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There are some truths to this when seeking a bride overseas. But it is not just from the Philippines, it happens in all the other countries, (From Asia of not), where many of their women seek husbands from "richer" nations. By the way, it happens in the U.S., too. Just for an example-in Hollywood, CA.
It works both ways, how do they know you're not scamming them? How do they know, you're not going to take advantage of them? I've also heard where men who seek wives from 3rd world countries, who treat them almost slave-like, while they (the men), do whatever they like, and have affairs with others.
Seek those who have the same belief system as you do. Continue the search for your life partner in your own country. You never know, you may find a Filipina who grew up in your country. |
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user
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its possible that their just gna use you for your money and a one wayb ticket away from the philippines.
im frm philippines and ive seen alot of westernizers dating filipinas who look like maids and they cant even talk english well. sometimes they even treat them like their westernized lover's stupid by talking in filipino with her other friends. ive seen alot of these happen.
but, there are still alot of nice girls out there who'll really care for guys, why not try going to philippines and try being friends with any filipino and may be he/she can introduce you to a friend aka a nice filipina :) |
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ytellu
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Why is it that guys like you will go on the Internet and subscribe to magazines--ask friends and associates
to give you their input ---before buying a digital camera
or Dvd ---researching like crazy---yet when it comes
to choosing a life partner will go on the Internet ?
The Internet has become a propoganda device---used
by governments as well as individuals to lie,cheat,steal
and it also used by good ---sometimes even "holy"
individuals and organizations to do good for mankind!
You never know what you are getting !
There are organizations existing that do a fairly good job of screening both individuals who are looking for life partners!
Several I know are in Hawaii--
The USA Dept.of Immigration does a good job of screening
in the Philippines and elsewhere---requiring some proof
on both sides that individuals show some proof that they
have met one another by travel---if not show correspondence
and the Agency interviews the parties extensively before
granting priviliges ---even requiing proof of support on
the part of the American partner for the other individual !
I know of many cases--including my own---where we met
through agencies---talked on the phone---corresponded for
a year ---met each other
and the families !---before jumping into marriage--!
You have to put a little effort into it---like all good things in life--
I'm also happy with my DVD ! |
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Clifford W certified hippiefied
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you are scamming yourself...... |
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John R
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What are you looking for in a relationship? Will you two be the same age, or are you 15-20 years older then her???
Tough to say if you are being scammed - the world is full of people looking for a quick buck. I am married to a filippina women (ten years & we are the same age) - I met her here in the USA, after she had lived in this country for 5+ years. She moved here at the same time as most of her family - they are a friendly group. One caution is that they do like to send money home to help out their many other relatives (not always a bad thing).
Another thing, if you are married, and it turns out the you are not compatible - once she is a citizen then she will leave you, but this is true in any relationship. good luck |
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Mutya P
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Well, just use your instincts, your sixth sense. Actually, I met a "good samaritan" American. But in the end, when I warned him about the other woman as my way to repay his kindness and generosity in helping me with my noble mission, he disliked me. So, just use your sixth sense.
Hope you will find the right person. |
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mayo
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my friend, a filipina, got engaged to this guy she met over the internet. their relationship lasted for more than 5 years and she did have genuine feelings for this guy. she wasn't after his money. their family isn't poor and she has siblings working in the us. in fact over the duration of the relationship, she sends him gifts. she did love the guy. i can attest to that. but sad to say, the guy was scamming her. we found out he was meeting other filipinas as well when ever he comes to visit and has proposed marriage to most of these women.
so, just be careful. some are genuine. some are just really after your money. |
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janey_bei
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You have to be careful. I am from this THIRD WORLD COUNTRY.. I must say Filipinas are generally good housewives. But I cannot deny the fact that there are some who would sort on this type of 'business' because they are poor. I suggest you get to know the lady first , don't search for a wife on an instant. Goodluck. |
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annabelle p
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It's not only in the Philippines that women fool men and lead them into thinking they are decent and trustworthy. If you are looking for a Filipina wife, make sure she is not out to make a fool of you like, as you said, scamming you. I can vouch though that these women only comprise about 1% of the total women whom you can trust and are genuine in their intentions. |
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freeverse
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I am fiipina and it realy hurts when we are stereotype as scammers/users,in the first place why guys like you hunt girls from the Philippines then?maybe because of some good things you heard?I mean i would assume that foreigners are also smart enough to analyze if the person is genuine or not.
It's just unfair for us coz when a question something like this..people will use the word ''Philippine ladies'' and not the specific name of those ladies who scammed them or they heard that did.
