to place yourself in a me/them position or preference, never tell him in anyway or other it's either or, it's either me or your friend, no matter what dear, it shows vulnerability, it shows jealousy, distrust, weakness
with time, you will find yourself moving up in the scale, lewa7deik keda, you will take a very if not the most important spot, it takes time, effort, understanding, and it would help a great deal if you share his love for his parents and friends, support his work
if you dislike any, no need to step on your feelings, just be polite and diplomaceya, no harm in that, on the contrary
you also must know that work to a man is who he is, it's something very important, just as home and children are to us, he is a provider, a hunter by nature

when i first met my husband, i wanted him all to myself and myself only, i was 18-19, i was jealous of work, i was jealous of squash, i was jealous of his mother and sister, and jealous of his best friends and boy were they many (still are today)sometimes i felt he loved them more, he told them stuff he woudn't tell me, he would be all so very happy when around them, etc...many a times when we went out i felt like i was gaya ma3 el 3afsh, we would be invited somewhere and it would be as if he doesn't know me, we'd go home, he'd make love to me and i would think, oh is that it ? he just wants me for that ?
i tell you, i've been through a great deal, all are phases and steps
today is very different, 7amdolah

Ahmed

i dont care :D

Ismaily Rules

E7temal kebeer.

maya

i totally agree and in eastern countries this matter is found more and there is no reason for me to agree or disagree.its a fact or my general observation.

warpedhybrid

I disagree about my love being my first concern only b.c. I have kids right now. If i didn't have children he'd be at the top of my list.

I do agree w/ a woman being a mans 2nd concern though. Our children are first in my mans priorities and I'm second. I like it that way. At one point in our lives we weren't putting one another as the top priorities and I attribute it to youthful ignorance...i got married at 21 yrs. and placed adventure as important as my hubby, and things are much more harmonious when he's included in my spur of the moment plans. I'd be very unhappy in a scheduled and overly structured lifestyle and he has been able to finally understand that I'm like a bird who can't be caged and will always come back home. He used to not understand the free spirit mentality, but after realizing how much i do love him he's just fine. Just remember things take time to get over misinterpreting others intentions and understanding your lover and self, so if this is what that's about don't hope things will be perfect on every level from the beginning.

romaica

Both sacrifice in their own way. Women by giving all to her husband and family and man by effort and time at work to provide for the family.
It depends on the person and his priorities, some dads are a lot caring and better than mums.

someone

i think for the women her kids will be first and if she doesnt have so yeah she will just live to love him.u know why?bcz there is nothing to give her hope except that. a nice job will be the world for her,believe me.but if she will stay at home cleaning and coocking so yeah he will be not just a priority but everything to her.and she will get jealous of everything....and let us not be unfair its normal that the job will be his priority bcz he will always think that he is the only one to bring money to home.
and personnlay i think the smart women is the women who can make her husband believe that the marriage is another lovely adventure.bcz some men think that when they marry the women so there is nothing to take more than that,and they will feel bored from her.and there should be a strong love so he miss her when he leave home....so i personnaly agree with u IF a woman will be living waiting him to come,and not do something who make her feel that she's alive and proud of herselfand make him too proud of her.and i disagree with u IF the women is capable of knowing how to be the first in he's life.w nice question

papi chulo

well i would agree with that, cos the arab male isnt that open minded to realize the importance of his wife, that he dont get it , she is his life partner.
for me, my wife GOD willing will be my priority GOD willing cos its just stupid not to love someone who i choose to be with me till i die, so why would i make her unhappy , she is at the top of the list of course.

Jamie R

Unfortunately I think that is generally true. I just think it's because we've been generally pre disposed to this human behavior where it's the norm for men to act like asses and women to act stupid. I for one (as I know many others are) are making sure that that stereo-type dies off.

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