My bf is from Palestine (Jordan) and he has hatred for Jewish people?

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Songbyrd JPA ā� Jewish Lawyer

You are not Muslim. You are pregnant and plan to have an abortion next month.
He has told you he can not marry you, and if he did, you have to become a Muslim.
He has told you that if his family found out he would be killed and so would you.

If all you have posted is true, I am proud he hates people of my religion.

He is a sick person, that can't be changed.

sylvia

A good person doesn't hate other people and doesn't date girls to hurt them because of their background. The reasons you stated to be involved with him are really poor. You deserve better than that. All relationships based on the desire of changing the other are doomed to have a sad end. I hope your self steam is better than that.

Here4Travel Q & A

I have traveled across a border from Israel with two men (that I had just met) who spoke only Arabic and a few bits of english and Hebrew.

I had to assemble sentences of all 3 languages to speak to them.

We went to Jordan (Amman) and had a great time. I can show you pictures (they were bedouin I guess). I also traveled back with them.

He is lying and he is a hot head. What kind of justification he makes up to explain his irrational behavior is irrelevant. He has issues honey, now they're yours to deal with.

Or you can leave.

Cher JPA

Try learning facts & teaching him new information.

However, that wouldn't be my first answer. Anyone who dates people to hurt them is too messed up & dangerous to date yourself. He may be wonderful, but he needed much deeper help than you can give. I'd wonder if it's an excuse for a much deeper hatred or issue with his family that he's not letting onto for himself. It's odd to turn your hate of a group into engaging people to hurt instead avoiding them.

This site YA has a lot of Jew haters who then project onto Israel & given all sorts of propoganda information. If you can read past it, you might find some good links by others. The info he's been exposed to is likely to be well, not accurate. According to a Middle East scholar, the history & news in the middle east accepts conspiracy theories readily -- which tells you how accurate it all it. (I don't remember his name, but he's written the only book on Muslim's who saved Jews during the Holocaust.) This site translates what's commonly on Palestinian news into English: http://www.pmw.org Eygpt's had similar stuff on their TV. Jordan I know less specifically about.

On his being shot, how was he even exposed to an Israeli? You can't cross the border into Jordan with a gun (except for approved tour bus security). What was the full circumstance? You can't just randomly shoot people in Israel either. You'd get arrested & tried & put in jail. If he's not forthcoming with the full story in a way that sits well with you, then again it shows too much going on with him inside.

How does he consider Muslim people have treated Jewish & Israeli people? Does he recognize ANY Israeli actions as results of Muslim, not causes? I've heard interviews with older Palestinains in the WB & Gaza that say that while they don't like it, they would be doing the same thing if the situation was reversed. So, his anger seems much deeper than their's. That's a huge flag & likely based more on hearsay news & stories, than on actual expereince of any kind.

gary o

Do you realize that the relationship between Israel and Jordan is based on peace and friendly relationships and that Israel and Jordan have many projects they are working on together that will make both countries joint friends and that both countries that will be more productive.

really not sure that you can help him.
Hate is something a person has to let go himself. You can't decide that for him. Maybe he has some deeper issues going on. I don't think you can "fix that" for him, maybe, if you find out it has some deeper roots, he could go to a therapist and resolve his past hurts etc. Maybe he can let go of the hate then as well. If it is just learned hatred, then you can't do anything about it. It's his decision.

Oh and my expierience with teaching new information to someone who hates another (not necessarily Jews) is that you end up "being on the other side", your bf could interpret it as if you were against him and go with his "enemies", in order to hurt him as well. So be careful. That 'could' harm your relationship but I suppose if you don't do anything, it's much worse. Maybe you don't want to live with someone who is so filled with hate.

Schmo

He's insane. Leave him. If what you wrote is true he will probably end up strapping a bomb to himself and murdering a lot of innocent civilians one day.

No Israeli would shoot him just because he speaks Arabic and is a Muslim. It doesn't work like that. It's the Muslims who go around murdering innocent civilians in Israel (and around the world), not the Jews. If he got shot by an Israeli, he was doing something he severely shouldn't have been doing - like refusing orders to be inspected at a border crossing and them seeing a bomb strapped to him - and it would have been by an IDF soldier. The Jews don't just go around shooting people.

However you got mixed up with this lying nutcase, it's time to lose him.

Bail out BS

First of all, Israeli's do not go around shooting people because they are Arabs or Muslims. I am not defending Israel, but this is not true. Going throw occupation, interrogation and humiliation is not something that you take lightly. The hatred within him is not something you can treat or get over using yahoo answers. This is a much bigger problem that you or anyone in here can deal with. You are not going to help him or make him change, this is like a cancer that will not go away.
Good luck to you

dart

Oh! he's going to be trouble! You can't fix him. you are better off leaving him alone, and going out with someone who doesn't have that much baggage! He's too damaged already!

Oh, and you do realize that "Palestine" and Jordan are two different things, right?

Chris Q

It may be impossible. My gardfather hated Germans since WWII until the day he died - including Germans whose *parents* wheren't born until after the war. If you lose friends and relatives and been targeted yourself it is sometimes hard for some people to let go and move on.

Edit:
having reread my post I wanted to clarify that I am *not* equating Israel with Nazi Germany. I am talking about the personal hatred that comes with conflict and I am sure there were Germans who lost friends and saw terrible things that ended up hating the British and other allies.

jenk

This is a very personal issue for most Palestinian people. I think it will take lots of time, energy and patients on your part. Just try your best and if he is really a wise and kind person then he will eventually come to understand that you should never judge a person by their race, color or religion.
Good luck.

Tyreeisme!

i do not know if you can change him if he is that extreme

X-Force

i understand him ....
he doesn't hate Jewish people but he hate the Zionism movement and its racism. you can't do anything to change him.
and yes Israel kills Muslim & Christian Arabs every day.

h-star

Yikes. Well, if it doesn't affect you, then don't worry about it. Everyone has problems with or hates something.

Abdo A

im also muslim and i understand your bf but you don't because you dint know how it feels to be humiliated how to see other people killing your people how to not have the right to live in your land and worshipp your relegion and to have checkpoints every where i think the hate will never go away from his heart he is too badly wounded to forget hust like any other palastine if you where only in his shoes for one day you would find out

~VaLe~

oh..man...yeah...you should look up the history..i mean, the jews did take over Palestine which is now Israel....that hatred can't be stopped becuase they were born with it and it has been passed on for generations...the pain, the suffering, the tears, the anger, everything....put yourself in his place....what if someone was killing your people on your rightful land??...

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