Would/do you raise your kids the same way you were brought up..?

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Crazy girl

No i won't i didn't have a bad upbringing i will just do it differently. I won't hit my children to make them learn their lesson i will let them know why they are wrong for that and explain what might of happened by talking to them and making them understand. I will punish them by sitting them in a quite area for a set time to let them cool down and think what they have done.

My parents never really listened to me or my brother so i will form a relationship where they can talk to me about anything. I know sometimes i really want to reach out to my mum and tell her things but i don't have that relationship so can't.

My parents didn't treat me or my brother the same i got everything i wanted really and he didn't i don't know why it might be cos i was first born but that shouldnot make any difference to how you treast your children. I look back now and feel so sad for him. On the other hand my parents punished me more than my brother even for little things where as my brother hardly got punished and he could be quite naughty.

I will encourage my children to take part in new things and to continue with what they do. I will also offer support for their choices as they learn from their mistakes and i can't learn for them. This is very much the opposite to my parents they tell me and my brother what they want us to do for our future and do not support any choices that are different to what me and my brother have chosen.

I want my children to form good relationships with both parents and we i want to do things as a family and i will show them love and care. My brother has formed good relationships with both my mum and dad as he does things with both parents i only have a relationship with my mum as i do things and spend time with her i have never spent or had a hug from my dad and find it hard to be around him and we don't get on very well.

Arabian Dune

I don't think we have that much of a choice. I am raising 2 kids and it's not like a ride in the park.
point is, I try to focus on myself, even with my children, and that is usually the only way to bring them up right. I have learned that what we say to our kids is not about them but is about us.

hasafer

no , never , ana matrabetsh :D

Hope

It is not possible to do that in reality, i ll just stick to giving them all the love and goodness that was put in me and the rest, well they'll pick it up as they go along in life, all i am good for is Guidance, but in the end they'll be whom they r meant to be.

Kalooka

i agree with hope, more or less..

lord-k

definitely not

à®œâ˜†Â§weet Angelâ˜†à®œ

Yes, the same way

When I get married ISA, my marriage will be an intercultural marriage.

I have talked about this with habibi and we agree to raise our kids (if blessed) having the best of our cultures.

We are going to raise them as I was raised. As parents as their best friends, with a good communication in all aspects and with a caring heart.

And also with the good values he and I were raised, no matter if I am Christian and he is Muslim. But with values that lead them in the good road to be good people.

Reikominder

I will give them Love , and teach them to respect others , even with different believes or cultures.

I will make them play sports , read books , social life.

I think I will never hit them , and i hope i will never shout to them also ,

I will give them freedom , but not freedom to do what may harm others or themselves.

I hope I will raise a good people who can change this hard life,

Love u all , wish u the best ,

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Luv Rulz

mesh lamma atnail akhales el ta3leem !!! :D:D

pretty flower

never i was bought up in the uk and my parents were bought up in pakistan so they tried to bring me up as they were bought up it didnt work.they were too strict upon us which caused me to rebel against everything especially my religion whcih i am now bck on track thanks toallah

i have two sons and they are given a lot more freedom then me and they now that once they betray my trust thats it every little bit of luxury will be taken away from them.my brothers think i am too harsh on them but they are happy and i teach them about islam in a child friendly way explaining things and reasons for why we do certain things

Monkster

Yes and no - I take the positive lessons and improve on them.

Every child needs to learn manners and respect for elders, how to eat in public, use a knife and fork, etc.

I do encourage freedom of expression and more of a feelling of safety becuase its sad that kids can't roam safely out there these days.

So the world has changed and you need to reflect that in the way you bring up your kids.

â™¥MIMIâ™¥

Yes, because i was really spoiled while growing up.i had a lot of kiddies stuff even though my parents didn't have alot of money then...
And no,because i was whipped alot unnecessarily for the slight mistakes i made.
I won't bring up my child by flogging her/him like a goat for every silly mistake he/she does and oh....my son will have hair ...lots of hair!

sojourner

Well, not exactly the way I was raised. But I will share many of the good things, principles, practices, and other worth considering things to my kids.

Those things that I think were not good, I will stop the cycle and put it into past.

Necromancer of Egypt

yes, i think

saraowh :$

yes&no!
yes because [my mother 3lmatnee deen al islam kwais''good''wa 7'ltny a7faz agz2 min al qura'n and alot of other good things ''and no because i will try ''2n lah a3mal nafs al a7't2 aly ommi wa 2bi 3mloha .

SToRaY

I would like to raise my children (if blessed) the way i am BUT only the things i like...i am raised in a culture which is kinda restricted to your own family and all stranger dont have any meaning in a person life which i dont like...i am raised in a environment where u r not indepedent financially nor socially so i would like to raise my kids to have really islamic thoughts not the one we have in our culture in the name of islam but i will keep this in mind that they would come into this world at a different time than mine...i guess its saying of Ali (RA) that dont treat your children the same way as they came into this world for different times...correct me i dont remember exactly that saying...

but in the end i am not saying i am raised wrongly, my parents as a whole raised me well and tried their best, some might be my own weakness or personal likings.

