If your husband or wife has an affair what would you do?

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sweet - angel

well unathi, my husband had an affair last year with a co-worker. he broke it off before i found out about it and he told me about the affair 2 days after he broke it off. i was devastated but i gave him a second change. just because he broke it off and confessed to me.

the affair caused severe damage to our marriage, he could not live with the pain he had caused me and he become confused because he loved me he could not understand why he was so stupid as to have had an affair. our marriage was not the same anymore and i told him to pack up and leave. that broke me down completely because i truly loved him. i spoke to a divorce lawyer and we started with the paper work. my husband in the meantime realized what he had and he realize how strong his love for me was and still is. we decided to give our marriage another go. we made a promise that we will start afresh. what happened in the past should stay there. and i have to say we have never been so happy as now.

if however i found out about the affair wil it was still on going i would have kicked him out and never have taken him back.

Snorkie

Well....I would probably cry my eyes out in the beginning, my heart would be broken into pieces, but then I would plan my revenge.........and it would be terrible....... I would download child pornography on my would be ex's Pc, plant drugs in his car and cupboard, hit myself over the head a couple of times with a golf club (to say it is him) and then phone the SAP, I would take all his books everything to SARS, I would destroy all his bicycles, fishing rods and collections......as for her I would propably shoot her with my husbands fire arm, but her in his cars boot and dump her somewhere and then make sure some of her blood and DNA are found on his clothes.....that would get rid of a couple of problems.......I'm going to let my husband read my answer, hope that will scare the heeby jeebies into him........

Commodore

Gee! This question is a bit of a stumbling block for me, Unathi. I have never thought about this before.
I suppose that I will be very angry and heartbroken, to say the least. I,m not sure if we would be able to continue being married, as the affair would always be on my mind. I don't know if I would (or could) trust him again. I just cannot say for sure, but I pray to God, that I will never have to find out.

Ayiza

Divorce

Jade Moon

If he had one affair and I found out about it, I will be mad as hell, and then he's a gonna! I don't need problems at my age.

Dicko

Buy a bottle of champagne and share it with my girlfriend!

titobeau

Would depend on the specifics. I would seriously be tempted to divorce.

Sharon M

It depends on the specific situation. Generally I would talk it over with him and find out the reasons.....

christal

Kick him out of the house and take everything he's got...and sell it.

Emjay

Good question, in Italy up unto about 1929 a husband had the right to kill his wife and her lover if he caught them in the act, the Delitto d'Onore. The wife did not have this right however!!!!

I do not know, I think I would probably take my stuff and walk away, although the temptation to give someone a klap would be there too.

What the Lord has made may no man make asunder.

cast10jj36 x

leave her..shes not worth it..

Lulu V

I am not married but I would pack my bags, close the door (literally and figuratively) and leave, and start all over, how would i ever be able to trust the person again, and I think any relationship if you are married or not is based on trust.

Skyli

Take my kids, porn everything he has and leave!

black market dentistry

DIVORCE

The Blue bull

I will possibly not be able to forgive. It is so difficult to put yourself in that situation and I wish and pray it will never happen at all. If it ever happen, I will ask myself why and try to examine if I may be the cause of the affair. Having done that, and when I am 100% satisfied that the affair has nothing to do from what I do in her life, I may decide to divorse. How do you trust again and if it happened once, then the same can happen again.

Bull 8

Firstly I would hire a good divorce attorney to ensure I receive full custody of my son and then walk out.
Unfortunately the situation from a mans point of view is not as simple as for the women, just think, she cheats but will probably still be awarded custody of the children in a South African court, how fair is that?

Kris K

I would get a divorce, Once a cheat always a cheat...

JAMES H

When people get married, they take a vow. And part of this vow is "for better or worse".
So i will not divorce her if she cheated. As much as it will suck, I will honor the vow. So this is the "for worse" part. Yes i will be pissed. Yes our trust level will damaged. But i ain't going to throw our lives away because of an affair. I believe this is the reason why so many divorce in our time.

cheri

I imagine it will probably be the end of the line because one will never really trust him/her again

Jeez

Divorce seems to be the only option.

moondrop

THE TIME WHEN YOU FIND OUT YOU WANT TO DIVORCE .BUT THERE'S A LOT OF THINGS YOU MUST THINK ABOUT WHAT HAPPEN WITH THE KIDS

scott9292003

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. And if she has a problem with me having an affair after she has had one, then she can hit the bricks.

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