Mother- in- law?

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Reikominder

Ok emy , Its time for Reiko abo ras to answer ur question:

Look , 1st insha allah yetamemloko 3ala khear ,

there is something very important , I must tell u abt it , bcoz I know many people who get some problems bcoz of it ,

Sometimes , the man can't refuse a word to his mum , and so , he will take his mum side and be against ur side , tab3an insha allah da maye7salsh , but u must tell ahmed abt it , I mean the best thing for any married man is to balance between the 2 woman who will yenaghaso 3aleah 3eshto :P joking , no i mean to balance between his mum and his wife,

Also many mothers in law , especially if she has only one son like ur situation , many of them is very jealous from her son's wife , and always try to make problems to feel she is controlling :D , my grandma Allah yer7amaha :D was doing many problems to my mum just to tease her , and women have alot of ideas no one can though abt it :D

I dont want u to feel bad , no walahy , i just want u to take care , look , I think its better to:
1- try to make ur mother in law feel that u like her and support her and ahmed will always listen to her words ,

2- Try to say good words to her each time ahmed is there , I'm not telling u to lie or tenafky , but its mogamla , like saying , " walahy ya tant akl 7adretek yeganen , el molokheya haylaa " or " eah el sheyaka deah ya tant " :D

3- Tell ahmed that when married , Everything is only between u and him , and no one from both families can interfer ,

I know that my answer is too long , but hope it can help , and if u need any other help pls email me ya eman,

Wish u always walahy ya eman the best in ur life ,

Kalooka

mothers in law are never easy..you beware..

Its OK habity after years it will settle to natural diplomacy- its phases, you still got the ones to come about :

your cooking skills

your expectations, because of cause she will have expected less than you.....and how dare you flutter your eyes lash to her son.

your home making skills

how you look, dress and act skills

your mothering skills

your wife skills

your daughter in law skills

your extended family skills

your work/children/husband balance

but you know what in front of anyone else- you will be the daughter in law from heaven, a gift to her foot. (apart from to any sister in laws and her husband) be sure her husband will be crying in his life right now listening about the woman that will take her son...habibi ya alby, ya habibi "what did you eat today- that will come every time...ya habibi ya habibi..."

Smile nicely now my dear, you have the rest of your life of this...and we dont know how will we be when a woman wants to come and marry our son, you will know how you feel about your children when you have them, its good your asking about this now, saves any bad feelings and keeps you informed. All woman go through the mother in law issue and all men hear about it- poor men, they are stuck in the middle

Eman, im married to an only son too of a Saidi lady, ive even lived with mine- alone without my husband- i was living with her this time last year, its not easy and never will be but nothing good comes easy x

and Om Farah is a good person to talk to about these things x
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Enjoy this one

George went on a vacation to the Middle East with most of his family, including his mother-in-law. During their vacation, and while they were visiting Jerusalem, George's mother-in-law died. With the death certificate in hand, George went to the American Consulate Office to make arrangements to send the body back to the States for proper burial. The Consul, after hearing of the death of the mother-in-law, told George, "My friend, the sending of a body back to the States for burial is very, very expensive. It could cost as much as $5,000 dollars." The Consul continued, "In most of these cases, the person responsible for the remains normally decides to bury the body here. This would only cost $150 dollars". George thinks for some time, and answers the Consul, "I don't care how much it will cost to send the body back. That's what I want to do." The Consul, after hearing this says, "You must have loved your mother-in-law very much, considering the difference in price between $5,000 and $150 dollars." "No, it's not that," says George. "You see, I know of a case many, many years ago of a person that was buried here in Jerusalem, and on the third day he was resurrected. Consequently, I do not want to take that chance!"

Aussie

LOL @ Reiko's answer & he hasn't even got one ....a mother in law I mean ! lol

Well , Jeddo has one & not only that , I have HAD her for over 36 years of which she has lived WITH us for nearly 18 years ! In our country that is more than you would serve in jail for murder !

My survival technique has been to pretend she isn't there ...it works for me ! As far as my mother is concerned , she welcomed my wife , taught her how to cook Lebanese food ( as best she could ) , & accepted her as a daughter.It was before we married that she was just a little outspoken ...that was probably because I was the eldest , first to marry & had lived away from home for5 years by that stage .

