My mother has married a Tunisian after 3 holidays there.?

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Bexs

Well, it is obvious as you well know what this young man is after - the UK equivalent of a green card and of course her money. The minute he has those things he will be off with someone his own age. I guess the only thing you can do is keep mum on side - be outwardly supportive of her husband and keep him close in the family - that way you can keep your beady eyes on him! If there is something you are not comfortable with then you must question this with your mum. Has your mum made a will - if not, perhaps you could assist her with this and ensure any assets are left with HER family and not him. This is cheap to do and is certainly sensible in your case. There is a saying - keep your friends close but your enemies closer! It is hard when a woman gets older - maybe it has been a while since your mother has felt wanted and attractive to a man and unfortunately, she has fallen for this boy's charm. Good luck. x

yellowstonedogs

Petal,
I'm astounded at the number of negative answers your question has received.
While I've never been in this situation, I would hope I'd trust my Mother's decision and support it wholeheartedly.

Why would you think she is about to lose everything?
It would appear to me she has gained a husband, an exciting new world and a fresh lease on life.

You contend she is a great person and your family is tight-knit; then get to know this new man and welcome him into your family.
Trust me, your Mother has not done this without giving it a lot of thought with her head and her heart.

susie x â™¥â™¥â™¥

It must have been a real shock to you. Maybe this will all end in disaster or maybe she will suprise you all and enjoy many good years with her new hubby. Either way, its her life and you should be there for her to support her. She will especially need you all if it all goes wrong which, statistics show, may well happen. Dont allienate her by telling her off for what she did, you are understanding enough to appreciate why she got married in the first place.

beverley1156

my friend did the same thing with a turk.She enjoyed 5 years of marriage over here with him,set him up in a bussiness,gave him all her cash etc and as soon as the 5 years were up and his entitlement to uk citizenship arrived he was off with a young girl he employed!So bride beware is my advice,what does a young good looking boy want with an old overweight woman? It should be obvious to anyone no matter how unworldly.Same happens to these old men and their phillipino,moroccan,chinese whatever race girls,most of whom were hookers when they met!. However iff your mum is lucky she might have a genuine one and iff he makes her happy maybe you should be happy for her but keep a very close eye on the situation for her sake not your inheritance(which will probably end up in tunisia!)

clairelou_lane

Hopefully she will not end up losing everything she has worked for. Maybe he is a lovely, genuine man. I think you should try to accept the marriage and meet him but also give your mum advice just in case. Warn her that some men may want to take her money etc but don't accuse her new husband as you may end up pushing her away and then you won't be able to help if anything does go wrong. Maybe a love affair is just what she needs to boost her esteem.

legolas g/Frederich

you know true love trancsends everything.race color age skin or origin,If two people love each other so much because they love each other for he/she is not these things i have stated about.Then the bond and the true love is immense and unbreakable.I do agree that your mum gave a lot of thought to this.Your mum is a wise woman

A True Gentleman

no easy way out of this one, sorry.

O gosh...

I got proposed to when i was 13 years old over there...

So they really must be desperate for English wives.

I guess you've just got to hope for the best. There is not a lot you can do really...

Eve

Write a list of everything she has, write down what you know it took for her to obtain them or how hard she worked.. Be prepared to present to her all that she could lose considering the circumstances or what she's gonna have to do to rebuild. Remind her of how things like this happens all the time and that she should at least have a plan B. Just make sure you present it to her according to how you know she is. I've learned that the way we present things to certain personalities plays a big role in whether they'd even be willing to hear us. No matter how much help we know they need or how much we want to help.

As much as we know how often things like this happen he's only been around a month, so there's stilll a possibility he might actually care for her.

So basicly I think its best to support her in everything. All you can do is make her aware of any problems-causes-solutions.. possibilities -options -consequences -benefits..

I hope this helps..

Sir Basil Cheese Wrench III

What else can you do, it's fu ck all to do with you if your mother's desperate. try it though, the old "it's either him or me" but there slippery bastards those Tunisians

Gizmo

Mmmm same happened to barmaid down our local. Seems Tunisian men like older plumper women. Be very watchfull as they also have a tendancy to treat there woman like second class citizens. They think nothing of lifting there hands to them. You may also find he will want to go home every few months and see his family and also pay his family. He also will need to check on his Taunisian wife and children. Yip there generaly cheating shite bags. My mother went there and she was well and trully told that there would be no Tunisian male following her home. I feel for you and don't know what to say for sure. Just be watchfull and be ready to step in with a firm hand at the first sign of any bullshit.

Manon

that sounds so exactly like what happened to my aunt and my cousin when they holidayed there.. they are both naive too and were enjoying a little inheritance they had made. my aunt didn't marry the guy after all, but my cousin did.. i'm afraid these guys were clearly after the money and a way into france (where my aunt and cousin live) and there isn't much you can do... the best is to not alienate your mum and watch out for her. you can only hope that something will open your mum's eyes and she'll get out of it, or that she finds happiness and a caring husband in it...

byebye

say tara to your inheritance

Mcgranny

Get your sibs together and try to convince her to let you get your things from her house. The silver tea set, Great Gran's wedding ring, and all that. When he finishes cleaning her out, you will have something to give her to start over.

Meziena

Let her know your doubts but don't chide her too much. She'll just feel alienated, and you wouldn't be able to help her if she was in trouble. Tell her to trust her insticts. Some people can be sneaky, but she should sense deep down if something is wrong.

I live here, and I'd say about 60% of them start out wanting only visas. The common belief is that life in Europe or America is like paradise and they'll have money and girls crawling all over them.

If she met him in Tunis or Sousse I think she will be okay, I hear they are much more enlightened there. The worst that could happen is she'd lose some money and pride.

If he's from the countryside, I'd worry, because if you don't do exactly what he says he might lock you out of the house or hit you. I used to have a Tunisian boyfriend and he and his cousins threatened to kill me, because I have a close female friend he doesn't like, apparently my being with her put shame on him.

Believe me, these types are very difficult to get rid of. Thankfully this will never happen to your mother if the man knows she has a family and friends to protect her. That is the best thing you can do for your mother right now.

angelgina

no u tell her that she is very selfish and never gave any of you any thought she hasn't realized what she has done i say have a good talking to her.

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