Am I being scammed by a girl in the Philippines?

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Carl R

You might consider a trip over there to see for yourself. That is my first recommendation. That way you can see her culture and really know who you're dealing with. There are a lot of good women in the Philippines seeking marriage, others are only seeking money and a way out of the country. It's a wise move to be careful. I suggest reading about the scams so you're familiar with the warning signs.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_scam
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advance_fee_fraud
http://wymoo.com/resources.html

The big one is the request for money. If she's had "emergencies" or other matters come up and is draining your wallet, end it immediately. If she hasn't asked for money and you've been talking for 6 months, you just may have found something. Either way, it's a good idea to get a background check. Wymoo does a good investigation and has offices in Manila and Cebu, Philippines. They should be able to go down the list and verify her story. Best of luck.

http://wymoo.com/index.html

SuGaR

Hi

I met my husband online too. The only thing you can do when you're using the internet to meet people is that you should be cautious all the time.

And when you meet someone special the only things you can do is TRUST & be HONEST and pray that the person on the other side is being honest to you too.

How can you say she is scamming you? Did she ask you for money? If you really want to marry her I suggest you visit her couple of month to get to know each other better.

When I met my husband in the internet we were both honest to each other. Then 3 months later he visited and we fill up the fiancÃ©e visa application together. And then he comes 3 more times to be with me on my birthday, medical exam& my visa interview. He did give me money for the paperwork because there is no way I can afford all the fees. He gave me money too on the first month we known each other because he wants me to get a better apartment and to pay for internet time when where chatting and talking on the phone.

There was no way I would cheat and used him, because I do love him, he trust me and I trust him. That's the only thing you can do, is TRUST.

I asked him about why he trusted me and give me money despite all the hearsay about girls you meet on the internet is just after you money, he said that he thought about it and decided that If he's going to send me the money he just look at it as money he just throw away, and the other point was that he also trusted and I never let me down.

There is no guarantee, about this woman you met but just pray that she's telling the truth.

Oh and if you visit her you should talk and tell her that you don' t want to be around a lot of people because the purpose of your visit is to get to know her , then on your next visit that's the time you should get to know her friends and family.

artlogical

So, are you even sure she is a woman?

Then, from the Phillipines?

Mindy

You didn't tell us what she's been asking of you to think you're being scammed.

If I were you, I wouldn't be thinking of marriage yet. Hell no! With all those questions you're asking... I suggest knowing the answers first.

Trust me, with the sorry state of our economy you have to be wary about a girl hoping you might be her meal ticket out of hardship. I'm Filipina and I'm not degrading my race, but some of them are just out to get you.

She may genuinely like you, but it's best to get these issues out of the way. Preferably before marriage.

BokBok

If you truly love that person, you should ask her all those questions, before you marry her. You have to get to know her first. The only way you can check out her story is to ask her, know her as a person, and accept who she is.

Leander

Dude, a lot of girls in the Philippines will do anything to go to the US. Marriage is a serious thing that you should think twice first. I know that things might be sad for you nowadays but having a relationship with someone that you haven't met personally is ourtrageous let alone marrying her.

There is also a slight chance that she might be genuine but she must be butt ugly if that's the case because she wouldn't use the ineternet to have a relationship. I suggest that if you really want her, don't marry her yet. You can visit and meet her personally and find out everything about her if she really is what she said she is. You should also find out if you are compatible or not. writing is different from personal conversations.

Just visit her frist but don't marry her right away. At least visit her 4 times first then decide if you last that long. I assure you that you will meet othert women in the Philippines so don't do a drastic thing...

Mike C

Why not take a short holiday then you can meet her friends and relations. You will soon get a feeling if it's right or not when you're face to face.

mariposang_gala

Yes you can check her status etc in National bureau an national statistic office..look for there website and youll see if your girl are really single..
Before my husband meet me in philippines.. we chat and mailing each others letter for a year so we know more better each other..He go to philippines after a year and spend one week and try to figure if we are really good for each other..if we are really compatible..see!!we are married now..

Flyinghorse

There are many success stories, but many other sad ones. As in any relationship, meet her first. One thing is communication in the Internet another is how you feel with that person face to face.

