Do you think that some1 not giving up their seat on a plane is rude?

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Astrid Nannerl

First of all, I think you need to ask for your seats together the next time you book for another flight.

Second of all, no one on the airplane is obligated to give up their seat unless it's like a life or death situation. It would be nice if he did, but he really doesn't have to.

So if you get split up the next time, try ask the flight attendant to help you.

aepr_a

It is rude but the ugly man also has right to keep his assigned seat.

salmonella_jr

yes that is, but i understand why he wanted that seat.. he payed for it, he didn't have to give it to you. the world doesn't cater to you.

justwondering101

no he paid for the ticket he deserves his seat, your rude for even posting this.

Robert W

No, it's his right to have the seat he paid for. It was your mom's responsibiliy to book the seats together, not his responsibily to give his seat up because your mom did not plan properly.

Isis-sama

Honestly? Your mother bought those plane seats apart from each other, probably hoping to get a deal -- no one forced her to do otherwise. The man who didn't want to move paid for his seat, as well, and shouldn't have been pressured to move because your mother decided upon getting to the airport that she didn't want to sit apart from her children. In most places, it would be considered rude to impose on someone else's generosity like that. In such a situation, I would not blame the man if he did not move -- if your mother was unwilling to deal with the consequences of her actions, she should have made sure to buy three seats that were next to each other. It's not like there are no seats like that on most planes.

Before you decide that something is rude, you should consider the specifics of the situation. You would consider it rude if another family tried to split up you, your mother and your sister if you were sitting together and they'd done the same thing your mother did, so why should the man give up the seat that he'd paid for?

CharlieG

Nope. Seats are assigned..if you didn't get the seats right, it's your problem.

Kappa Girl Jen

No, not really. Although it would have been very nice of him to give up his seat, it was NOT rude of him not to. He paid for his ticket and chose a window seat when he checked in at the ticket counter. If you and your mom and sister were spread apart, it would have been because the flight was very full and by the time you got to the ticket counter, there were no seats together.

It is polite to ask nicely if they will trade seats with you, but it is still ok for them to politely decline. How rude he was depends on his behavior when he answered your question.

one_n1ce_guy

Sometimes there are legitimate reasons why somebody would want a window/aisle seat. I have a co-worker who really doesn't like to fly. To cope, he has to get a window seat, so he can close the shade and not see outside. I hate to fly because it is so uncomfortable. For me, the best place is the aisle seat, so I can stretch at least one leg out into the aisle.

Flying absolutely sucks, and to cope, everybody has there own approach. I think that if you absolutely *must* fly in a group, and you want to sit together, you need to book your flight early enough to reserve your seats.

Otherwise, I'm not sure that it's fair to bump somebody out of the seat that they prefer, since they happened to reserve their seat first. To me, it's the equivalent of taking cuts in line.

Smiley

Actually, if your seats are split apart like that (my husband, child and I book our seats together 6 months in advance but the airline still changed our seats and split us up!!!) You can ask another passenger to change with you, but if you do change seats, it is better to offer them the same kind of seat (window, Isle) if you can`t do that, and they refuse, there is little you can do but simply split up (its only for a few hours anyway).

This also would have been a good opportunity to teach your sister that sometimes they can`t always get what they want in life and it is rude to complain or whine about it until you get what you want.

Angelbaby7

no, he paid for the seat and chose that seat when he booked, I think that you asked him to give it up and you were the one that was rude when he didn't want to, if he did it was a courtesy on his part. next time book three seats together, and you won't have that problem.

caroline. =]

Well.... no. If that man asked if he could have the window seat, you would say no too. Maybe it was his speacil place. Maybe it was his first time and he wanted to see how it works. Never call anybody rude if you would do it too!

DougF

I don't mind being asked to move, but I expect that you won't mind if I decline because I want to sit where I have arranged.

