What do u think about jealousy ?

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JerryKing

Everyone feels jealous from time to time. Jealousy is easy to deal with, once you understand what it's teaching you. Here are some pointers on working through your emotions and feelings of jealousy.
Understand the emotion. Jealousy is usually a combination of fear and anger; a fear of losing something, and anger that someone is "moving in on" something that you feel belongs only to you. Also, be aware of the distinction between jealousy and envy: they are two separate and distinct emotions. Jealousy involves wanting to keep something which you already have; whereas, envy involves wanting something which you don't have.
Allow yourself to actually 'feel' the emotion in a healthy way. When you start feeling jealous, ask yourself: is it more fear based, or more anger based? Recognize which part of your body is being affected. If you feel a dropping or clutching sensation in your stomach, itâ€™s probably fear. If you feel a burning, tight sensation in your shoulders and jaw, then youâ€™re likely feeling anger. You might also feel a combination of those sensations.
Communicate your feelings. Sharing your true feelings with someone without blaming them can create a deep sense of connection between the two of you and open up a dialogue about the path of your relationship. Instead of saying, "you shouldn't have done that", say, "I felt terrible when you did that." Use "I" instead of "You".
Identify what your jealousy is teaching you. Jealousy can alert you to what you want, and what is important to you. If youâ€™re jealous of someone talking to a friend of yours, personal relationships may be important to you. If youâ€™re jealous of your money, you may have an underlying need for security or freedom. Ask yourself, 'Why am I jealous over this? What is making me jealous? What am I trying to keep? Why do I feel threatened?' When you begin to understand what makes you jealous, you can begin to take positive steps to maintain those things, without the cloud of negative emotion that accompanies jealousy.
Change any false beliefs that might cause jealousy. There are often false beliefs that underlie jealousy and fuel emotion. If you examine the belief, many times, you can eliminate the jealousy. Some common underlying beliefs are â€œEveryone is out to get my money.â€ or â€œIf this person leaves me, I won't have any friends.â€ Beliefs are changeable. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel. Choose to tell yourself a belief that is nurturing and supportive, and youâ€™ll feel better. When you begin taking steps to creating a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, you will find the anger, the jealousy and the fear will disappear.

Tips
Jealousy is not the same thing as love. Sometimes, people think that by feeling jealous about someone, they are loving them. Jealousy is not love, itâ€™s the fear and anger of losing love. Jealousy disappears when you are truly loving yourself and others for whatever experience youâ€™re having.
Learn to be happy yourself and what you have. Everyone is different and each person has their good and bad qualities. Realize that you have the potential to create a better future.
Try to talk about your problems with someone. Perhaps you feel that these jealous tendencies are a private matter; then, you ought to anonymously ask an advice column or similar construct about your problem.

Warnings
If jealousy in your relationship is leading to control or power struggles, it's a sign that there is an underlying issue which needs to be addressed.

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1..yes...I think everybody if had a relationship have been a little jealous. If that didnt happen then he/she didnt care about the other person.
I'm not talking about the kind of jealousy that is a sickness..i'm talking about the one that is sweet and make you miss the other person.

No...it is not healthy if the jealous person makes your life impossible and hasnt confidence in you. Actually I think that no one would live with a jealous person, because finally jealousy kills love.

Jealousy has not limits...
As I told you, jealousy in a bit , is nice, because you realize that the other person cares about you.....but..if things grow up and you are asked about if you breath.....or if you go out, or if you have to tell everything what you have maken during the day, then........run away....
No confidence at all............and that is soooooooo bad.
Sometimes, that sickness made people kill the object of their "love"...

Waiting and Wishing

Lebanese men are crazy jealous and I don't know why.
I think some amount of it is healthy but if you are making a person miserable, it's not worth it.

jean marc l

I have been married 4 times and never ever be jealous.what is the point.you have to give your partner freedom.you cannot expect him or her to mbe with you all the time.there are few limits on jealousy.only when your partner makes it too open.let live

fatma

hey beautiful,
well i think that a little bit of jelousy is alright cause everyone is jelous sometimes ....but when it gets over board...man !!!!!!! anyways i think its allright sometimes..

nexus

a little bit of jealousy is not bad but at great extent it will cause a lot of trouble. it can break relationships.jealousy should be limited to not destroying others life.

sas35353535

jealousy is a state of mind where in u envy what u dont have and other have it .
its healthy to have little jealousy as it pushes u to go with extra effort to have achieve what u like to have but dont and u see it with others.
but if u take it too seriously and u cant achieve or get that thing then it should not prompt u to do unacceptable methods to achieve it.

Ghanouge

Its somewhat cute :)

I love it when my husband just asks me where have you been, or who are you talking to :) i find it verry cute, but he is not the type that says i cant have freinds or stuff, nope, my friends are his friends as well, but NO CLOSE male friends of course...

There are limits, and being too jealous may break up the relation,

nan

This is one emotion we could do without. Trust is the keyword...without it, why bother?

G Bone

1- Nope.

2- No, because you will stress yourself.

3- I don't think there is a limit for jealous because everyone is jealous of something, even billionaires.

littlechrismary

I think a tiny bit of jealousy can be healthy. But most people overdo it. Me included.

Kate

Everyone is a little jealous from time to time...it's only human

But it's not normal being jealous and overprotective all the time.

Mellivora

even a little iota of jealousy is bound to cause terrible regrets later..

LELAND

stems from insecurity or greed
serves as a "flag" to the emotions: "Why do I feel this way? Is this a fair situation? Am I being unreasonable? Does my intended instigate this?

prd_muslim

not I was married to a guy that was very jealous and the relationship just fell apart.
you could be jealous sometimes but not to the point you cant go out ,and a female is not going to like it if you say I love you too much or your so beautiful

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