If you husband/wife is cheating on you, will you accept them back??

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Silky

"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same." Oscar Wilde

"Bi-andry (ie polyandry) is having one husband too many. Monogamy is the same". Silky

Marriage is such a failed institution. And boring too.

Edit: Ok so I guess nobody likes my postmodernist-foucauldian penchant... Sorry... But this is how I see it. I know it spoils all the romance... Just think I'm a loser nihilist :).

webby

It's a hard one. unless I am really faced with it, it's hard to guess how I will react.
My kids will play a big role in my decision and I know I would never leave them ( they wish!!)... but... why is this asked in travel?

Wisdom???

I can speak from experience. My 1st wife had bipolar disorder and did cheat- especially in her manic phase. I vowed, when I knew nothing and only thought theoretically about this topic, that if my wife ever cheated on me, out she would go- PERIOD!!! We married and all was well the first few years- and then she became ill 1-2 years into the marriage, and the time came when indeed she did have an affair or two- and I was deeply crushed.

The feeling in my heart was a palpable sensation of a tearing of flesh as I wept like never before. I saw her... I saw my children... I saw what beautiful marriage we gad created... I saw a marriage that at one time was strong, committed and loyal... and I saw that I had loved her with all of my heart... and in the end, I also looked at my views and philosophizing about dumping any woman if she ever cheated on me. I had stated without hesitation that a cheating woman would never be in my life, but that was all theory and posturing from naivety and inexperience ---- and in the final analysis, I couldn't leave for I loved her deeply and also knew that I had invested heavily in the marriage.

We eventually divorced- but this was due to her illness and not the affairs! I think what struck me was that I was clear that I'd never take someone back for cheating and here I was, inviting her back into my life.

In our case, the strength of the marriage was not the issue.

It's one thing to know truth and talk about our truth- it's another thing to walk it!

Me Myself and I

Well if they cheat they have a reason, so i think that i would forgive ONCE and thats all

ØÙ„Ø§ÙŽÙ…Ø¨Ø±Ø§ hallambra

Why is this asked in travel?????????
LOL !!!!!

Well, about your question......my reply is NO.....with capital letters !!! I'll not accept my husband back. Once you lost the trust in one person, you cant get it back. One cant live the rest of the life thinking that he is with another woman each time he leaves the house. I am not like that. and of course I'll not control him asking everytime where he is going to. So........for me the thing is simple. Each of us for our own side. My kids arent kids anymore, so....they wont be a barrier if something like that happens to me. That things for me are black or white.......never grey.
I believe in the self respect, and I shouldnt been respecting myself if i shall accept a cheater by my side. I have a high self steem..........so NO WAY !!!!!

Aussie

Ghanouge ...that is a very BIG "if " & one I would never wish to face ...

I will answer it this way .... if you have a strong marriage , love & respect one another , love your kids & family , WHY would either husband or wife have a need to cheat ?

In other words , cheating is a sign of a problem or problems within the marriage not the only problem itself .So it is soooo complex that a yes or no answer , in my case , can't be given , only a maybe .......if these other issues could be revealed & sorted as well .

Having said that , our marriage has lasted through good times & bad for over 35 years & I would not sacrifice that for a few minutes of lust & passion .....hmmmm.

Uncle Ben

Why did you ask this in the travel section?
I don't know if I would, or wouldn't. It's not an easy thing to know in advance, but it's easy to say hell no in advance.

fatma

hey beautiful
lol why is this asked in the travel section??? hahaha anyways my answer will be..... no !!! damn right i wont !!! lol cause if they cheat once they will do it again !!

eve

well my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend,it took me a years and a half to forgive him but there is this feeling insecurity that i have,but if he was my husband and we were really committed i will never forgive him for cheating after he made such a commitment

Kate

I dunno...it's a hard one...at first I might not take them back but if I think about it I could...I really dunno...but I have heard from a close friend who cheated and thought he loved the woman he cheated with that it was all not worth losing his wife...but you know what they say once a cheater always cheater

snapdragon747

I'd send flowers to say thank-you, and where would you like me to send my wife's clothes to?

Zain

No and never.

eks_spurt

I heard my wife once saying to another woman, "Oh, he can look all he wants. As long as he takes his meals at home." Well the look on her face was classic, when I interjected with, "Really, what about snacks?" Where she promptly gave me, 'the look' and said, "definitely, No Snacks!" She knows, like I do, that we give and receive everything through loyalty and trust. A cheater does not have an excuse, in our house.

Pinky

Fashret 3aynou!!

Woolies

I don't think I would. Marriage was created for a reason you know.

Ali

mmm no

Yes. I think if s/he promises not to cheat on you again then you can show them a unconditional kind of love and forgiveness.

But if s/he continues to cheat on you and refuses to stop endlessly, then you should probably separate or divorce (but only as last resort) if s/he will not turn around and be faithful.

ghadoud2004

no way

papars

I cheated on my wife...and she accepted me back, happily. We have a son.

But what reunited us was the faith we both retained in our marriage and as a family, in those turbulent times. Humans are prone to temptations.

Remember, Bill Clinton too cheated on his wife...

Reasonable

One Answer for such a Q it's

No Way

â™« Chloe â™«

hhmmmm.... NEVER..... I'm not the kind who give second chances.... & I agree with Aussie... if the marriage is strong.. there's no cheating & no problems... I'd rather hurt sooooo bad than to have him after being with someone else.... even if the pain lasted for years... (had my heart broken, it's still is, but I know I'm better off without this type)

Eryn L

No way! even i accept them back i will feel insecure, curious, and all negative thinkings will come to my mind which are not good for relationship.

jojammum48

Maybe the travel industry is trying to find out if you are at risk of leaving home to another country and then not going home.

Rock

hay bro
me i think ''NO WAY'' no matter how much they say there sorry and won't do it again
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT
and theres no excuces for doing such a thing

reginaphilangie

F*ck no!

N.E.R.D

if u were cheating on me id gladly take u back
and speaking of backs is this ur back ? real nice... thumbs up

Anthony F

Ghanouge is around the bend, and now I know why.

G Bone

If it was the husband I will never let him back. But the wife is important because she will be the only woman who knows how to love and raise her kids.

tarek c

It depends if a woman cheats I won't take her back, if a man cheated then their is a chance he could be forgiven.

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