Why do women need to feel reassured and secure?

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Reikominder

First , I miss u Belier and thx for the good questions.

I think men also need to feel reassured and secure , but not like women , that's the truth , and it will be like that .

Its how God create us , Woman always need to feel secure more than a man , that's also what some women search in their men , they need to feel secure through men.

That's my opinion , maybe its right , maybe its wrong.

Don 'Milo' Corleone

I think both women and men sometimes need to be reassured...i think if you care for the other person, a little assuring and a little security strenghtens the bond. imho!

Kumara

I think men need to feel reassured and secure, too...

But, I know what you mean...in general, they don't seem to need it anywhere near as much as we do.

I kinda think one reason we need it more than men is because of our chemical makeup. For the majority of our lives our bodies are in a constant state of hormonal change...and these hormones have an effect on our emotions and feelings...I HATE it!

(Can you tell I'm a bit hormonal?? Grrrr....)

Aussie

This man does.....I think there is a need in all of us to be needed , loved & to know that we mean something to somebody.
Men are just not as open as women ...keep their feelings locked away in their private space ....try to keep their emotions hidden from view !
That is until there is a crisis in their lives..

edit..Welcome Milo ....nice to have your contribution.

ŲŁ„Ų§ŁˇŁ…ŲØŲ±Ų§ hallambra

hi Belier...
Do you think that is a matter of genders?? I dont think so.
Nowadays women have to take hard decisions, to face problems with the kids,there are many divorced couples where women havent any support and they depends on themselves.
In the other side, men have been raised "to be " stronger that women, but just bcoz of the time that they are living in, many "roles" are inverted..
We can see nowadays, that are so much men that get less salaries than their wives. Some of them assume that, but other ones dont, just bcoz of the way they were raised.
That men are so insecure. If you make a study about how many persons of different gender make therapy with a psychologyst, you'll realize that the number is almost the same.
So, for me, the stuff that men are more secure than women, is a myth.

MILO.....honey.....there was lot of time that I didnt agree with you, but have to say that i do it totally with your reply to this question.

~ Noha ~

who said that men don't ?!!!!
they surely do ... but may be they don't show this

That's why a good wife should be a trust / tranquility [sakan] to her husband .......
as the wife needs her husband's hug to reassure her ...
also the husband needs his wife's hug to reassure him .... he hides in her hug and feel the warmth of her embrace and feel secured
it's human nature

Mad Cow

Only 4 words.....Belier, u are special..........

Kate :-)

men need reassurance more than us...why do you think they get married?

Jr.

You know that term "daddy's little girl" well I think it originates from that, growing up you get that feeling of being secure in all aspects and it continues as an adult, for some woman not all of course..
Daddy gives you a feeling of being secure and protected, men don't need that, men need a feeling of being taken cared of kind of like mom use to. Once again some men not all...

Manny

That is the way God wired them so that they can compliment each other rather perfectly
Women are more aware of their feelings
Men are more concerned with other aspects of life.
Women were wired to want protection, men were wired to protect others (that could be one of the reasons why there are more police men than police women)

Dark N

coz they dont have enough testoserone they have estogen instead. Its all about hormones. and in genral yes u r right women need the feeling of security more than men.

poetbjc64

In my case it is actually the other way around.
My husband grew up feeling lost or insecure because his family didnt stay in one place long. So he doesnt think he has friends. except for me..
Even though I dont have a job because of my troubles with my health. I know I can work somewhere other than here, As I have before when my health was worse.
I have made my husband insecure in someways because I've threatened to leave him the way people in the past have , or the way he has had to do as a child.
He feels I control his emotions and cause him to cave in if I dont get my way, but that isnt the case.
So this struggles can go both ways. I can feel secure in life , when my health is much better and things are at ease. Yet my husband never can as it is embedded deep in him that people cant be friends with him or do anything for him so why should he bother.
Sometimes it weighs heavy on me , but other times I try to help him float.
I tell my husband that I've stayed by him for 21 years , so I'll be here for another 21. I did leave briefly to gain some strength, and went to the hospital for preocedures and test a few times. Then went to care for my mom when she was dying. All those times, that I had to be away he called me daily and sometimes more than once a day or if I was nearby he'd show up and visit with me there.

So not all men are strong and sure. Just as not all women must feel the need to be reassured by others to feel secure in order to get through life.

keypointist

Do they? Most women I know seem to be looking after themselves. Maybe it's an act though.

lostrebelchild

Not all women, and not all men...I beleive it has a lot to do with nurturing from childhood. Thanks for asking.

Daisyhill

well I'm a woman and I don't either. Not all women do...I reassure myself...only you can make yourself feel secure...anyhting else is just words.

2cents

um guys do need to be reassured and to feel secure...they just express it differently then women do...i have met many insecure guys

AtiaoftheJulii

Every human does. Even some pets

Kalooka

men don't? i don't think so..

riviva

Some men do... however, I know what you are talking about.

Once I read that it has to do with power-- before commitment (and sexual relations), the man is usually trying to 'win over' the woman. He showers her with assurances, security, gifts and compliments...

After she agrees and accepts him, he feels secure--she has chosen him. However, this is when she needs to be assured that she has made the right choice, and not given herself to someone who does not respect her and see her as he should.

I don't know if this is completely accurate, but I know that men feel more secure knowing that the woman cares enough to be with them. It is much easier for us to get insecure, maybe we analyze things too much.

ANGELO [my 3 passions]

they don't .. they make us feel they do ... so we men would feel a bit better about ourselves by whispering just a few words to them ...

hasafer

how come ?? we need that a lot

Eman S

I think many factors affect that.
Some of these factors are their bodies where women bodies are not as strong as men, and maybe because they always looking for the family and children. To have children you must feel secure.
Note: I do not agree that men do not. Both of male and female do but women need it more.

The critic flower.

To be able to give and be more productive. But i disagreee with you about men, as the come the 2nd place not the empty one.

al manar

Not only women, we all do.

GREEK BARBiE

Whattt?!? Where did you get that from? Men are insecure too, but they try not to make it so obvious, and they show it in other more subtle ways like jealousy, possessiveness, showing off, excessive trials of being 'manly' , calling another man GAY when a girl says he is cute ..etc.. -- those are all signs of insecurities.

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