Do you immediately feel negative about relationships started on the internet?

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joy

wouldnt do it my self to be honest

Darth Vader

One should be careful. I think a lot of people are just out there to have fun. You might be the victim of someone elses fantasy which necessarily is not your own.
P.S. I'm in your old hometown this morning.

varksnorkie

Sins I have formed a nice friendship with one of the regulars here over the internet but that is it. A few e mails here and there. I will never be able to start a "relationship" as such on the net. I am anyway happily married. But even if I was single, I need to know how the person looks, how his eyes look, how he laughs, how he feels, I need something physical in a realtionship that is for sure. Writing letters to each other, phone calls etc will not be enough for me. I hate being alone, I need some one "there" for me that I can touch and hug and do things together with. So I am a bit negative about cyber relationships. Perhaps if I am single and living on some scientific station in the South Pole I will start an internet romance......that is if there is really no one else in the station that I feel attracted to.
As for people trying to "fool" each other. Well I am a very sceptical person and do not trust people easily. I do believe there are a few rotten apples out there that spoil things for innocent, lonely people that really want to meet some one nice over the net.

Bob Mugabe MOTPZANU-PFCOYA

Sins, I think I know something about your relationship. If it has worked out, I am very, very happy for you! That is a good thing.

Internet friendships can work, with the right person. It is only a way to meet more people. I cannot see why anyone would want to fool anyone else, quite the contrary. I think you are more open, perhaps, knowing that the probability of meeting is quite remote - in most cases, I mean.

Mine is still very confusing, as you may remember. Grace does not have much tolerance, and takes advantage of me whenever she can. It leaves me an unhappy old man.

Lzbz

No. I have personally made very good friends on the Internet from the other side of the world. I've been friends for them for as long as 4-5 years! I don't think we can categorize the relationship as good or bad, people cheat and lie to us in the real world too. Just like we can't tell who is going to cheat us in the real world, we can't guess who could cheat us on the Internet.
The key is to give the relationship time and see if the other person is trustworthy. I have heard of alot of happy marriages as a result of the Internet and more solid friendships.

Alf Garnett

Until you have met the person in person serious relationships on the internet can only be fantasy. There is no harm in accepting people at face value and seeing a lot of commonality through views expressed leading to a sort of penpal relationship.
I particularly worry for the females who may well be taken advantage of although the classic case here was a Male.Maybe I am still old fashioned in a sort of protective way but then again if I am confronted in a negative manner by one of those bra burning Libby's then all my inhibitions are gone.
Most of the time for me it is a bit of fun and posting provocative answers although I do have very strong feelings about the way South Africa has been ruined by a corrupt cabal of criminals.
What if the person you really take a fancy to turns out to have a huge nose with a wart on the end and suffers from incredible halitosis?

bean

met my hubby online 10 years ago, still married :) worked for us

~alexp~

This is a good question - I used to feel negative about relationships started on the net, until I met someone very special!

I had been out of a relationship for a few months and I was fed up with meeting guys out in a pub or club really drunk. Most of my mates had partners and so didn't want to go out all the time anyway and persuaded me to try online dating. Oh well I was horrified - surely that's for really sad people who don't have a life or for perverts??! I was in fact very ignorant that most of the people online were perfectly normal and quite similar to me! And they saw internet dating as just another way to meet others. Of course you have to be careful and aware that some people are not what they seem to be, but you need to be aware and careful in most aspects of your life anyway.

So one night a few years ago, I tried a dating site and I loved it! Meeting loads of people and making friends was great. And I actually met my hubby that first night. We became close and after a month we met up and have been together ever since!!

Bob Mugabe MOTZANU_PFGOYA

This is how I have met you all. Even if most of you are whiteys, it is good to know you. But I do not think I will fall in love with one of you, even if I think Sins is very nice. Grace would never allow me to. Just because I am the President and can do what I want, that does not mean I can do what I want.

Abhishek Shrivastava

it's all depend not like blind date. First you need to understand then only outing that's for me.

Skyli

Nope as long as people know what they are getting themselves into. It worked for me and I have great friends and a lovely man due to the net!

