Egyptian and Mulim men, and whoever wants to answer......?

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Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer

aya, it is not a matter if it is ok, it is a must.

My wife although not working, she does alot more than house works, she also takes care of kids education and other things.

My part is usually washing the dishes and the tough cleaning jobs that she cannot reach. But sice we bought a dish washer, my job was to put the dishes in the machine. :):)
I also shower the kids.

if she is sick (be3d elshar), I have to take care of most the "Must to Do" things around the house.

Things I like most doing:

- Breakfast. anything that includes egg I am proffessional in it.
- Vacuum cleaning. just because it is easy.

Things I hate the most:

- Cleaning bathroom. if we are sharing house work in one day I normally trade this task with two or three others just for not do it
- Putting clothes on clothes line after washing

Shopping: I am not a shopping person, no way you take me for 2 hours walking around the super market looking for 20 cents different between products. I jut pick the first brand in front of me and keep going. My wife does her shopping in 3 or 4 supermarkets to get the best deal. I will have a heart attack if I did this believe me. it is not embaressment, because there is nothing to be embarassed about in shopping.

according to my wife, I do best :

- Tea
- French fries
- Kids haircut
- Spanish omlette
- baked Sweet potatoe
- Indian Butter Chicken

hope this help.

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Lawrence of Arabia

I Love Shopping, cooking and gardening... I hate doing dishes....

A Muslim man must go shopping instead of his female family members.

desperado 5

i help when they need help whatever is it and no matter if i like it or not.cause already i like to help them this give me happiness and let them feel better and this what we look for.

relator hallas

Is it OK with you to help your mom/ wife/ sister in house chores?
yes, it's OK.
what house chore you prefer the most?
cleaning
And what house chore you hate the most?
cooking
Do you believe that shopping is a feminine job?
no not at all
And do you feel embarrassed to go shopping instead of your mom/ wife/ or sister?
no i don't.
i hope the girls opinions are not so cruel about that issue.

Adam

Asalam alaikum, it is sunnah to help one's wife with the daily chores....one should also go out of one's way to help his mum...as paradise is at her feet.....in the Shaf'e, Hanbali, and Maliki madhab a woman is not required to do the housework. Only in the Hanafi madhad is this expected. Having said that, too many of us muslim men seem to think we should be 'served' by our wife/sister/mum etc. Of course if the man is out working all day and the woman is home, then i think its fair she do the majority, but its still the Sunnah to help. The prophet led a religion, a nation etc, and still found the time to do this....Islam IS the answer. Salaams

hasafer

yes it's ok , I like every thing , they just have to ask me and tell how to do it for the first time , then I do it
shopping is not feminine , I like it , but not too much .

ummtasneem

Salaams,
If you're Muslim then you know that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him) deserves high regard.and with this said he (sallallahu alayhi wa salaam) did house hold chores and helped his wives by washing his thiab. So I welcome any kind of help my husband or future sons would like to give.And I'll make Du'aa for those who don't want the help because it's a mercy from your Lord.

Dolores G. Llamas

Maybe you seek Egyptian answers? I'm American, but would like to contribute.

It's healthy for men to help with household chores, whether he's helping his mother, sister, wife or daughter. In particular, if he is helping his mother, he has a moral obligation to go out of his way and do even extra for her. This goes for both sons and daughters.

A man gains much more respect, in my eyes, if he helps with chores. Sure, no one wants to do the work, but it has to get done. The man who helps out is a wonderful man, indeed! Granted, if the woman is home all day and the man is out working, then it's only fair that she do most of the work. But, since housework never gets completed (not with kids in the house, for sure), then it's only right that the husband/son help with this.

Someone said it right.... if Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) can lead a religion and an empire, and he had time for house chores, then everyone - man and woman - has time for house chores.

Muhammad Ishfaq A

I make tea for me and my wife, making tea is my responsibility. We both go to super/hyper markets for shopping. My wife takes care of all house hold items. I bring salary and hand over to her, then she is the one who takes care of expenditures and savings. She feels proud when I request her to give me pocket money daily. This is just for a curtsy. I always call her as my home and finance minister.
She has her separate car, pick and drops the children to/from school.

We both trust each other and do our best to never shake each others trust. For me this is the secrete of my success in life, Alhamdulillah, Allahumma baariklina fee.

gigi .

i as a girl , love and respect men who do support thier mother sister wives

hate and disrespect men who refused to do this

edit: hey samy u can write what the house want in a papaer then go shoopping with the papaer i hope i helped

Cool Proud Muslim

its ok with me 2 help them or do all of house chores when they're sick or away.i've done them last week when i was all alone at home for 6 days.
i prefer kitchen stuff,bedromm tidin up,cleaning the house,sweapin.
i hate 2 clean the bathroom (especially toillete,excuse my language).
about shoppin i don belive that is female job unless when there no males around 2 do it,cuz there r no females go shoppin in my family unless if necessary.
i don fell embarrased at all 2 go shoppin cuz i do it all the time.
my regards 2 all hard wrokin women around the world ,especially at home, cuz i really think they r doin greater jobs than we do.
P.S :i'm from Libya,Benghazi