Raj

No, Never, I was treated without respect although a kid i had my rights. I was treated like i was no good.

I will reason with my kids, make them understand why i do not agree with them, why i do not allow them to do things or behave, I will treat them as equals from the day there are born so that when they grow up instead of being frustarated and bitter they would be humans who care and understand.

Dryest Flame

there is something to be changed first of all I'll let them pray for now just to get used to do it I'm having sons but if i have daughter I'll let her love hejab to not be hard to wear it as it was hard for me and also I'll let them know how to save money

Abdullah

ASSLAM 3ALIKOM

i think i will brought them up in a way near to what had been done to me,with some improvement as we life in different era,

it will also depends on what my wife(isa) believes in,and what is her idea about bringing up children.

Brett B

If someone try to act like your parents brought them up i'm sure there would be no difference.It all depends on if you agree with the way you were brought up if you didn't than you shouldn't if you did try to, you have their genes in you and i'm sure you might have a little bit of personality or character as your parents.

Sultan Shalfat the Adventurer

Generally yes. I also have to make sure that I dont repeat my parents' mistakes and and listen to my dad's advice all the time, because he also wants me to learn from the past.

What will I change. I will make sure that I have the final word on what kind people are allowed in our house as family friends.

I will make sure that my priority is to look after and provide good life to my family, and my wife's priority is to look after the house and kids with my assitance, not the other way round.

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Pex

No, my life was terrible, and still remains the same. When I was a kid, my dad loved scolding me for little reasons,but today when my 8 yr old sister ran off on her own (in a shopping mall), I found her and scolded her, but then my dad blamed me as if I wasn't taking care of here (it wasn't easy because there were both of my younger sister's), but he used to lock me up in a closet downstrairs all alone in the dark when I was 8 (as if he was better). When I was 9, my parents divorced, making my life harder to handle. I loved my grandparents on my father's side, but then my grandparents from my mother's side moved to Pakistan, I had to follow them of course. When I came back after 3 years, my dad was completely different, he got married to another woman (he didn't tell me he was getting married), was nicer to my younger siblings making my life unfair, on Eid, I don't know where to celebrate my grandfather on my mother's side get's sad when I'm not there, but I want to celebrate with my father's side of the family, and on my birthday (which is at the end of the year) i always go to my father's side of the family (I live with my mother when not on the holidays), so my grandfather on my mother's side loves making fun of me/teasing (but i don't care because it shows how heartless soldiers are (he's a general)). Now my younger sister's are trying to take over my father's side of the family, the only thing i care about, making my life almost meaningless. I can't tell anymore, too depressed.

I'll change everything, take care of my future children fairly, try my best not to divorce my future wife, I won't marry another woman without telling anyone, try to not make my future children's life miserable, like i said, no more because i'm too depressed.

Bombshell

YES... because i was brought up and raised by my parents as a happy, healthy person.

Raising a happy, healthy child is one of the most challenging jobs a parent can have â€“ and one of the most rewarding. Yet many of us don't approach parenting with the same focus we would use for a job. We may act on our gut reactions, or just use the same parenting techniques our own parents used -- whether or not they were effective.

I'm Blind not Deaf

No, I will not be strict

wendy p

i would not bring my children up like i was because both my parents were alcoholics so need i say more

THE-GREEN-VISITOR

Actually ya Rana I think about my children a long time ago, this is because we live now in a very hard world where bringing up good children needs something like a miracle!

But I finally managed to put my mind at ease as follows:
My intention for having children is bringing up good Muslims who contribute effectively in bringing back glory of the Ummah, and having such an intention, I'm sure Allah will gift me a good wife and will help us bring them up well whatever bad conditions there may be.

5aragt men elmawdo3?
la2, mat5afeesh :-)
Another thing before I answer your q, NOTHING in this world made by a human is perfect, except for prophet Muhamed, peace be upon him, in delivering his message, do you agree with me?

So......you know now what I'm gonna say, I'll do my best to avoid any mistake happened in bringing me up, for imperfection of humans, not for my parents negligence, they've done their best actually and I owe them my life, and more.

Duke of Tudor

No, I would not. Because according to several parenting books, my parents made some mistakes in raising their children. They have never read any parenting literatures, so they did whatever they think best for their children.

I will read every parenting related information to make sure that whatever I do is for the best interest of my (future) children.

kanenga

No I would not. Times are changing and kids these days learn alot and are exposed to so many things because of magazines,t.v, friends and even through the internet. Back in the culture was followed but this days you have to be careful what ideas get into your childrens heads. If there is any question on any topic you should be the first one there to help your kids. Whether its about sex or life or any problem that they may have.

crystal

No i wont raise my kids the way i was raised...i never got to do anything in my child hood..i was very sheltered. and now as an adult im scared to do alot of things. so im not going to keep my children on strict rules like i was..but there will be rules..

*Â´`*â™¥â™¡Sarahâ˜º Beanzâ™¡â™¥*Â´`*

I am raising my son as i see fit... i would never raise them liek my parents did me... our punishment was either to be hit or not to be fed.... my step dad only allowed us 2 drinks a day and only lunch and dinner. so no i'd never raise my kids like i was rasied

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