My egyptian boyfriend is embarressed to talk to me on his cell phone in front of friends and family why? ?

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Moonrise

Egyptian men are embarrassed when/if they talk to a girl in their presence .
you must understand that his culture is different , for those around him would tease him after the call.
dont call him too often so that he would miss you , twice a week is enough .

Tribal Angel

maybe he's married here in Egypt and doesn't want his wife to know ... or he's too embarrassed to speak English in front of his family .. or they know nothing about you (if it's an online relationship)

naserq22

if I was 30 years younger I will answer different
it is strange that he gets embarrassed to talk to you when he is with his family but he smothers you with kindness and affection
bf and gf relation ships is not welcomed by society so if he introduced you to his family then it might be as good as announcing engagement but if that is matter of embarrassing to him to answer your calls that it is not accepted to his family religious considerations and traditions
but this is mentioned in our holly book
"they fear of pple but they have no fear of God"

SBreC

if a guy's embarrassed to be around you then he doesn't truly love you. and no its not normal my mother is american . my dad is egyptian and my dad was never embarrassed and im accepted as if i was 100% egyptian to my dad's family.

FraSpa

No, you are not overreacting and this is not normal. I see that you already know something is wrong with your situation (he acts mean and cold when around others, never calls). I agree with Warrior Angel. There could be different explanations. Whatever the reason is, you should speak directly with him. If things don't change, then you should make a decision on what to do. There is a saying that: "Actions speak louder than words".

Follow your intuition and take care of yourself
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@ naserq22 - Excellent answer.

carol_who shines

Really I think you answered your own question ,
I find myself not calling because I am afraid the person might not understand my language , or at least the way I say words and use lots of "slang sentence " but I think you have a bigger problem . I wish you lots of luck , I am feeling very sad that you hurt .

tetyana

My hubby is Egyptian. When we weren't married i called him (from USA) all the time and he never spoke to me on a bad way-he was so happy about this. He never cares when somebody around him, he doesn't need any privacy to talk to me. He knows what to say and when to say something. My husband is serving Egyptian military now. So i call him every two days, the only way he isn't answering his phone, its when some officers around him. When he can't answer, than he calls me after, and apologizing to me all the time. I could wake him up in a middle of night and he never has any complains or problems.
Looks like ur bf is rood to u. If i would be u, i wouldn't call him again. This is NOT normal. If ur bf acts this way, than its something wrong with him. Have u met his family and friends? If yes, so how did he and they act a front of u? U definitely need to talk to him about this. i hope than u will make a good choice for ur self. If i would be u, i would talk to him on the same way as he does.
GOOD LUCK!!

Vixen

there is something wrong over here i dont know if i can explain it to you correctly and in details.
> he is a muslim, you are a Christian. They dont know the word "freedom" when it comes to a man-woman relationship.
> having an affair with a Non Muslim puts them in shame with friends especially parents
> they cannot decide on their own and prefers to be in "safe" position at any time and prefers to stick with their own kind.
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Honey if he is in love with you he will introduce your name to his parents or friends!!! Dump him he does not deserve your love & care at all!

Reikominder

I'm like him, and not gf, but friends from different countries and from yahoo answers, First I don't like family or friends to know everything abt me or who is calling me, bcoz they will ask me million of questions , silly ones and normal ones, and they will think wrong.
So i don't answer strange numbers when i'm with family or friends, but with friends i can take the mobile and go out the cafe or any place and talk, but not too much,

Its me, as moonrise said, its our culture, First, many people here will not understand and will think bad or with different ways.

So i think there is 2 reasons for him doing like that:
1- He needs to feel free when talking to u (like me)

2- He doesn't care abt ur relation and he is playing and wasting ur time and his too.

Wish you the best.

P.S.: I saw more than 20 questions like yours regarding Egyptian men and how they are not serious in the relation, and that they were lying when saying Love u ,

My advice to you is TAKE CARE.

KATIE K

This is not normal and I wouldnt call him again if I were you.
If he needs privacy he can leave the room or something, dont mean to be harsh but it sounds like hes not a nice boyfriend.

"concerned citizen - she said she called once in a while not every 5 minutes, and why cant she call when hes with friends and family?

ConcernedCitizen

If you know he's with his family, why do you keep calling? It sounds like you're overdoing the calls. If he's loving and affectionate when you're alone together, you should have nothing to worry about. If you keep calling him every five minutes when you're not together, you're going to drive him away. I don't think it's a cultural diffference. I'm American and that would annoy me too.

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You said you keep calling if he doesn't answer. That sounds pushy to me, even though you're only telling your side of it. Leaving one voice mail should be enough. I still think you're overreacting. How would you feel if he called to check up on you every time you were with your family or friends? Maybe you'd take the call, but wouldn't that be rude to your family and friends? It sounds like you're not being sensitive to his feelings. You want him to do everything your way whether it's in his nature or not. In a relationship you need to be able to accept the other person for who he or she is.

What the fudge!!!!!

Well, i can relate bcause my boyfriend is also egyptian, we have been going out for about 6 months, and I still haven't meet his family, He rarely even talks about them...but i really don't mind because I know that were not that serious....If I where you, i wouldn't obsess over it. By the way does he live in the States? Take care. And don't call him anymore... There's plenty of other man.....

Take care~~~

DNA

I hope she could call me from the US like you call your bf, this would make me so happy, but she doesn't want to, she doesn't even want me to call her so she never gave me her number..I am so sure i would understand every word she says, You know what..i have watched 264 american movies so i nearly know all your ways of talking and most of the slang words..

Take it easy on him, may be he has a good reason for how he acts and maybe he will make it all up to you, so don't make any rapid false impressions, and just give him time..

@moonrise: good answer..

Skye

I don't know much about Egyptian men, or have much experience with men in general, but I think if he doesn't want to talk to you when you call him, he won't call you, he makes you feel bad when you do talk to him, he's ashamed to be associated with you and he treats you badly, I think it's time to dump him.

Com'on, do you hear yourself? Aren't you worth more than this? Don't you think you deserve to be with a man who doesn't treat you like crap?

You're worth more than this. Act like it. Don't talk to him about, don't try to make it better, don't do anything else with this jerk. Just dump him and don't get another guy who treats you like this too. Don't be one of those women. I don't know, but I don't think it has anything to do with him being Egyptian. I think it's just him.

Expect more for yourself and you will get it.

dioxholster

ur over-reacting the guy is too self-consious but i dig what hes doing. i hate the guys that just slip out of the conversation to talk to their gf all the time. hes just acting like a guy. the real him is when hes with you but with others he doesnt want to be all warm and fuzzy :) give him a break

Abdo A

the problem is that he is muslim and for us muslims to have a girl friend thats not the same religion as us its a shame to us in front of our family and friends ,i just hope he is not useing you to get a visa to come to america,all my arab friends have the same problem as you there family dont respect there american girlfriends if you want some more advice you can email me

younis q

he want to show him self as
a radio man and
not a radical man

maiyogy

Common be real,,, maybes is plenty your relation to him can be evaluated with more important stuff ((stuff)) than few phone calls maybe he has a bad week, maybe answering the phone in different language is enough to make him shy, maybe the whole egyptian culture is shy & considerite people...... you will train him make sure you have a nice subject to get him talk.

B K

well he's shy and embarrassed a little bit, that is what it sounds like,
wants to show he s tough to his friends. he might have a girlfriend.
sounds nice " i dont have brivacy right now, call beck bleaze" misppellings are intentional looool

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