What's the secret to a good marriage?

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Nikki

So why do some couples seem to live in “happily ever after?” Though we may not want to use the expression, couples who seem to be happier together actually “work at” their marriages. Equating marriage as a job is not something most people want to do but, if we stop and think about it, “working at” a relationship is a good idea. Why? Anything worth having in your life needs maintenance. A marriage needs maintenance and work, too, to keep it in good condition.

But is there a secret to good marriages? No real secrets, just some common sense and courtesy. So here are some “secrets” to having a better marriage.

1. Fight fair-stick to the issue at hand that is causing the fight.
“Sticking to the problem at hand and not going into the past and rehashing old news,” he said.” It serves no purpose other than to use it as a weapon.”

2. Treat your spouse with the respect you would show a stranger.
Familiarity may not always breed contempt but it can breed something just as bad-taking our spouses for granted and not always being polite. It is a fact that, when we are speaking to people we don’t know, we are on our best behavior. We listen to them talk, we show interest in their conversations, we treat them as if they are very important to us. Why? We want to impress them with our politeness, our exquisite manners; our overall “niceness.” Sometimes in marriage we lose this manner of respect. Remembering to treat each other respectfully strengthens a marriage. Be polite, listen to each other the way you would to anyone you wanted to think well of you, let your spouse know they are important to you.

3. Be friends.
Have fun with each other. Friends laugh, they share; they do silly things together.
How often do you laugh with your spouse? What interests do you share together?
This is glue to any relationship. Be a good friend to your spouse.

4. Share the work.
No one wants to feel as if they are someone’s servant. Doing all the household or garden chores is not fun for anyone and can cause an enormous amount of resentment to build up. Don’t just ask if he wants help with the yard work or garden; go out and help him. Don’t just ask if she wants help clearing the table and putting the dishes in the dishwasher, get started and work alongside her. Sharing the work lets you be together and takes the burden off one person.

5. Speak kindly with love in your voice.
There is nothing sweeter for a man or a woman than to hear love when their wife or husband speaks to them. Little endearments like “baby, honey, etc. mean so much. And who doesn’t want to be spoken to with kindness? This is the person you married and with whom you are spending your life!

6. Your marriage is the most important relationship you have. More important than any other you have or will have. This doesn’t take away any other relationships or diminish them in any way. But, your marriage must come first. Enough said?

Working to have a good marriage is definitely worth it. Small changes can have a big impact and, who knows, maybe someday, someone will ask you about your “perfect” marriage!

majenta

Chuckle, chuckle, belly laugh :)

Skyli

Thanks so much!!
hahaha... have an awesome weekend!
God Bless
x.x.x

Kate

Love it

Lark

Good one, Redhead.
The secret in our house is that I shut up and let him think he's very clever.

-Mr Z-

Communication. Respect.

+he +ru+h hur+s

very funny

Hennie

Lol!
Respect, respect, respect!

Reb Da Rebel

he, he, he!!!

thumba

Wow, it is only a weekend laugh why all the fire.
Peace and love to all.

Gerhard G

That is very good,and I think the 365 is the recipe for a good marrige also not with the same cow.lol

Whackhead

I think Nikki had a really good answer and some good food for thought. Don't know why she got all the bad reports.

Anyhow, in keeping with the joke - sex must play a role! If the husband has a beef (no pun intended) about having to shag his wife all the time, then there are clearly some problems. Some find that married sex can be the best sex. Surely, after 365 occurrences of the deed, you must know how to do a better job of it. You know what she wants, where she wants to be touched and how. Surely sex should be worked on and improved along with every other aspect of the relationship. Sex is the real cement. What else sticks like semen?

conservation chris

The secret to a successful marriage is to never let your wife and your mistress ever meet.

The Blue bull

Lol Redhead Good one and yeah ..... beware of the BLUE BULL....:) Lol

Elisabeta Disupremo

The secret as ever it has always been. The secret is PI. 7/22 and if that is too hard chill en's try 312. And if that ist nicht ser diene probleme, WELS. Have a nice Day.

cheri

Guess he was in the dog box for a few matings (^_^)

Michael A

Are you asking whether human beings should mate 365 times a year?.

D405!

First find a man that will wanna marry ur fire crotch!

frankiex22x

Don't tell rubish jokes like that one?

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