I'm 26 yrs old n have egyptian man chatfriend (23 yrs.old).we chat everyday for 5 hrs.Is his love for me true?

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Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer

well, How on earth would we know if he truely loves you or not?

Face the reality, you are attached to him and you want someone to tell you Go Ahead. But we will not do that.

You can hardly judge a man (or woman) if you meet him face to face several times or even at work, how could you judge someone by only seeing his electronic messages, and pictures ?I am not saying he is good or bad, but we the risk is too high.

the other thing. Marriage in our culture is different than yours. A man is responsible for supporting his family 100%, but in many cases man and woman work together maybe 50/50 to achieve financial stability. Not in your case I guess.

sorry, but this doesn't sound right to me.

I think your friend is young and excited about your "Friendship" but believe me marriage is a different story.

take care of yourself, because no one else will.

â?¥*â?¥*minituktuk*â?¥*â?¥

not really , seeing is believing , he is still being with u online and nothing more , let' see what he will do , besides , you should find out more about that man in his real life than just waiting

Psycho

He's Either after your citizenship or After Love, but he's surely not interested in Yourself...

Mintee

ask yourself why couldnt he find a girl close to home? (not that you are wrong or anything) but I would question why a guy has to find a long distance girl rather than one of the millions close by. Sounds like he might be wanting a greencard ticket outta there, especially when he mentioned that stuff was expensive.. its not that expensive if you are employed and have a decent wage.. Sure there are people struggling ie: lower class, middle class and upper class incomes. but sounds like this guy doesnt have much to offer but his emotions.. If I were you, Id not take him very serious, and look for a "real" deal close to you.. If he wants you bad enough, he will work towards getting to you, not you coming there.. He can get a good job, get a visitors visa and come meet you.. Not you going to him.. Never, NEVER go to the guy, you might find yourself in some situation you never dreamed of.. His personality might not be what you thought.. You need to be on safe ground..

Caboria

At the moment you like each other, but you do not know each other well enough. It can be a good start, but not enough. Try to know each other well . It may work.

No one important

I think you've got to watch out. If he proposed to you in the first month, you've only known him 3 months, and he's talked about not having enough money to visit, that's the classic formula for a scam. Con artists do this to people every day. I saw a TV show recently where a con artist had scammed 75 women out of a total of 5 million dollars within a space of 3 years.

I think you DEFINITELY need to wait longer than just three months before you commit yourself to someone for a lifetime.

Melissa S

Well it's completely normal to be skeptical. Honestly though being in love with someone you have never met could be scary. But you need to trust your instincts first and foremost. Only you know yourself. It seems like there is a lot of thinking to be done on your part.

You have to ask yourself though is he just playing you because there is a slim chance that he will ever have to follow through with his words.

Donna

Sorry darling but if you are 26 you are very naive to think that someone you have never ever met could propose such things & mean them!
I was naive myself, though not in the same way, met&fell in love with an egyptian man, only to find out after we had been married for 6months that he had been engaged all the time to someone else & the money & presents he took from me funded their wedding. He worked & made excuses that his fathr needed an op or his young brother needed glasses, or his sister needed dental treatment - there was always a reason for hin to send his money to his family-i didn't come into the equasion!
I am not saying they are all the same but come on, who in their right mind meets someone on the internet, falls in love after a few weeks etc. etc.!
He says he has no money, no he is living in hopes that you do!Lets face it if he can spend 5hours a day on the internet whooing you so he is not working&that cost money, he won't get it for free-who is paying for that?

Some are good at saying the right thing at the right time to those who want to believe them& obviously you are spending the same amount of time on the net so you are as much at fault as he is.
If he is serious about you tell him to get a job, save up half the fare, send it to you before you even consider stepping on a plane to come here. That way at least you can be part way sure that he is genuine, though i would not consider meeting someone in this way!
Wish you good luck as i think you will need all you can get!

gamal_solimann

never to trust egyptians ,,expert liars,,by the way iam egyptian

Crazy girl

He could be genuine but you will only know if you go and visit him and feel what it is like when you are with him.

I met an Egyptian man when I was on holiday we connected and we shared numbers and yahoo addresses to chat on the internet. When I arrived back home he text me a lot and I replied we chatted on the net and used web cams my mum spoke to him on the net I visited him with my mum 4 months after we met in these months he never told me he loved me or that he wants to marry me I then since have returned twice on my own where he told me he loved me to my face (this is after 9 months) we take it slow get to know each other and I’m going back to see him in 2 weeks and I’m going to meet his family and it will be 1 year together in October.

what I’m trying to say you don't know if you don't try and if you don't try you may regret in the future. Take it slow get to know each other properly when you are together only you know how it is between you not us. all I can say I’m glad that I went back and got to know mine better as we are both in love and taking it slow and are both happy.

Keeping photos on his phone and doing the sweet things he is saying and doing is really sweet and is nice and if it feels genuine then accept it if not be curious. Asking you to marry him after 1 month is very quick specially if you have never met in person.

