Help please help? a couple of questions please?

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sistablu...Maat

Please don't think I am putting you down in anyway because that is not my intention far from it. First you sound very young,sweet and naive especially if you don't really know what" lesbos" means. Its female to female relationships and that's as far as I will go on it.
I really doubt whether what you are feeling is love even though it may feel that way to you. Even people who have had a lot of experience in life are very wary of becoming involved with someone in the internet. You really don't know who they really are. This boy may be everything he say he is, but he may also be a sleazy middle aged man who preys on young girls forming relationships with them on the internet.
Sometimes this has led to tragedy as the girl has been taken in by the deceit and accepted the plane ticket to visit the 18 yr old boyfriend, but ended up being held as a sex slave by one of these disgusting predatory creeps who hunt down innocent young girls like yourself.
So be very careful!
I am presuming the guy is from Egypt or else you are.
If it is him, then realise that Egyptian men are total charmers 120%. They can't be very, very convincing and have you believe they love you. But all the while they are looking for a way to either get out of Egypt or make some money.
Its sad but, there are thousands of young girls and older women who come to Egypt for a holiday and meet a guy who they fall for. He ends up telling her he wants to marry her, rah, rah, rah and in the end leaves her, usually with a few thousand pounds richer at her expense.
But yours is an internet romance.
So first off you have to make sure you know who you are really talking to before you form any sort of friendship in this crazy world of today.
Are you using video cam when you chat? For that is the only way you will know if he is really who he says he is.
I am sure you do have strong feelings but its not love believe me.
Its a nice feeling to have someone say they love you, but as you have said, you know nothing about him. You may not even have anything in common, other that the love of chatting on line.
I would tell you not to fall for the "I love you's", if you really feel you can trust him, then keep him as a friend.
The words, I love you are so easy to say but, they should never be said until you are 120% possitive that you want to spend the rest of your life with the person.
That is regardless of whether they go bald at 20, snore in bed, get a pot belly and have smelly feet.
Because love is when you don't care about all those things and still wanna be with them.
Just tell him you have thought a lot about your feelings, and realise you would have to know more about him and his life before you could begin to really fall in love, and that sweetie is the truth.You also need to get to know yourself before you go falling in live with someone .Because how else will you know if you could spend your entire life with that one person?
Honestly, you can't possibly be in love with someone that you know nothing about,its infatuation which can feel very,very similar to falling in love with someone.
It is also the, "being in love with the thought of being in love" syndrome, add to that some firey teenage hormones and you have a case of "luv" but most definitely not LOVE.
You have your whole life ahead if you enjoy your youth and don't worry about serious love ,when it happens you will know and you won't need to write in asking anyone if it is real or not. For you will know it, so long as you get to know who you are first.
Have a wonderful happy life.

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It is not completely impossible to fall in love with someone over the internet, but you will not know for sure unless you talk to each other on the phone in depth for a while and actually meet. I met a guy over the internet once, we talked online everyday and on the phone everynight for 3 months and then finally met in person. That was three years ago and now we are getting married.

Michael

I'd say it is impossible to be in love over the internet...
...love is a complex concept to experience online...
Good luck girl...;)

C.W

Do not believe him! Even if he does love you. He could be those one of those frauds, stalkers.etc. Trust me, you WILL REGRET TERRIBLY if you ever bring a guy that you've never met over the net. Some of these guys trick you out of your money and torture you. Do not. Why not just meet guys the natural way? You have friends, so find qualities in them that you like. Trust me the natural and traditional way is the best way. Never use online dating services ever again ok? Good luck.

Jasmine

I wouldn't believe that in a million years. You can not love someone you don't know and have never met before. Are you sure hes who he really says he is?

rockyfella25

its possible over the internet but you need to start talking on the phone and you will beable too feel whether its true or not and you will beable too tell if he doent have a hiding life.

Drew2

Guy could be a girl, or guy could be a stalker/pervert.
It's the internet though so you can choose your path easily.

I suggest you either avoid him if it gets awkward,
or continue to be online friends and try to get to know eachother better.

Video Chatting, talking on the Phone are also good ways of getting to know eachother but be careful.

If you're looking for love online you NEED to be careful, that's the bottom line.

kat

I would want to meet the person in person, ask yourself why are you interested in this person. you might be in love with the idea of this and not in the reality of it. You don't know what he is saying is true, not until you develped a relationship with this person in person. He could be 68, 50, 46, you have no idea who this person is. If you decided to meet with him, please bring someone with you as security. Sometimes people say they love you without knowing what the word really means and sometimes people say it because they have a hidden agenda , love is a choice and it deserves respect like you do. I would be careful and cautious.......protect yourself ...

slo1970

I wouldn't believe it 100% until we met and dated. You never know who you're really talking to and I've seen too many shows where people try to get money from other people by telling them they love them and want to marry them. I wouldn't write him off but I'd want to meet him and really get to know him.
Good luck.

jfeoiweihioh e

dude thats scary. Don't talk to him and a lesbo is a lesbian or a woman that is sexually attracted to other women.

eeeeee

yo watch out there be a lot of lesbians!!! wach out and protect ur self!!!

ninety9

well from my personal experience, i too fell in love with a girl on the net that said she loved me and only me and i loved her dearly just as much, if not more, then we got engaged because i proved to her how much i loved her, then she ...well lets just say i wasnt the first one that she has said she loved and cared about on the net, plus other problems that i dont want to get into, now we r seperated...so my advice is take extreme precaution and ask the right questions cause how sure r u that he hasnt said the same speech to someone else? good luck

Moonrise

dont fall into the trap of online attraction.
this often happens in countries where girls do not meet boys or even speak to them.
the guy will tell you lies and you will never be able to check on what he says .
keep away from such webs and always be in the open in any relationship.

samy n

you can not feel in love with any one by only net or telephone,it is only admiration or may be introduction for love not love it self,,,love needs to see each other in reality face to face thir is anothergreat thing called eyes language which lead to tru love,,,,to feel love must be by your eyes, ears,tastesspeaking face to face......so net only for friendship tell meeting each other

*vegas*vintage*

this is desperation on his part...not that it has anything thing to do with you at all, except that you are falling for it!
you said it yourself, how can he love you? He dont even know you! If i were you I would focus on a person that you could actually spend some time with!
For all you know this guy could be sitting in jail with internet access or something crazy like that!....lol....idk, I would move on if I were you and stop wasting time on someone you may never get to really know or who lives in a different country all together? I dont know how much you know about this peron or if you use a web cam but still.....forget about it!

alan

like what you've said before? proposing on-line? be careful, its not love. dont believe it. maybe he knows you only that he cant talk to you in person. dont just believe when somebody says he loves you.

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Is he a fellow countrymen or a foreigner?

If he's a foreigner and by all means if he loves you, then he should come over your place. Sincerity of word and feelings first before you trust him fully. Of course, getting to know each other is a must.

If he's a fellow countrymen, then it's easier for you to judge his sincerity.

Harmony

lesbo means lesbian...
we'll falling in love...is a complicated thing, yet it is not bad to take risks...because you'll never know what's God's plan for your life...so just be yourself and expect the unexpected...after all it's up to us to face the consequences of things that used to happen in our daily lives, as long as you're happy, you learn something from it and you've got a lot of love to give...you go girl! Just listen to your heart...it has the best answer hibernating inside it. "There's no fear in love."

Ray H

If a guy tells you over the internet that he loves you, beware !!! There are many stalkers and freaks who use the internet to gain peoples trust.

A lesbo is another way of saying lesbian, tom-boy, t-bird.

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