If someone loses your trust, can you give it back again?

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Zephyr

If the person is able to admit their mistake on their own, and can admit their mistake without giving fancy justifications, and can apologize on their own.... then I might consider trusting them again.

To me, the ability to admit a mistake and apologize - without ritual or justifications - is one of the key steps to showing true remorse over something. Unfortunately, especially with males, admitting mistakes and apologizing is extremely difficult.

Admission of error and apology should come quickly, and should come without excuses. Don't forget that some people like to sound like they are sorry, when they are really not. Men are great at playing this game. Instead of "I am so sorry for what I did to you" they might say "I am sorry for what I did but you have to understand why I was angry" or "I apologized to you, what more do you want?" or "I am sorry but you also should apologize for what you did to me!", etc. This is all game playing.... tricky and discreet ways for the person to claim they are sorry, yet still trying to push the blame off themselves.

You also shouldn't have to debate the issue with the person. Meaning... the person will attempt to try and deny blame until they are forced to apologize. Also, if the person is really keen on gaining your trust again, it would also be nice that they come up with ways (on their own) to regain your trust. If not, it might just be an empty apology.

If you are in Egypt... well I have something to say about my years living in Cairo.... In all my years there, I have never met a male who was able to admit their mistakes and immediately apologize. Usually it's a whole fancy ritual of denial, blame, and even resorting to anger and revenge. I'm not saying all guys are like that, but it was just an observation based on people I met during my timeframe there. I also noticed that females were more quick to admit error and apologize immediately without doing a denial dance.

If the person hurts your feelings more than once... back away immediately and don't ever let them have the power to hurt or control you.

art1ej

Depends on how long i've known the person,i always take time to look back on the friendship and decide if i should give them another chance if more downs then up's i'll just move on. trust and honesty are to big factors in all my friendships and i dont take them lightly

The Ministry of Common Sense

If someone loses my trust they never get it back! The end.

Thanks Allah , I`ve Never Failed Someone Or Lost Someone`s Trust , But If That Happened , I`m Not Sure I could Get It Back.

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softkisses4707

Trust is earned. Once someone loses trust in another, it takes time and patience to work back to the starting point.
It can be done... but it's never easy.

Eman G (Maganeno again)

That person will NEVER earn my trust once more. I may deal with him normally but with more care.

7ala is fluffy ?

I'd like to think i'd give my trust back, but so far when its been lost i've found it hard to do so. Its just not the same.

PoLaRis

It will be hard, and if i ever going to trust him/her again it will be always guarded by caution from my side.

Anwesh

Trust is the base of any relationship, whether it is love, friendship or anything.. To be betrayed or for someone to do something that causes disruptions in ur relationship, like losing trust and other stuff is extremely painful..
But here is what u can do..
Try and find out what is the reason behind such an act, as no person would want to break the trust of another intentionally.
If possible, talk to the other person and sort out the difference..
It is nearly impossible to start trusting the person again, but that doesnt mean that the line of communication should also be snapped. What can be done is, the line of communication should be retained, but the other person should be told that the trust factor will not come back so easily..
Give the relationship time, and if everything goes well, then the trust factor again comes back..
Time is really important in all such stuff, as time is a universal healer, and it heals everything... So, just let time pass, and things will work out again.

hasafer

nothing , I trust people till I lose them , I don't care after that

Leonarda

if he loses my trust....he ll not gain it back...you cant put glue on a broken glass...it will break again.bettewr to replace it with a new one

suga Hunii

you can never completely earn back somebody's trust
i would never trust somebody who has done something terrible to me or my family ever
they just dont deserve a second chance

indian

surely, sometime we cannot trust somebody according to the circumstances, may be we can give it back again after realization, at some time in the future,

Chaz B

To be perfectly honest with you. That person can trust you again but only to a certain point. What I mean is, their is nothing like that first to trust because that person has never experienced any physical or emotional pain from you. But after the problem, he/she can trust you again but it won't be as strong as before. They will always have there doubts. Insecurity can also lead to a very bad relationship. And that depends on if you can handle you friend being that way.

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i know its a hard thing to make by poeple
but
for me its easy to trust any one and by any apologize i can return someone's trust to me again after losing it ma frndz always tell me its a bad habit but i dun see it as they say i see it very useful to make frndz

april2270

For the most part, but not completely,it's always in the back of my mind.
I think it takes time to fix anything, just time..

* mandie *

nope, once its gone thats it, because you will never ever really trust them completely ever again

Gigi kalooka and adham s victim

dont know ask ppl

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