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Â¸Â¸.â€¢*Â´`*â™¥ Farah Â¸Â¸.â€¢*Â´`*â™¥

Sweetie, fairy tales exist only in books; there is no such thing as "happily ever after" in real life. Every couple have their fair share of ups and downs. It's how you deal with the "downs" that makes all the difference in your relationship. When you promise to stick together for better or for worse you should expect to have that "worse" from time to time ... life is not all sunshine lollipops and rainbows.

I love my husband very much, but as any couple we do have our differences and arguments. At times I feel like screaming and pulling my hair out, and at other times I feel like killing him! (I'm sure he feels the same too!) But I still love him! I never doubted my decision and if I went back in time I would choose him all over again!

The best thing if you are facing problems with your significant other is to take the direct approach and discuss whatever it is that is bothering you openly and honestly. Listen to their side of the story and let them know how you feel. Letting negative emotions fester is definitely unhealthy for any relationship. Good luck ya amar.

Sassafrass

Yes, I love my husband ALL the time. Do I LIKE him all the time? No, sometimes he drives me CRAZY!!! -But I still love him. Yes, it is normal to question decisions you make even in marriage. What do you do when you feel that? --You need to be patient. The time passes... Marriage has it's ups and downs -- ALL marriages eventually do.

Remember:
LOVE is a VERB!!!
Love is NOT always enough. This is why people get MARRIED and have CONTRACTS. The judge that married us for our civil ceremony said some wonderful things on this matter. People fall in and out of love (the infatuated feeling) all the time (usually it is temporary and they will love the person again). If it wasn't for the marriage/contract nobody would stay together. Commitment is the glue that keeps people together not just love. Of course, there are times when one should just say goodbye and end it but that isn't as often as some people think.

The best marriage advice I ever got: You can choose to be right or you can choose to be happy! (In other words you could be a lot happier if you let the other person win the arguments/decisions at least some of the time!)

EDIT: â™¥farahâ™¥ gave you an awesome answer and a very honest one too. I wish people would be that honest about marriage more often. You don't know how many times I hear women who have been married 6 months or a year and they really believed that marriage would be "sunshine and lollipops". Even when they say that there are of course problems in any marriage they never truly understood the meaning of that and ended up having a hard time dealing with it.

Salloo7a

Ranoush, Love is not a part time job at all, it's literally a lifetime continuous stream that sometimes may be polluted with fights or arguments but it is still running. As for the choice, it remains a choice for the engagement time but once it turns into a marriage, it is no longer a choice, it is a destiny.

THE-GREEN-VISITOR

Although we haven't go so far till now, but I don't think, and don't hope actually, that such a thought will come to my mind.

According to what I know till now, I think she's my "spirit twin".

Abdullah

!!!!!!!
cry n this situation(i mean this)
i hadnt enough time to complete,look i think it is your fault both if u or him feel this u must talk to each other to solve this issue,if u feel that he is changed and he is not ur dream man at all talk to him ,so if he changed you'd better end up and escape with least damages.

gemini

I don't think any on loves their partner "all" the time. When He pisses me off, i don't like him very much. I don't wonder if I made the right choice but I wonder how my life would be if I was married to some one else. And it's all normal thinking. They probably do the same thing too. When I feel that way, I think about the time he almost died on me after he was hit riding his Harley and I remember why I love him.

Psycho

that's difficult for good married couples...
because Love in Marriage grows through commitment and the everyday life issues, what they go through together brings a new kind of love to life, like when they face troubles together, bright and dark moments...having the same life and witnessing the same events together seeds a very strong tie inside them, close to this between family members, making each is "used to" loving their partner, not necessarily about the choice.

sabrina

i have mentioned before i have been married for almost 30 years, though i find it hard to believe and wonder where the time went. for the first 15 to 20 years i don't think i ever doubted that i had made the right decision. there were times when he made me very angry and times when he drove me crazy and times when i did the same to him, but essentially we were very happy. but somewhere around my mid 40's my outlook on life changed and there were many reasons for that including children, changes in my own job status and changes in the way i looked at things. this resulted in a period of difficulty for me. but i came through it and i realize that while he drives me nuts on occasions he is the best person for me and he has many very good qualities including the Patience that i really lack and i believe he now feels the same Time changes things, both good and bad.

