How do I prevent Marriage from taking away more and more of my friends?

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Smutty

As I always say, prevention is better than treatment!

Make sure they don't meet any girls whatsoever.

When you're with them, always focus on your pet fish. Encourage them to get fish aquariums themselves to keep them busy and their minds off marriage. Tell them about your relationship with the fish and how you feel intimate with them... Focus on the advantages of fish over girls (easily replaceable, they come with a manual, they need less food etc...)

Research articles on how to make teens avoid drugs and apply the same techniques on your friends....

Hope I helped.

Aussie

Ismaely , I'm going to try to be gentle with you mate but I will apologise in case this comes as a bit of a shock !

You are getting old ! You aren't a teenager any more & neither are your friends! They are now living married lives & guess what ? Their wives come first ! That's the natural order of things so my advice is move on & find new friends or get a wife of your own & join the club !

Trust Jeddo mate , it's not all bad ! lol

ABANDONED

lol, yea i know what a tragedy! the other (at least for my friends) is when they get a new boyfriend
oh my god
thats all they want to talk about and if they arent talking about him they are with him.
its pathetic
example:

me -"hey! isabell i havent seen you in awhile..wats up?"

her - "oh my god nothing but you know tomorrow is me and jeremy's 2 month anniversar and i have no idea what to get him like i think he likes guitars but i dont think i can afford one i wonder what he will get me but that doesnt matter as long as he remembers he is so forgetful like i tell him osmehting goes in one ear and out the other like one time.....hey tuty...are you asleep??? oh wait, its jeremy calling i got to go bye!!!!!

justagrandma

Life moves on, people want different things as they get older and wiser. The party life get empty for most of us after a few years. Some of us never get out of it, we will be the last ones partying long after the others have grandchildren. When you look around and start seeing fewer and fewer of your friends, you might want to ask yourself if you really want to be alone or trying to fit in with people so much younger than you will be chronologically, but not emotionally. No one stays the life of the party forever, the party moves on and you don't.
That's pretty sad, not a tragedy, but pretty sad.

â™¥GBâ™¥

You can't!

You will always have memories together and remember what fun you used to have but people want to carry on life and move on, they want to built their own family too, so this thing my friend is really hard to stop, and sometimes by stopping it your hurting a friend, your not helping.

G Bone.

fatma

hey beautiful

the thing that scars me the most in your question was not that thegroup is leaving one by one or that you guys are a unhappy group but the word "marriage "
AHHHH AHHHHHHH AHHHHH !!!!!!!!
plz dont say that to me !!!! or in front of me !!!!

seriously get married yourself before you are the last one there!! and hang out with the rest as kate said !!

Kate

lol...get married yourself and you will hang out with your married friends.

'N'

u can't!

Kalooka

that's my friend called life.

MontrealHomegrown

Well, for one thing you need to make sure that it is not one of those relationships where your wife follows you like a shadow. There is nothing more anoying than wanting to go chill with the guys and one of them brings the wifey along when its supposed to be guys night out. I think when guys get together for guys night out wives should get friends together and do the same.

If you want to keep your friends make time for them at least a couple times a week and go somewhere together to have fun and chill. If your wife wants to join in on the fun, make sure its good for everyone.. example dont bring her to hang out on poker night lol. Go to the beach ect ect..

Another possibility for loosing some friends is that they dont like your wife so they stopped coming around, or maybe you guys just grew apart. Its not a friends place to tell you he dosnt like yer wife, so maybe they just stopped coming around. You could try asking your current friends what they think of her. Keep in mind asking that question could make things awkward between you and your boys..

Maybe Im off base..

Hope it helps tho,

Peace

Karrose

It isn't marriage that takes away friends. It's you, or your friend. Friendships change as people's life and circumstances change. If a friendship is important both people have to work to keep it. Like any relationship, neglect and ignore it long enough and it goes away.

wizard

You can.t,life goes on,your friend have there family's to live for

arlisacollington

By including your wife to joint you and your friends sometimes.When it look like you having more fun with your friend then your mate then its a problem.Bring the two together.ITS rewarding

jafnads

Find a sport you all can play invite their spouses and really suport eachother & really put yourself out there & make an effort to get to know thesenew additions to your circle of friends & maybe they can hook you up with one of their freinds...the best marriages start by being friends.

Tommy ( I'M BACK )

So simple...marry one of your friends..so your friends will be her friends...

Sharon M

I know what you mean. Although I think you're saying that you haven't gotten married and they have, you still miss them. I really lost one of my best friends when I got married and had a baby. We just didn't have anything in common anymore.

It would be great if instead of taking people away, marriage just added to your group. But the thing is, single people spend a lot of time doing things that married people don't need to be doing, like flirting in bars, trying for hookups, etc. If you really don't want to lose anymore friends to marriage, you guys need to figure out activities you can engage in that include the spouses and don't put new relationships at risk.

Janice

If you can't beat them, join them. You need to get married too.

hasafer

tell me about it , both my friends boys and girls are gone to that enemy , wish I could save them but they like it , so here's us you and me [ we elly yetgawez el awel yeb3a ...... ]

loooool @ tuty

Shon

Is it becuase of your wife? Is it because of your friends? Are these friends of yours married or are most of them still single? Think about it.

valda54

its called growing up. idiot, kids come along, they are your priority, not friends, god your wife should divorce you for being so shallow, you make new friends as you grow older, live today , not in your youth, grow up

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