My advice..smile , accept her advice , be non confrontational....life will be more pleasant & less stressful!

7oda is searching for pure heart

How r u Eman ?
how is your life ?
happy new hegra year
listen:-
talk to your Fiancee Ahmed about your feelings I think he is a good understanding for your situation as he seems to be a good guy
and smile to his mother a lot a be friendly with her and pass what will do or she had done before cuz maybe u not can see her so long u will be with your future husband indoors so just treat her friendly as if she annoyed u or not to respect u at end and will look often towards u
God bless u
7ooooooooooda

7ala is fluffy ?

I agree with Ranoush, she is very wise for one so young.
&&& remember, those mother in law looks mellow in time.

7atem

Yatara eddetek el bondo2ah tekassareeha besnanek 3ashan teshoof senanek gamda walla la2?

Ranoush(ppl thumbed me down:p)

look ya emo
mother in laws are the same everywhere..no matter how kind they are,they act the same but it varies from one to another...
as you said kman that Ahmad is the only boy,so that would make the things more difficult..

there's no prescription for this,all you can do is try to please her as possible till you get married,try not to object her point of view in direct,make her think that everything she wants will be done...sayseeha..

yes,it's pure jealousy,she feels that after she raised her son for like 30 years,some girl will come and take him away from her,and now he won't need her_his mum_to cook for him and iron his clothes..etc.
she feels that u r her substitute...and it's normal and isa u'll feel that when u are in her place....

so the point is not to let her feel that she has no opinion anymore,take her opinions in consideration like when u go buy sth,tell her :''that's a great idea,mum..we'll think about it''
just keep it that way and u'll eventually do what ever you like...

remember that she might be the reason for you to go to heaven after u parents and ur hubby..so no matter what she do,don't get angry or complain to ur hubby....be patient and eventually u'll be fine....
rabena yebareklk we yetamemlko b7'er :)

@Hala...thanks :)

THE-GREEN-VISITOR

Even if this is the case, you should sympathize with her and put her heart in ease by delivering her a non-spoken message that you both (you and your future husband isa ;-) ) will always be with her and you can't do without her (wallahy mane2dar nesta3'na 3annek ya mama :D). Also let her share you your decisions for your future home (keda w keda 7atta :D)

batkalem gad wallahy, garraby keda, wehat2oly Ashraf 2al :-)

Sahar

"My mother in law seems so funny and kind but sometimes i receive those looks from her that make me feel something bad towards her, i dunno what !!!"

never doubt yourself after all you are both females, the male is her child and the father of your children

they say old is gold and younger has to always listen to older, but there are limits, younger doesn't always mean wronger, it is a circle and if each stops <listening> to the other, everything crumbles even relationships between people and we move to higher level perspectives and that leads to wars because what we did is take the smallest shape of the cell and put it on the physical earth scale

youngers don't always know how to express themselves and that does not mean they have no other means of expression, language is various and they can be very sneaky in your eyes and in your eyes only because you believe that understanding better about the world is measured by your height

height could have been considered righter only in perspective to your vision at the time of your standing on earth when you believed earth is a one dimension
and that is why we are still being mass produced to finally get thrown into the oven, life does not work this way, we do not produce to die any longer, we are relaying only in the same kind, and the same kind keeps refuting other kinds, we are all the same thus we are all refuting one another we have become crowded and some believe the way out is by taking a rocket to another similar molecule in space not realizing that space has its own dimension too and earth is one of its molecules, you are altering again space as a whole and space as a whole shall not wait for you until you learn and adapt your knowledge better on another physical dimension it will explode and tell you ok, again...here it is from the beginning: nice try lets start all over

what a tiring game

do you know Eman that I have noticed something about myself, when I get tired, me Sahar, I tend to adopt Samson's attitude and bring the temple down and everybody, I get so angry I become blind, I see no one at all not even myself, not even my children, no one at all, but I do see my path
I try hard to learn from previous mistakes (acting like Samson) and try to have more patience, so when no one listens to me I speak to my beautiful dog, we converse, he is awesome, all creatures "speak", you can find something else to distract you, read, play, go out, whatever appeases your anger, do it, but try to remember history's lessons, the first I think was:

do not kill, terrorism is killing, period.

