I have a friend of mine, i like her a lot BUT!!?

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Corleone...

She is stupid, that friend of urs for not being aware that he is a big liar first of all.....u said she is like a sis to u???? well, if she were, she would have listened to u, and wondered a bit about the reasons behind ur interference....it seems she is in love and she is so blind to see the negative side....let her enjoy those moments, but once she will discover his truth, she will regret a lot....
as for what u can do, tell her flatmates who complain about his continuous and never ending visits to ask her to put an end to this, a place where 3 girls are living should have more privacy i suppose, but anyways, even if he will stop from visiting her, it wont matter a lot as long as they are seeing each other and going out,
you have to point out to specific issues to convince her that he is a liar and she should start looking for someone else.....and let her know, that the person who buys u stuff and takes u out is not necessary a good partner, because if he were, he wouldnt had recourse to material stuff to gain her love......i dont know if this will help u.... :)

Kate

Hi Life...I like your new avatar....HOT

anyway...I agree with Webby all the way, there's nothing you can do...let her learn from her own mistakes.

webby

Mrs president, as your chief assistant my duty is to inform that they are all right. Butt out.

My daughter, ( somehow this sounds so much better in arabic.lol) life has taught me that there is nothing you can do about the situation. As you don't mention a gun pointed to your friend's head we have to assume that she is with him by complete choice and at 26 she is no baby either.
Also from what you say it sounds to me that she is using him as much as he is using her.
so here is your job description as a good friend:
1- Be happy for her: she is happy.
2- respect her choices: and support her even if you don't agree because you will want her to do the same with you
3- be loyal: stick around because if he is bad news she will want a friend when her world crumbles around her.

Ashu

i was in the same situation & i did all my best to warning her but she never listen - i wasnt married or have a boy friend that is why? her x told her that am jeulous from them... i was like a crazy becuse she was a very good girl from a very good family but she never liestn... now she is a loser and she is always remember my words... i think this her destany that is way after a while i stoped warnig her she was as like as a blind she couldnt listen or see any one exept him...

so my advice to you if you like her as a sis , you already warned her ... enugh.
in the same time your husband is right,becuse she will never listen

ØÙ„Ø§ÙŽÙ…Ø¨Ø±Ø§ hallambra

I understand your point of view, but in spite of you like her lots, you must allow her to live her own life. You have already made your part, you avoided her....and she decided not to listen at you. So.your duty as friend is done. She decided to make her own mistakes, and that is life about. you cant live her life for her. She is already 26. Your husband is right..
The only you can do now, is to tell her about the feelings of her house mates. She has to respect them or to move. She is doing bad taking the guy with her in a place that is not only for her. tell her that the other girls feel bad about that......and have the right to feel like that.
She can do what she want...........but outside that place.

JOHN D

Your husband is right! She is having a good time with him and he is having a good time with her,if it isnt meant to be it will end eventually.

joey k

Your HUSband! You have a husband, and you are this involved in someone else's life? BUTT OUT!

Just moi

Well your husband is right, it's nobody's business, and she'll do what she wants... If he's not the right guy, she'll have to learn the hard way like everybody else. Let her be.

Kalooka

Your husband is probably right.
as long as you ve warned her, then let her learn the hard way that actions has consequences.

Muse

I really understand how you feel...
I actually went through the same thing, and at a gathering, he was flirting with everyone, he even tried to kiss me. After a while, he brought his friends over, and by the end of the night, 1 IPOD + 1 CAMERA + 1 PHONE WERE MISSING! Oh! Can you imagine the drama that followed!!!
Except, i did a big mistake, i stopped talking to her...
Listen, really, if you want to be a "good friend", you should stick by her side... She will really be thankful.
In another question, you asked what is our motto in life. To tell you the truth, my motto is that there is justice in this world... If he is a big liar, a manipulator, a creep, a freak, all this will be revealed... It's kind of a personal belief, but i really believe in it. It's like men who cheat on their wives. Whether it be after a week, two years, five years after, the wives always seem to find out, don't they?
Don't worry :) she will realise what an a** he is. All you have to do is stay by her side, and support her, i swear you will feel so much better when this is all over... Just don't say "i told you so"!!!!! lol :D
Yalla, take care.

Milo F

You still need to BUTT OUT !!!!

Smutty

I learned that whenever you try to convince a friend that s/he is screwing up s/he will only end up hating you.

What I like most is the part where they say "Yes, but I'm enjoying this right now at least as much as s/he is enjoying it". OR "I will end this relation when the time comes". or "It's very hard to quit right now cause s/he makes me feel really good".

As webby said, just stick around her cause she will need a friend next to her soon.

violet

I was once with my best friend at the beach and my brother arrived with a friend.
" so I told her " oh no, here comes this guy he is so full of himself, I hate him"
anyway, they are now married and our friendship has gone back a lot.
so ask yourself if you are willing to lose her over a man?

agua dulce

Your hubby is right, of course.........no ifs or buts about it - let it go!

IamGodofAll

She likes the a**holes. She is already banging this loser and she's not going to stop for you. Some girls are just into losers. When that is the case, nothing you can do will change it. So, you need to get out now while you still can.

Firstâ™¥

I think your complaining should be showed her by cuting your communication .but before you cut that tell her about your reasons, and then leave her alone she will understand her situation soon.
she is more sure when you are near her, when you empty your being beside her she will find her situation more clear than past.

Pinky

Love is blind as far as the eye can see!!

All i can say is that,if she decides to stay with him,
she will all see it at the end!

Reasonable

U have to be ownest together U need to sit with here and talk about it what do U really want from him and what do he really wants from U if she knows that the relation is about gifts from him and having fun from here then both of them know what they really wants and it's better for u to stay out of it but if she had no idea about it then U have to get Involve but the Huge sign is that she is 26 so 100% she knows what is all about & since both are happy stay out of it every one is getting what he or she are looking for

G Bone

Mybe the guy was giving out lies just to impress her and she is probably using him because he keeps on buying her stuff, but I understand that you care about her and the guy is bad news, another thing she is 26 so she is not young and she is completely mature by now, so I think you should leave them alone handle their own business BUT keep looking after her and in case something (God Forbid) wrong goes be there for her and try to wake-her up by telling her that he is no good for her and she deserves a better guy.

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