Do you forgive ??????????

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merely_me

unfortunately i forgive easily lol it has its bad side
i was once hurt by my best friend (or rather ex) i forgave her, but we lost that, i didn't view her in the same light as before. We lost something precious, etc.
U might forgive someone but u wont return to how things were before. U wont have that same close, trusting bond as before. u wont be that same "blind trusting" friend or watever, u will be wary and cautious etc.
Also if u forgive, u help yourself, u give yourself comfort from "she did this to me grr..." type thing, its over and u get over it, u kinda feel more.... peace? And u can't stay angry at someone forever.
Situation where i forgave, i forgave that friend, and moved on, situation were i didn't forgive, long story but still trying to forgive that person, nearly there
and how can we expect God to forgive us if we don't forgive others?

Anna

forgive but never forget!

Moonrise

i usually forgive to clean my heart and sleep sound .
i forget the details , but i learn a lesson about the source of the problem.
i dont trust that person again , but i speak to them AS IF nothing happened .
all i need is to live peacefully without disturbing thoughts .

Tribal Angel

no i destroy them ...

FraSpa

No matter what the situation is, I forgive. However, depending on the situation, if the person hurt me by betraying my trust then yes, I will forgive them but never trust again.

♥Lovely♥ ♥Diamond♥

I usually forgive, but it takes time to trust the person who hurt me, and I remain sad for a while.

tamil..from vellore

yes, it is a human nature. He will become a human. His anger, tension will come down. it is sacred word. we will be appreciated when we forgive the mistakes done by others to us.

He is my dear most friend. He is blessed with a daughter. i am blessed with 4 sons. My 2nd son got some appointment orders and he was asked to be present on a particular day. i was away on official work and it was a board meeting and my presence is essential because all documents/files are in my custody.

so, i asked my son to go to my friend's home and stay a day, attend the interview company. He did it. My friend's wife asked my son to clear the doubts in maths to her daughter. He cleared her doubts. so, she invited him often there. He sometimes got my permission and more time gone without my knowledge. when i came to know about his visits, i warned my friend. my friend said that his daughter is in love with your son. i said, i have no objection but i want to see his future first, and said that he is often cutting the office and staying in your home and this is making me sad.

As a true friend who is nearly 30 years family friend did not heard my words. He went silently. i called my son and warned him to concentrate his job. In the meantime, he lost his job. my friend's wife told him this..''your daddy is getting jealousy over your coming here, etc.,'' He believed her words. After loosing his job he run a business which went in loss. when things gone worse, i conducted marriage to the same girl ..i mean my friend's daughter. she made some revolutions at my home is a separate story. He suffered without a job. i know my distant relative, a rich who is running successful companies and met and asked him a job for my son. He immediately issued orders. Now, he is doing a fine job and earning and doing well.

Now say, can i forgive my friend who spoiled my family atmosphere for some time ? yes, he felt very much for his actions and pleaded pardon. yes, i forgiven him. you believe me, i completely ignored him and his family for any thing. Now, my son realizes his mistakes. now, my daughter-in-law.. my friend's daughter also feels much.

so, forgiving is human nature. He becomes human. i did it. i don't want his friendship though now he is related, i snapped ties.

am i right ?

Soley J

not really well sometimes why do you care

Apple Blossom

HA we were talking about this this morning.

I definitely know about how forgiving might take a long time, even to forgive yourself for something.

For instance, growing up from ages 11 til I was 18 and could move out I lived with my mom and step dad. He verbally and physically abused my mom daily and me verbally daily. I hated him, life, myself, my mom all of the above. I never in my dreams thought I would forgive him.

ONce I moved out, my mom left him finally, and I got my own family did/could realize that he was a sick person, he was an alcoholic and sick mentally. Also my mom drank a lot too which never helped. And having two kids that weren't yours after never having kids might be a hard thing to deal with. So after many many years went by I forgave him after somewhat understanding/not saying it was ok how he did us...but trying to get why he did what he did...somewhat made it ok for me to let go all the hate.

So after my mom left him, he went straight from liquor to drugs and died of an overdose...just several years later. Last summer, we went to his funeral with his 2 brothers and sister, we were the only family he had ever known. And no one in the whole room could tellus a happy story about him. It made me truly sad, and I had wished things would have been different. So I have a little perspective with age.

I still have things I regret or people I hurt or hurt me that I either let it eat away at me or I let it go. For me it takes a long time with some people others, I can let it go easier. Overall it makes me feel a lot better and happier to let it go.

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it depends sometimes i forgive and forget sometimes i get really hurt :(

Ally 2

I'm trying really hard to, and I guess I'll have to work on it every day. The few people I know who can truly forgive are such very peacful people.

I have a sister that is a real source of near hatred for me, and I desperately need to work on that situation.

Veers த‌மி‌ழ்

since the question is interesting i read all the answers also.

a decade back a person ( Great grand son of Famous Artist Ravi Verma) told me that in general people exchange greetings by saying "good morning". but in one religion they instead, used to say "I have forgiven you" even to a person happened to meet for first time in life also.

when i surprised, he told me the habit of forgiving if generally followed by every one, then the whole world will be in real peace. some how the concept was impressive to me.

again i feel forgiving without forgetting is meaningless.

Radical Vampire

AM insanely FORGIVING
but at 16/01/2009 @ 11:30 pm Something happened .. and I can't forgive ... Now it is Wednesday 20/01/2009 and still yet Can't forgive
and I can't say what happened ... cuz if am gonna saying ..I will cry and I don't wanna cry ... ='((((
PLUS somebody thinks dat am kinda neglecting ... although am not ... and am jus passing bad events ... So people sometimes misunderstanding ma actions

wowo

Forgive but you never really forget

Hanna

I forgive but don't forget, so I guess I really don't forgive.

AJ H

if you don't then you will never be happy and will hate everyone

I have never not forgiven someone but once in tenth grade my brother/parents forgot to pick me up from school and it was raining so I started walking and hitch hiked to my house............ I like forty minutes away from my school

so I was pissed and felt bad that they forgot about me but i got over it =D

and btw

in the bible it say to forgive AND forget

don't hold grudges its immature and stupid

Strawberry_Lover

Yeah, I do forgive, but depending on wha happened I might not talk to them anymore

love is the movement.<3

that's life.
i forgive, and try to forget.
it's hard, but everyone messes up.

Juliet(still waiting hahahah)

yes but it depends on the situation

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i have forgiven someone who's hurt me but also chosen not to be friends w/them anymore because even tho i forgave them, i can't trust them further than i can spit

Alexa

yes you can not go to heaven if you don't

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