Sorry Eman if I am confusing you, I am speaking on different levels here inside many dimensions, to all people.

"noise"

I am getting it from my blog, just a lapse of time, i will cut and paste

"noise"

Eman, let your child guide you. Listen to Him. And Child listen to your Ma. you see what i mean ? wala ahed el ma3bad fo2 demagh abook ?

It's a circle if one takes the lead it breaks

by the way as a note because i just turned TV off, Amr Adeeb yesterday was speaking about the importance of women as mo3gabeen and all his guests were men, he appeared to the viewers very strange, like he was the one who had a certain mo3gaba, or wanted to know how many mo3agaba he has made a link with, and he showed it as physical, not mental, the talk show in my opinion should have had had a different decor and would have made a good comedy

Ruby

I'm not sure what ur supposed to do ya eman, I've been blessed with an extremely nice and kind mother in law who treats me just like her daughter, cooks for me, and even brings me food to bed. Alhamdulilah I'm very grateful to have a mother in law like her. ur mom in law does seem nice, maybe ur just unable to yet understand her properly. Try to spend more time with her and u will get to know and understand her better so will she. I think that maybe she just wishes that u wud ask for her advice or opinion on what ur buying for ur new place, the do like to get involved in such things as they feel this way their opinions are appreciated and needed. Abt the looks, I dunno, maybe that's how she looks at ppl. When I first got engaged I noticed my mom in law sometimes gave everyone weird looks but then I got to know that sometimes she does that thing with her eyes unintentionally that makes u think shes giving u dirty looks. Try to be nice to her and treat her nicely and even if u dont want her to get too much involved abt what ur getting for ur future home, u shud still always ask her what she thinks of this or that. good luck -:)

Dryest Flame

bosy ana kol el 72olholk enk tkbry dma3'k and don't ever make problem with her or even tell ur husband that his mother did or do any thing fe el 2a7'er she is his mom we enty 7atetl3y 7'asrana fa 7'leky 3a2la we kabry dma3'k and even if she give you that look 23mly nfsk msh wa7'da balk ya3ny 3ady 3shan el markb tmshy as i always do :)

Kazarolla

send her an e-card
now i don't owe you any more....LoL
no, i was joking..
i think this is a normal reaction from her, bcz this is her first time to be a mother in law ..... so she doesn't control her reaction very well towards you..
believe me she loves you, and will treat you like her daughter..
don't forget.. I'm still don't owe you.

BOYCOTT ISRAEL AND FRIENDS

salam 2all,

make lots of duaa for her...
will! Allah tala made woman 4 man and man 4 woman...
if its not you then it would be some other woman...
we most make peace... were not goin to live 4ever...

Luv Rulz

eah ya zoz dah !!!! :D:D

Rokaya

well don't worry, she needs time to adjust to new situation. especially cause he is the only boy as you said.
it will all come with time.

€g¥PT¥™

eh el tahreeg deh??

el geesh 2alek eh??

ETSAREF

EDIT:
does ahmed ''i think'' has brothers who r married ..i mean do u have any competition?? ana saheeh lessa so3'ayer w maleesh feeh,,laken men ra2yee enk taksaby the mother in law is more important men enk teksabeeh howa

EDIT 2:

hayel .....yeb2a aham haga that u act innocent

aywa aywa EKDEBY ya3ny :)

zoz

يا جماعه نبطل تهريج شويه
الحج الي بيقول الجيش
يا عم انت طالع تحرر فلسطين؟!!!!!!!!
اسمعي يا اختي
احسن طريقه تخليكي طبيعيه
وحاولي تكلمي والدك انتي معندكيش اخوات
خليكي ايجابيه
بالبلدي كده مصلحنجيه
خدي حق بالكامل والبقانون وبالادب وانتي متكلمتيش علي والدك يا تري بيحبك
بيحبها اكتر
هي عندها اولاد من والدك
عايزين شويه تفاصيل

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