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Hope

Hello Farah,

What a tough dilemma you r facing......

You would think i would be the worst person to give u a good answer since i am without doubt the biggest people pleaser ever. But i have faced this problem before with work and i can only tell u my experience....

Honey people live their lives according to what suits them and makes them happy, that means its a choice made by u and only u, others we love can offer us valued opinions and have the right to feel sad or even let down by us, but they have no right to live our lives and make our choices.

You have to really consider all aspects of yr problem, listen to yr heart and yr mind and consider all other solutions before taking any step in yr career. If u do that, honestly no matter what the outcome is u will never regret taking a decision, but rather u will accept whatever happens and be happy with it.

Finally Allah (SWT) is always there for us, pray estekhara and u will be guided to what is right for u.

Aussie

Farah, if we continually try to please others , particularly family , in the end we will please nobody , especially ourselves !
Sometimes you need to follow your heart ....you will find that when those dear to you see that it has made a difference to you as a person & that you are more contented & fulfilled , be assured if they love you they will accept it.
Good luck.....

Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer

I do it all the time, as a father, husband, son, brother. I have to do it, it is called responsibility.

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GeBaRa...Promesas Sobre La Arena

well for me it needs a lot of thinking

Wise Heart

It's not clear. If you mean husband, sons or parents that's normal to take them in consideration any way.

If you mean colleagues, they are part of the equation of the work place. I mean you consider everything in a work place (income, location, interest, colleagues .. etc.) if the whole thing makes you satisfied or agree, it means it's right to stay there. If not you can keep the social contact with colleagues by any way.

precious

No... You shouldn't either.... You happiness should mean more to you than that....

Ranoush(ppl thumbed me down:p)

i can tell you without thinking that i will go really far...but i want to think about it then...what i am compromising?for who?
it varies from husband and kids to other family members...
all i can say...as far as it comes to my kids...there's no second thought....even it will hurt me for the rest of my life....it's better than it cost their happiness.....

Balsam

You can not stay active in a career with all its obligations when you wish to leave it. You spent such a long time at work leaving your house, husband and kids to fulfill your duties. How can you do that if your happiness is to leave it. You will not be able to make everybody else around you happy if you are not happy.

Cutie Toty (Hakuna Matata)

very very far

hasafer

tell them about ur reasons , then pray este7'ara , and see what you get , good luck any way
[ but what do you want to be ? ]

Cindy

Not far at all, since I need to be happy too.

My happiness matters to me as much as the people that I'm with, if I'm not happy it will start to show in who and how I am as a person. While compromise is good to a point, not being happy at all isn't an option for me.

When you deny your self the happiness that your entitled just to please others you short change your self. Eventually you would become a person that wouldn't be much fun to be around at all. So, self denial is only good to a certain point.

Best wishes!

guazzetto25

not too far

Ocean

if there that important..i would do anything

Pancake

It would really depend on what was expected of me to give up, and why. The WHY is the important question. Think over all the reasons to do something, and all the reasons not to do something. Then follow your heart

Sherann

it would depend on the situation, and the situation of the one I loved, I would do it unconditionally in certain circumstances. I suppose I would let all my happiness go if it was a do or die circumstance. However; if it was not, I would not go too far. all depends

â™¥ Ywanica â™¥

um...like why do u care?

Black Sins

as far as they would if they were were me

PiNkY

A good marriage consists of daily compromises, but I never feel it's at the cost of my own happiness. My happiness comes when my hubby and son are happy!

Last Pharaoh

hard question

lexis

I would do anything for my family and closet Friends as long as it does not in vole breaking the law in any way. If my partner said we had to move any were then i would move.

beatle1909

for love? No limits.

victoria_rebel

I will compromise just as far as my action will affect just two of us...because if my action will have bad consequences in other people lifes - I won't compromise!

iman(mooney )is brincizza

hmm.. well i would go far to like give up my money,all my pasestions... every thing jus about EXCEPT.. dieing,and going to jail .. i wouldnt wanna go to jail for the one i love srry because i can be impatient alott.. an i wouldnt wanna wait for like YEARRRRSSSS.. to see the one i love again.... but the jail thing as i think about it maybee.. but def. not die for them.. i mean like i wont say " hey DONT kill me kill the one i love;him;her; whom ever.."

dayna

at any lenght it takes to protect those that i love.

but i won't sell my soul for a hamburger. they can suffer there.

justonpc

this is 1 step to far , i would search for a good sollution ., but not let the one i love fall down.

MEÂ®

To a degree of sharing my pita bread lol!

relator hallas

if it would accomplish there happiness then i think i would be happy for them then.

telluwat

I would sacrifice only if I believed it was worth it.

my life is important to me, so it would really mean something if I were to sacrifice myself for anyone else.

aswkingfish

Love does many things and compromise it one of them. I hate the opera, but go for someone special. Naturally she does things for me, like attends sporting events. It goes both ways. I my wife or Family members wanted me to do something You have to wiegh the pro's and Con's and make your choice on each individual event. Would I risk my entire 401k to invest in a stock my wife heard about on the Howard Stern show. I don't think so, but I would investigate the stock and if it was something she really wanted we would find a point to invest that would be comfortable.

Nony

Just for mam, but regarding to your career I think you should discuss this subject with ppl you care about as I think they care to be successful before anything.

dragons mate

really really far u cant amgine ill go miles not caring if i die.

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