I have a friend that met his future wife in the Internet, sold everything and went to live to Philippines. The woman it seems is a good woman, but he arrived to very, VERY bad conditions that he was not expecting. He is an old man and things are not easy for him.

Before he left I begged him, to go FIRST to meet the woman and see where he was going to live and how he felt with her. If he would have done this a lot of trouble and headache would have been avoided.

There are wonderful people and bad people everywhere and the Internet makes it a perfect place for scams, but again, it happens in many other countries too.

Please visit her first, then you will know if she is the woman for you and if she is honest.

If she asks for money then it's a safe bet that she is scamming. Look around on Google for someone who can do a background check. It will cost you 150$-200$ but as least you will know for sure.

De_TouR

If you know someone from Cebu, there is a way to check the info, or you could post the info here and ask if anyone know her, but then if she knew about it, she'll probably get angry.

We're not as bad as you think, there are lots of Filipina that are true in love, an advice though... if she ask you for money (lots n lots of that) think twice, and better meet her first before you decide to marry her.

WÎ˜MBAT is 0% Snarky

I have to admit friend, there is a real chance it's a scam. You say you would like to marry this person, even though you have never actually met mano a mano.

First, it goes without saying, NEVER give this person any kind of money, no matter how plausible the circumstances.

Second, proceed with caution. You may want to try doing some voice or video chat, and, once you feel reasonably trustworthy, phone conversation. This hardly makes any guarantees, but does require slightly more of a good faith effort.

Third, if she has a personal page, or a public profile, try Google-ing some of the phrases and info you find there. Often times, scammers will simply cut and paste such information from legitimate sources.

Fourth, trust your instincts. If something doesn't seem just right, if this person seems hesitant, or else a little too eager about some particular detail, or seems to be pressuring you into something, make a note of it. Never give out any important personal information, that could be used for fraud, or identity theft.

If you do feel like meeting in person, be sure to make your *own* travel plans, go to meet her in the Philippines, plan to spend a few days, and make sure you have a *rock solid contingency plan*, in case things don't work out, or it turns out to be bogus.

http://www.datingnmore.com/fraud/scam_detection.htm
http://www.sourceuk.net/article/7/7348/online_dating_scams.html

Good luck,
~Soylent yellow

pinkdot

edit your question and add details as to the name of the girl plus other personal info she told you (or lied about???). this will probably allow us to research on this girl!!! or maybe, someone from us might even know her!

Chazzer

By Chat do you mean text only? You need to take it to the next level. In this case, I guess it would mean phone calls. I married a Filipina over 8 years ago I met over the net (and it wasn't prevalent back then like it is now). Talk to her and see what she says. Ignore your friends for now and if you feel its the right thing, get a passport and go see her. The best fares i have found is with a site listed in the sources. A lot of women there want to marry foreigners because it almost always means a better standard of living.

Trust your heart, go see her and observe. If all works well, your set!

ablair67

Dude, just find an fat or ugly girl her in the U.S. why spend all the time and trouble.

JayBee

if shes serious she will come over to your country for a holiday.

whats the need to jump into marriage so soon, give the impression that marriage wont be on the cards for years and see her reaction - she'll look for someone else if shes trying to scam i reckon.

Baby Kangaroo

i'm pinoy, and i'm gonna pretend i didn't catch any racist remarks and false generalizations...

you can check out her school, i guess. if she went to a university, it should have a website... but i doubt if you'll find information there specifically about her...

you ask if there's a way you can check out her story, what do you mean?

whether or not she's single, hmmm... is she from cebu city? maybe you can contact their local church, or the local census office... i don't know... it's gonna be pretty difficult man...

whether or not you're being scammed, it can't say for sure... but i kinda agree with your friends that this seems like a crazy idea...

Matt

No, not at all! I really think that this girl loves you since the VAST MAJORITY OF ALL FILIPINOS are crazed about marrying Caucasians anyway.

Tangengot

you want to marry a young single woman (you hope) that you have never physically seen before? she is halfway around the world and you met her 6 months ago. your friends seem to be acting as your conscience and common sense, in lieu of you lacking any. trust them and ignore your thoughts. not trying to be mean but we are just tyring to knock some sense into you.

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