InquisitiveMind

Ummtasnims answer was wonderful..
I just think its so sad that the islamic culture only follows the hadiths that are befitting to them. I have never heard a lesson given in the masjid taking this subject matter on, why? Because men dont like it.
I think alot of these men want us to help them out, yet they dont help us out in the house.
They want us to help them out by running errands, helping them in their business e.t.c.
Yet most arab men dont help watching the kids, or helping out in the house.
Their mothers have them trained that this is a woman's job, and it demeaning that the man of the house do the womans work. Let me clarify this a bit, I dont think that if a man is at work all day long he should have to come home and do the housework, but I see nothing wrong with him helping out like he would like his wife to help him out.

mohammad a

Dear Aya

Let me tell you about the Most Famous Person in the History who was rated Number # 1 among the selected Hundred World Famous personalities in the world so far, By Michael Hart in his book .

He used to help His wives in the house hold work.

Clean the house, clean the clothes.

Get the groceries and other items needed for the house.

Entertain them.

Carry the Children, Grand Children and Play with them.

Respect the Mother (Foster) by getting up and laying the sheet he was wearing for her to sit.

Many more in every walk of life.

You want to know Who He was.

The Holy Prophet of Muslims Muhammad peace be on him.

Whose Actions and sayings are the Role Model and Guidance for all the Muslims untill the End of This World.

LOTR Fan

It certainly increases my respect for them.

glamorous B

i feel he's a real gent for helpin out. He increases his dignity and respect by doing so. I dont know why some guys think it makes em less of a man...its patheitc really!

bakhan

As a young boy I along with my brothers would help my father and mother in their daily household tasks.
Now when I am married, I still continue the same helping my wife; and the custom has passed on to my children.
My wife rarely goes to shopping..all the shopping for the house, both personal and general I do, even though my wife is a serving lady just like myself.
Shopping I believe is not a famine job.

Prophet Mohammad (saw) would help in his household chores.

Maro's mom

Well,first my hubby can help,he found no sham on doing such stuff specially when me being ill he won't even hesitate,as for what I think about the guy whom help his mom,one of my brothers in law does help his mom a lot and he is ready to do anything to help her,for me I found it so sensitive from him,however it pisses off his wife sometimes,so maybe if I were her I would be pissed off too!

samy

I DO[DID ACTUALLY IM A WAY NOW ]] HELP MYMOTHER AND SISTERS
BUT IM REALLY BAD AT SHOPPING NOT BECAUSE OF GENDER MY FATHER IS VERY GOOD AT IT
ANY TIPS TO HLP ME ?

yusdz

1st question : Yes, it's OK and I enjoy helping them
2nd question : Yes, I will help them not only when they're sick
3rd question : I love cooking and I dislike ironing clothes
4th question : No, not at all. I enjoy shopping a lot especially buying groceries because our family like to cook together.

as for the 5th question, my Mom and sisters told me that :
They're very lucky to have us ! (Sons and Husband who enjoy doing housechores together happily)

Blue Butterfly

I do respect the man who help his mom / wife or sister and i dont think that helping them will lessens his dignity

Last Pharaoh

why not !!!?
i really don't have any problem to help my mom wife/ sister in the house chore but to prefer it no i don't prefer any house chore
my opinion is the same about shopping
but the only think that i cant do... is feeding a child
begad mesh momken a2kel atfal la2no bycon youm eswed
la2n ana mesh mosta3ed agry wra elwad tol el bet be3ardoh w lma rabena yhdeeh aw yehddoh wyakol tab3an my clothes htacol abl menoh
so i can do any thing for my mom..etc but not to feed a child
w mesh 3ayez nekash fe elmawdo3 da

Ranoush(ppl thumbed me down:p)

all i can say,Aya....is that the prophet(salla Allah alyhe wassalam) himself used to help his wives when he enter the house and notice they are busy doing sth......
he never said :"i can't do this" or"that's women's work"...
so men should look up to him more and more before let their egos decide.....

edit@shalfat_aaaahh..that's so sweet bgd....

justonpc

A man who help his wife or mom in the house core don't lose his dignity, by doing this he get more.
respect he get a lot more because he diserve it

Kehgohar R

Yes, its absolutely ok with me to help my mom, wife and sisters in house chores without any discrimination provided I am at home and doing nothing else. and when any of them is sick of away, i can do anything to run the house. I love cooking and eating and hate cleaning

Donna Le Oiseau de Feu

I guy who works hard outside the house and has the stamina to also cheerfully help with work at home that is too much for the ladies is the best guy in the world.

Cow Girl 2

I believe, that a Mother that raised you and took care of you all the long years of your childhood, should be taken care of as soon as the child becomes a woman or a man. I will not let my Mother, even raise her littlest finger to do any work around the house and I always listen to her good advise. My Mother and I go everywhere together. We share our fun.
Before my husband was killed, he helped me in our home, not because I asked, but because he liked to help make our Home better. (we had a home, not just a house)

Hearty

to me
any guy has to help his mom/wife/sis not just for this reason
he has to think what would happen if he was living alone???
he has to assume his liability by himself

Mickey

i always help my mom becouse i love her everyone should help her mom

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