Do you think 16 is too young to be engaged?

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Luli

It is ok to be engaged if you are 16 if you live in the 18th century. Nowadays,it's not. You must have your life experiences before settling down with somebody that you choose, and love.

And what if you are still going to college? Will you be able to use what you have leaned there? Get a job? A career? Wish I could help you somehow.

Mad Cow

Way too young, you have a whole life in front of you, and if both of you are truly in love, you can get married at a later age...........why rush??

Casablanca

Why would i find his accent annoying ?
You are not ready for marriage ,Not mature enough.

Wise Heart

Not young for engagement but young for marriage.

jonasbrothersrgay

I am a 21 year old Muslim woman. Honey, you are WAY too young to get engaged, not to mention to get in on papers!

First, your ideas will definitely change. Whom is great to you today won't be as attracvtive tomorrow. You need to experience before figuring what you truely need from a man.

Secondly, you still need to have fun. You shouldn't even be in a serious relationship. You should have fun with your friends, build your personality, then you will think of dating, engagement and marriage.

See, the fact that you care about his accent being too obvious, it shows that you haven't reached the right level of maturity to get into such a relationship! You are still into superficial things. I am sure he is hot and funny, but is he THE ONE? hard to tell right now...

Please, think about it again. Ask your parents for their opinion. If you must get engaged, make it a casual engagement, IE. NO CONTRACT. Good luck and God bless you

thesunshineking

NO, YOU WILL MAKE A MISTAKE...3 MAIN POINTS..

1st-->1A--maturity (on your end)..one give away is you asking ppl if his accent is cute..1B-->maturity on his end....especially if you're his first..no man is going to stay with one woman, especially not when they are 16..men need experience and need to live life...a 16 or 18 yr old guy knows NOTHING abou life, about raising kids, about responsibility...STATS show over 65% of ppl who get married before 25 get divorced, and that figure jumps to 75% if they get married before 20! :)..goo luck and grow up!!!

2nd-->being in college and having "the college experience" when you are married seems a bit off..

3rd-->financial stability, unless both of you are independently wealthy...!!!!

JUST THREE THOUGHTS..NOTHING COMPLEX..no long paragraphs..i think you get the point!!!!

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Well, My advice to you is that you wait longer, but the decision is yours. Actually, 16 yrs old is not young for a relationship, but it is young for marriage. And this is a very essential thing that you look it over before you decide what to do. A healthy relationship could be after some years of meeting him. I would recommend that you also consider the suggestions of your parents, they could be great helpers to you. As I've mentioned, that 16 yrs old is a very good age to start a relationship, but wait some years till you get to know eachother more. And if your partner seriously want it at that age, than you could have it so, but I recommend it older, about when you finish highschool.( Because you don't want to highschool and be pregnant, people will notice that!)

webby

yes, I feel that 16 is young. but then again, my daughter is 21 and I feel she's too young for marriage too.

sweet

i think its too early..............
its ur life girl........
if i was u then i would never prefer to get engaged at the age of 16...........

Miss Baydoun

UR TOO YOUNG TO GET MARRIED MY DEAR...plz reconsider what ur doin..u still havent lived ur childhood..come ooooooooooooooon

Aussie

Well , to be truthful & speaking as a father , I can't quite see the point of long engagements.
If you are not intending to marry for years why not just continue as you are until circumstances allow you to take the next step. In my opinion, short engagements that give you enough time to arrange wedding details are a better option.

In western culture , engagements are not the same as marriage but are in fact the prelude to marriage.

RedRose (got headache)

and how old is he?..
anyways you're too young.. get out & enjoy your life.. la72a..

singlegal

At sixteen you still have a lot of living and growing up to do. Is there some reason the two of you can't just be friends for a few more years? Sixteen is too young to be formally engaged.... let alone married. My parents would never have allowed that..... Their attitude was "If you're old enough to be engaged/married you're old enough to pay for your own apartment, your own education, and all of you other bills." That's something to consider too. I would wait to become formally engaged.... If what you feel for each other is true love you'll still feel the same way once you have completed your education and have some idea of what you want to do with the rest of your life in addition to being married.

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no i got engaed when i was sixteen.
ive also been in the u.s. all of my life. i met my husband in palestine when we went there on vacation.
im 18 now, we got married last summer, and now im in college.
my husband has an accent and its soo cute. i love him so much, and im glad we're married, because i can't imagine myself with someone else.. and if you get engaed now, you dont have to get married now, you can wait as long as the two of you want.
i say go for it- i did it and i couldn't be any happier.

besides, if you're so worried about school, you can write it in as a condition on your marriage contract, that you have to be able to finish school.

ABANDONED

i am 16, me and this dude were "unofficialy" engaged (thats what we called it) and wanted to get married when i was 20, i thought the same way u did and reading ur question u sound alot like i do, i am in the US too haha and he had an accent too but i thought it was hot not annoying lol

in the end it didnt work.

i dont think ur parents r gonna go for this either
i know u love him
but dont rush into anything
take ur time

ur still young!! i know u dont wanna hear this but things may not work out...but then again it could work so follow ur heart

anyways i know what u r goin through so if u need advice or anything feel free to contact me:
yasalaam737@yahoo.com

good luck habebti!!

Jamelia C

It's all relative but if you were my daughter, I would advise you to wait a little longer before making such a big committment. Marriage requires time, understanding, compromise and maturity. No one is saying don't get married but just wait until you have experienced life as an independent woman rather than going from your parent's to a partner. Enjoy every opportunity to find out who you are.

If he really loves you, he will understand and be willing to wait for you.

eric saeed

yes i think so .its so hard . and i guess if i will be ya i wont do that

tessa

far too young

unique, nour hb

well, i think you should take a few more years to think more abt it, in those next years, you dont know wat can happen maybe get more matture and realise u dont like him, just give urself some time, as they say, but if u r really convinced, its up 2 u....

Freak

i think you're too young to get engaged. when you'll get a bit older you'll meet other people and you might regret making that decision. take your time.
you think you're "in love" now and you can live with him forever, but you're too young for this.
16 is a very beautiful age, live it, enjoy it. dont do something you might regret.
anyway, in the end it's your decision. good luck!

<3 XOXO <3

If you are in love with him them age shouldnt matter.

happyperson ;)

no, not unless it bugs you or u don't really love him or u just are not ready for this

jamiehappy97

No. If you are Muslim, that's legal. Even 7 year olds get married.

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