Res

Well as long as people actually meet one another in real life before making wedding plans, it could be fine. I can not see myself falling in love on the Internet though. I need to see and spend time with a person before I can build up a relationship. I am personally skeptical of such relationships. Zim and Unathi may have met here but they met one-another and built up a relationship from there, in real life.

manapaformetta

My mate met someone on the net (different countries in the British Isles) and now they are married? and I have met one of my contacts who I originally met here on Answers (not is a romantic way just a sort of hi get to know you). there are a small amount of contacts I would actually like to meet, so why not, (obviously I have spoken to in other formats than on Y!A.

Blossomo

I met my husband on match.com, so no, I definitely don't have negative feelings about the circumstances under which we met. Without the internet, we would never have met.

newlb4u

If you read the book, the Victorian Internet, even then relationships were being forged between telegraph operators who could only interpret the dots and dashes of morse code.
Today you have the instant knowledge of someone's likes and dislikes. You can decide immediatley if you would like to know that person or not. I think the getting to know someone stage is reduced as you will have already gleened something from their profile and talking with them on the phone before you meet. I don't think this is a bad thing.

I don't feel the internet reduces the positive feeling of online dating. My experience is that I simply would not have met some of the great woman i have, and the fantastic woman i intend to marry, if I had dated locally or within my peer group.

Doshie

People meeting and dating thru the net does come with alot of negative views, and its hard to let go of that image, but I think its alright, aslong as the people make a real effort to meet up (safely) and then as time goes on let it develop into a "real life" relationship.
The ones I find a bit, well, weird are the ones who date on the internet for year, get engaged over the internet, and say that after years of conversing on the net and never really meeting that thier going to get married. Those sorts of relationships are the ones to me that could be full of lies and hiden agendas.

agius1520

it is jus tanother medium but it's a medium that can easily create a lot of fakes so you just need to be careful but most reputeable sites have good protection anyway.

I'd say they work ok, my sister met her current boyfriend online and they are really outgoing people and have been together around 5 years now and they are really great together and i reckon will last a long time.

PandaNanda

My best friend has now been married for 5 years, like all marriages there are issues that need to be worked out, however she met her husband via the Internet - they started by messaging each other and eventually did meet on neutral ground and hit it off, lucky for them they were both honest, both had been previously divorced - he had a lot of baggage that has only just been discarded. However I feel they are an exception to the rule, I am also aware of marriage breakdowns due to one of the partners having a "cyber affair".

Carly

Although I wouldn't dismiss meeting people on the net out of hand, I am wary of people I don't know personally.
For instance, a friend knows a SA woman he met on the Net. They met on Facebook a few months ago, she asked him to add her on msn a few days back and he 'coincidentally' caught a virus soon after.
Of course, I am also careful about people I do know personally, as a virus may pretend to be them by email or im (refer to my answer on msn photo virus earlier today).

Hennie III

The natural reaction is to be sceptical, however, I have met some of the most wonderful people in the world on the Internet, first and foremost, being my lovely wife.

However, I've also seen things go horribly pear shaped. Point in question-Poor Vango being duped by that psychotic low-class scum Commodore/Jade Moon/Crystal S etc.

demoness_morgane

I do not feel negative about internet relationships at all. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now. We met online on a child website when we were 11, talking there until we were 15. We then started writing and calling each other, and then met in person (with our parents with us) when we were 16. We have been happily dating since then. So I know that online relationships can work out.

alsaser

I use caution but see it as a way to meet ppl. I know a very good story, i'm engaged to a wonderful guy, my best friend and more...n we met online!

VHagerty

I think as long as someone is careful and thorough about getting to know someone online (or even in the real world) it can be a great tool for meeting another. :)

conservation chris Is back

I don't think that I would form a love relationship on the net, I think that it is much better to meet people in person, in a club or in the street or anywhere , where you see what you are getting, I have no trouble going up to beautiful women and meeting them, I guess that I am just lucky this way.

cheri

I did meet a few here that i consider friends and quite a few that i have respect for, but it's better to meet any one in real life as well, and keep in mind it is too easy to fool people when you hide behind a avatar

carlota t

yes.because that guy or girl you have relationship might be someone bad.it depends on you if you like her or what.

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