Go with it enjoy it and if it don't feel right in the future then at least you can say you tried. Good luck

Aya88

Never come to him! He should come to you. I don’t know him to judge him.. May be he likes you a lot.. But, we can’t consider it love as you’ve never seen each other face to face, right? If he’s finacially incapable of coming to you, for the time being, then he has to work hard to get to you...
According to our culuture, the only acceptable end for love is marriage.. If he says he wants to hug and kiss you before marriage... It doesn’t sound so comforting to me... Though, I like that he let his sister chat with you.. And telling his family about you is something to be in his side...
All I can tell you is to wait for other 3 months at least.. And see what he’ll do.. If he shows a real intention in coming to you, then you can complete in the relationship.. Time will reveal anything...

Wishing you the best of luck :)

P.S: To Gamal_Soliman: Egyptian men are not expert liars. My dad wasn’t, my 2 brothers aren’t, and all my uncles aren’t, are you?!

Elizabeth P

Dont go for that. He is over there. So you really dont know what is real and what is fake. I learned from when I was 15 not to be chatting with people over there, because I told this one person I didnt like him, and forgot I gave my number out, and he started to harrass me, and it was annoying, so never again for me.

But what do you feel is what matters. Have you actually chatted with him on the phone, have you guys exchanged letters. How would your family feel on the situation if you were to leave, and go over there. Would he ever consider coming him.

Wise Heart

I can't tell if he loves you or not but I can tell that he is serious to marry you.

Good luck

shery m

oh sweetie , no no , if i were u , i'd freak out, and since i'm egyptian , i can tell u and i'm pretty sure , he's not in love with u , i just want u to ask urself one question , can u be in love with someone u never met before , i mean in person ofcourse , internet hides alot honey , he could be a freak , which he probably is, if u say he talks to u 5 hrs a day , then he certainly has no life , no woman accepted him , and he has relationship or self esteem issues , try to walk out before u're too deep in.

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Ruby

dude! we didn't need to know all that. hugs n kisses n pics n all, keep it to urself!!!!
90% he is after ur citizenship.....

gamal soliman- so ur an expert liar??!!

Sweet Jane

You just be really careful and think with your head and not your heart girl. Even the fact that you have felt the need to ask for opinions on what to do on this site should start the alarm bells ringing in your ears.
Listen to them and also to the advise that you will get from those who answer your question.
For they are all going to say basically the same thing, BE VERY VERY CAREFUL.
I am not sure at all what you mean by a "fiancees visa".
It is awful to have to say this but many of the Egyptian guys are soooo good at saying just the right things at the right time and making you feel like a princess.
It is part of their natural charm but it can be taken too seriously by many western girls.
He admits he has no money. So how is he going to support you.Family always comes first in Egypt and I would bet anything that the pictures will be the closest you ever get to his family.
It awful I know, but is not uncommon for girls to come over here to get married on a contract that is in fact a short term agreement. It will allow him just enough time to get money of you if he can.
Before you pay any money for the trip get him to send you the share he was going to pay.
The photos he shows you and all that stuff really don't mean anything.
Ask if his Mum is home when you are chatting on the phone you can just say Hi to his Mum and see what his reaction is.
Every Egyptian guy has a mobile so you have his number.
It could be any friend that is pretending to be his sister.
The likelihood that all he says is true and that he will be able to support you in anyway is a bit much to hope for.
How will you survive there?
You won't be able to find work. My cousins in Egypt say that work is really hard to get and the wages are really bad even if you have a Uni degree.
I hate being a devils advocate but it is best that you know the reality. This is becoming almost a number 2 pastime after soccer, for many Egyptian guys who have financial responsibilities and worries.,
I know its wrong and not acceptable but with the economic situation that exists there.
Can you really can't blame them in some ways for taking a chance and having a bit of fun at the same time..

Kassandra

Again, I'm on the bottom and they have posted all the things I want to say. :-(

Left

He doesn't seem to be willing to spend money on you. I'm not saying he should be spending lots and lots of money. But if he's not willing to take you to dinner, spend some money that is needed to go on a date, then he probably is not very interested in you or really cares about you. He says he loves you, misses you and wants to be with you. But I've met lots of middle eastern guys who say that. How well does he know you? Do you know he is going to be patient and gentle with you? Does he take responsibility for his actions?, does he care about others?, is he self-centered? I don't think you know enough about him yet or him about you. I don't think he loves you. He might be infatuated with you but he hasn't shown to be willing to care for you, take responsibilities and willingness to provide for you as his wife. He might be interested in your money and VISA. I don't think it is a good idea to marry him, but if you decide to marry him, keep some money in your American account (and don't make it a joint account with him).

glamorous B

OMG! no girl!! trust me, out of experience I can tell u NEVER trust a guy online....they all say the wanna marry u, its the latest trend to get a girl...they know we r suckers 4 love and they use it wisely! so never make a decision like that before u actually meet him in person...afterall a lot of guys lie abt everything they say...i shudnt judge him, but be cautious u never know what he's all about!

xXblacknwhiteXx

All Egyptian guys do that for other girls when chatting , it's normal , but it isn't love , believe me !

Sarah B

i dont know him very good so he may be a good man but i think he needs you cause of nationality no more than that, put him in test to be sure.

Giggle Bear

lol

LessThanFour

OMFG LOL

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