What if you really HATE your mother,or father?and can't stand living with?

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Freewell

I would tell you are right if they are Alcoholic or prostituters or murder or disbeliever in God. Then you have right to leave and not even watch back again but if they are not one of those, you have to think that they are the reason of being you are on that life. and take care of them as did before, so if you are teenager and you feel revolution so keep your self in patience and think would you like your kids has the same feeling for you. And I Will end up my words with the best words that come from God to us..."keep your eyes on your parents and take care of them , your Mother was pregnant in you 9 month and that was so hard for her, but if they say to you disbelieve God leave them and from time to time ask about them.... And that was meaning of the Great God words
wish you luck

M&U

If you are a teenager then this is perfectly normal. The reason teens become aggressive towards there parents, is because when they are children their parents seem to be "perfect", always knowing the right answer and always knowing what to do. However, when a child becomes more mature, thus becoming a teen, they notice that their parents make mistakes too, and until they accept that later on in their life, they become very hostile.

As a person who is still having difficulty with her family I can only tell you this...count your blessing that they are there for you, they are there to give you a kick when you need it or love when you need it. One of my best friend's father ran out on him and his family. He has never met him and probably never will. You cannot imagine how much pain he feels when he sees fathers and sons together.

Unless your father or mother is abusive or neglective towards you then you should try and withstand. However, if they are abusive and neglective to you then you should seek help. Preferably from a relative such a grandmother or aunt or someone.

FraSpa

For now, since you mentioned that you cannot live alone, try to stay out of the house when you know they will be home. For example, if you are in school, you can go to the bookstore or library to study. You can go to the movies with your friends. You can get a part time job and work hours when they will be home. Be creative with what you can do with your time but don't do anything bad, of course.

You may feel as though you hate them now because you are with them and they may annoy you. However, when you are no longer living with them, you will realize you love them so much and not only will you miss them but the relationship between you and your parents will be so much better and you will appreciate each other. You never know, this may happen start to happen as soon as when stay away from the house for some time when they are home (while you are still living there). Just be patient and always respect them no matter how much they bother you. Believe me, I know what I am talking about. There was a time that I moved out with to live with other family members because I thought my parents bothered me so much for nothing but after I moved out, every weekend (and sometimes for a week), I would go home and stay at my parents' house because I missed them so much and would get homesick. A few months after I moved out, I moved right back home until marriage.

carol_who shines

I would give anything ............ just to see my parents again , I took care of them when they were both ill , and I would repeat it again ,if I only had the chance .

pero_102

just think of the time when you would become a parent too,by now, as long as you are dependent on them, be submissive, you'll get used to it.If not, get out and make your own government.

jeffrey

Find some other place to live with other people. I personally spend a lot of time at the Library/coffee house/friends house etc... and only sleep and clean in the home. You need to think about how it effects your goals in life when you feel bad at home though. You've got to have a place to go were you feel at home, (safe)! Good Luck!

swd

That is such a horrible thing to say. I would think that parents, in the majority of cases want the best for their kids. I mean what if it was the other way round, the parents get the child into the world and then say, I just cannot stand this child and throw them out?

That is totally not nice. If the problem is with them being strict, then you should realize they are only trying their best. If it is communication, then learn how to communicate better and always remember that you have a duty towards your parents and you should treat them with utmost respect.

sabrina

as some one above said, this is perfectly normal its actually to do with trying to become an independent person. It is natures way of allowing you to leave home and find your own way with out it hurting you too much. Parents always feel they know best, if you think about it for the whole of your life they have been telling you what is best for you and its hard for them to change too, assuming your parents are not abusive and that they care for you try pointing out as gently as you can that you are growing up/ grown up and that you need to try and make your own decisions. that you realize you have and will make mistakes and that you will listen to their advice..... sometimes.... but you will make the final decision and if they think about it they will realize that this is actually what they have spent the last .... years trying to prepare you for. making you think for your self and making you independent. it will get easier they will accept more and you will find you can be with them again with out them really annoying you. meanwhile do as some others suggest. spend time out if possible also some time in. try to listen to what they have to say and try to see it from their point of view and then explain why gently you will be doing what you want.... and try to be patient you will not be home much longer

Zman_Egypt

really i can't imagine the life without them and don't laugh at me that's true

*â™¥â™¥El 3enab =Pâ™¥â™¥*

just count down the years until u can move out, like me (:

zaboota thx to dear relator

u are not alone

SaNmArK

watch that Tom hanks movie "road to perdition"
i like what he said at the end of the movie
: when people ask me if he was a good or bad guy
i answer he was my father

ketilevedis

I never hated them I just couldn't live with them.I got married at 18 and 28 years later I thank god I found a good husband.Yia sou.

Hatem

That's called adolesence (I hope my spelling is right)

Asiah

as long as our parents do not ask their children to do bad thing, they must obey them and love them bcoz our parents have sacrifice a lot. moreover, there's not a single parents who hate their child

Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer

Ok, let us think about it in a different way.

Imagine you hold and carry a water melon to your stomach and walk around with it for 9 months. how tough !!!!
This is your mother. I am not going to mention, the days and nights she spent taking care of you, feeding you, changing your diapers.

What about your father, who had to work hard days and nights, to provide a better life for you and your family.

How would someone who got just a little common sense even just mention the word hate to his father or mother.

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