â™¥ terry g â™¥

Yes, I love my husband, even when I am angry with him. I have never questioned my decision to marry him. I was married once before. Sadly, I questioned my judgment from day one and we ended up divorced. I tried for 7 years to make that marriage work but realized one day that some things just cannot be fixed.

may be we are not that involved............but still, Subhan Allah, i admire him so much, and i feel that we are so close, in our opinions, our feelings, even our experiences.......... he's always in my mind, and Life really tastes different after knowing him, Subhan Allah (i don't know how, for it's yet a short time that we knew each other in ) !!

and i love what Slave of Allah said about "spirit twin"........totally agree :-)

ombomstiggywoggles

i do, i think everyone does. relationships are part of real life, not fairy tales. i've ben with my partner for 3 years. i love him but have questioned, usually after a fight if i do love him or not.

most of it is the fact when you live with someone for a while you fall out, like you di when you live with your family. but you don't chose your family, so you let minor arguments go, but with a partner, you are finding out about them, even down the road, years later. they see you all the time, at your best, but also at your worst. you might be able to tell your mum to go away your not coming down for tea, but say that to your partner and well, you could be in for trouble.

when we went through a rough time a while ago i went to stay with my family, i soon realised how much i loved my partner and we got a lot better after that. now we try and talk about why we might feel off with each other. its usuallly not the person but the situation

of course it is healthy to question a relationship :) you don't want to be stuck in a miserable one

Ruby

yes, I love my husband all the time now. but before I questioned myself abt it manytimes. Love grows by time, the longer I'm married, the more I feel in love with my husband. Everyone has ups and downs, but now no matter what happens, whether we fight or not talk to each other or stuff like that, I always know I love him still :). I was not 100% sure abt my choice but now that we have been married for almost 2 yrs and having a baby, I am sure :) good luck hun

Arabian Dune

Yes I love her all the time.
It's just that I don't feel like that all the time.

Nur S

I don't have experience because i am not married but i can tell u some tips from the magazine i have read
1. You must have a give and take policy
2. Tolerate
3. Patient
4. Believe ....

mohamed e

Loving my partner is because of her and how much she can work out life in a good shape with me... Not only reason there are many others... I wouldn't choose my partner from beginning if there is any miss-communication... but if there was any misunderstanding after marriage or after selecting her...then I should use any good communication skills to get the wrong, right.
My partner is my friend... So I love my partner :)

Aussie

Ranoush, love is not a feeling but a choice! If we relied on feelings we'd all be in & out of love every other second !

Onomatopoeia

I do love my husband VERY much! We have disagreements and misunderstandings but that comes with the territory of marriage. We show and tell each other how much we love each other and we remember how much it hurt to stay apart from each other like we did.
I know I have made the right choice because, well, cant say why because it will sound crazy to most people about how we met. MashaALLAH, Alhamdulillah
~peace

naserq2

OH NO
need more time to think of how to answer
may be true what you say
but those times of thinking was i right or wrong do not,must not change any thing
life is not the way you think
its not all dependant on one decision you have made
]there is *i believe)some of gods mighty in the matter of marriage
it is some thought that if man is museyyer or mu7'eyyer . i do not thank this is an absolute value,i never look at it that you are mu7'eyyer in all of your critical decisions.
i think there is greater power than yours planned your main lines,inbetween these lines you are mu7'ayyer .the girl or the man whom to get married to is for you ages before you were born

hasafer

yes I love mine .
but I'm too confused to give you a real and honest answer for the rest .

Samantha

yep I love him ALL the time...

BUT sometimes (well maybe all the time) he manages to take a walk on my nerves... lol... but I love that too... it makes me laugh! :D

He always wants to cheer me up! lol

Far Away ( Still Lost)

Yes I love my Wife, some times we have regular conflicts & some times I day dream if I didn't make my move on to her back in college what will be my life without her.
I find that I've made the right decision to marry her, I gues out there every person have another partner that he only cay marry & no one else will make him happy in his life but that one
I guess I have her
I'm not telling that I live in paradise like no trouble, but I just love her when we have fight & then once I get to her & try to talk her out of it , we finish it immidiatly.
So I guess I do love her all the time even if I don't know that I love her all the time.

Teah

Yes I love my husband, we have been married for 5 years. And yes it is challenging but I never questioned my love for him or if I should have married him or not. We are a good fit. believe it or not. It is like day and night. I love him when I am angry at him. I love him when I am happy and also sad.

My husband is so stubborn and when they are stubborn they tend to have these silly ideas and think they are always right, which drives me up the wall. But I have learned just allow him to put his foot in his mouth so later I can say I told you so.

If you feel that you are in marriage or relationship and you are questioning it then more or likely you are not happy with that person and you need to find what is best for you.

mesho f

i love may wife all the time, even though some times i m angry from her but i love her and i will not leave her unless she asking that

Crazy girl

I love my boyfriend all the time since i developed these feelings for him and my feelings keep on growing for him. If he does something that i don't like i don't stop loving him i just don't like what he has done.

DNA

i am still single but, i think a man should marry more than one.

ÃÃ… MÃ…N â˜º â˜»

i dont know

just felt like saying that

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