I'm not sure that your sister crying was rude, or perhaps it was your mother? You certainly are with the unkind reference you have made in your question.

rayinkcmo

you do not say when or where you were flying from or where in Florida you were flying to? most airlines that do fly into Florida are required to keep record of who was seated where in case of mishaps over open waters. so unless properly informing the flight attendents of seat changes the "ugly man" was in his respected seat.

gromit801

Dear spoiled little brat,

Some people have claustophobia and need a window seat, other need a window seat to deal with other flying fears.

Next time show a little maturity, keep your meat hole shut, and take the seats you got because your mom didn't book early enough.

He booked his ticket early so he could sit by the window. You missed out because your tickets were probably booked later. I once had an obese man demand that I move from the aisle to the middle so he didn't have to squeeze his body in between 2 seats. I gave in, because I'm way too nice, but I shouldn't have. I booked my flight early so I could sit on the aisle. He had no right to ask that of me.

ctelly22

No, I think it was rude to expect someone to give up their seat to accommodate you. Just like you he paid for his seat, next time book early enough so that you can choose your seat.

bondioli22

It sound worse than rude. The guy had his values and intention all mixed up. He was probably fairly clueless about the value he could have added to the situation had he been more flexible in his mind. The lesson in this story for you is to be tolerant and accepting of other people who will see the world differently than you.
For example; in this story you tell, it is clear that your mom did inadequate planning so that the seats available to her family were not conveniently grouped. She then let your sister misbehave to blackmail the person you call the "ugly man". He was in his assigned seat. He was where he was supposed to be. He had to accommodate your mother who planned poorly. Was it your mother who was rude or was it the man? Did your sister and mother misbehave or did the man?

Carrie Lynn A

Well people don't have to give up their seats but I have never heard of anyone have a problem especially with a chile. I would have given up my seat in a heart beat and I HATE flying

nutsfornouveau

it is Rude to make fun of a persons appearance. Not a problem. Perhaps that is just a little weakness on your part and you are
really a good person. Perhaps the man, did not want to be
displaced by a crying kid, whose parent did not think ahead
enough to secure adjoining seats., Perhaps he is not rude.
Maybe it is his weakness and he's really a good person.

â˜† iSparkle â˜†

Well, it's not like you're sitting on a bus and the seats are public/free...in a plane you actually pay for your seat..but yeah i guess it's rude if he wouldn't give it up for a FIVE year old

Andrew

No, it is just that they don't want to. They feel that it is important to get to where they need to go, and as soon as possible.

Skydog70

Almost everything people do on planes is rude.... I saw a news program about a lady and her son booted off a plane because the kid wouldn't be quiet, so they interviewed her and the kid was still fidgeting around, not being quiet, such a brat, I would have booted him off, too....

A. J. P

I would talk to the flight attendant about this problem. Yes the man paid for his seat and has every right to it, BUT, I can't imagine a 5 year old on an airplane not sitting by their mother or sister. Children are fussy enough on airplanes. They would only be worse if they weren't sitting next to their parent or siblings. It could make for a very uncomfortable flight for EVERYONE on the plane, not just for the child, if they couldn't sit with the rest of the family.

If the man wouldn't give up his seat, the flight attendant should ask other passengers, or even announce if anyone would be willing to move their seats so that a family of 3 could all sit together. I'm sure someone would volunteer. If passengers were all reluctant to move the flight attendant could remind the passengers how long the fight is and how fussy and little child can be sitting without their family. This would motivate someone to move. I'm sure the passengers who had to sit next to the 5 year old child would be more than happy if she could sit with her family.

mesmerized

i think that is pretty rude... i mean it is a 5yr old, at least let her sit on a plane with 1 person she knows so she wont be scared! lolz at least he gave it up. just next time ask the airline, b/c sometimes they are willing to move people around or do SOMETHING to help...

Kendra I

i think that is the rudest thing ever. your poor little sister!

Patrick P

Stewards / Stewardesses try to group families together, even at the point of moving people around so people sit with the people they are traveling with.

Normally it works out fine, but not always. Let's face things, in the light of all that exists, choosing to be a jerk and keep one's seat in that situation was unnecessary.

He should have moved. He acted like a 5 year old.

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