[sigh] |
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Maganda
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Love is like a gamble. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You can test her if she will ask you to "buy me this and buy me that" and mention "Western Union". If she does, well, beware!
Hope you will fine the Right woman :) IN GOD'S TIME. Happy hunting!
Take care. GOD BLESS! |
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PC
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Plenty of good advice being offered to you. It is up to you to drcide on the advice to take.
No they are not all scammers, some are just as some Westerners are. Don't fall for the first one, you have to take the time to meet and to get to know each other before any committment is made.
LGG you rock |
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beetlejuice
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You cant generalise about women from a certain country. What you need to decide is how safe and sane it is to court some lady, site unseen, that lives thousands of miles away, and still feel like you are making the right choice my considering her to be your wife. It is up to you to decide if you are doing the right thing but in many cases, the lure of the country is more appealing to her than you............... |
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jm42445
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Is this like a mail order bride? If so, then that is pretty damn wrong. Why would you want to marry someone without even knowing them first. Personally, I think inviting a complete stranger into one of the most intimate parts of your life, well maybe not yours but most people, is just a mistake. |
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xoxapplepiexox
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they are very kind and they treat you what you want. (not the bad stuff) anyway i hope when u marry a filipina she will discover the new world in any country but they are really hospitable and kind! no they are not scammers because i am here in the philippines! LOL! i am a british just on vacation! |
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swift20005
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I married a Filipina ! I went there and met her our marriage is 18 years old. Be careful and avoid Manila cause the gals there are to cunning fer western guys. Go to the province and just watch and let you heart and experience be your guide. if you meet one you like say nothing about marriage and see if she wants to hustle you ! Give her money for this and that and see if she gives you the change. Don't pick one that is too young for you cause this is a recipe for later marriage failure. See how she relates to her family ! Don't try to rush the procedure she won't run away . Above all remember - "let the buyer beware" PS there are many benefits to remaining a single guy ! don't court her through the internet :( |
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Kitz
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Hi Pal, you seem to be confused about the Filipinas or it can be you, yourself who is confused.
I do not know your specific story but I may help in my own little way. It is a fact that here in this world we live in... anywhere... there is good and bad.
Filipinas, in general, are good prospects for a wife. They are thoughtful and most of them are honest. I should know, I am a Filipino. My advice is that in the end, it's still you who could decide the right thing for you after you have known well the specific Filipina whom you want to marry someday.
Good luck, Pal.
Regards |
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daniel65ng
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Hi,
The first thing is for you to find out do really love ladies from phillipines or you are not sure.
if yes, watch out the level of communication she is giving you and also try as much as you can to pick the messages she sends to you from the you will know.
and also look out for how long it takes her to ask you for money from the you will know whether she scamming you or not .
Thanks |
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angie
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will im from philippine and looking to but now im working no time for love.will about your question nobody can tell or answer your question coz all the people have own characteristic about the attitude.if you know a person you know about what kind of attitude she or he. |
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Kojak
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There are no guarantees.....all relationships are built on trust
I wont lie to you there are Filipinas who will rip you off.....but that is true of women from any country.....no matter how you meet them
But in my opinion you stand a better chance of finding a good partner in the Philippines than any other country..... and if you treat them right they are very nurturing and loving..... a bonus they are very passionate....."real" not "plastic"
I recommend you take your time and get to know the lady....be aware that her reputation is often ruined by her association with you.....so she already sacrifices a lot just to be with you.....especially if you are older than her....
Relationships across cultures are very difficult. Take the time to learn her culture.....her values.....
Filipinas are very sensitive.......nonconfrontational....pr...
I speak in generalities....there are exceptions but these traits are usually consistent because of their culture
Pinoys have a unique culture centered on the family....when you relate/marry a Filipina.....you often "marry" the entire family...
I have lived here 5 years....be glad to help if I can |
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Kitten S
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Think about it...it's a bad idea. I'm not saying that these women are inherently good or bad, but you don't know what you are getting. For sure, a lot of them just want to get to the US because the living conditions and prospects are horrible, but don't you want her to love you for who you are? If you are determined to go this route, save up some $$$$ and move to the Philippines for a year and find a wife and bring her back. I even think that sounds a little nutty, but at least you'd get to know her and her family. |
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Tequila
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Lots of scam everywhere. Beware. First see for yourself personally and then settle for genuine people. |
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Souldancer88
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most of them are serious. besides, usually they are the losers at the end if they are just scammers because eventually they will depart from their "comfort zone" and tranfer to you "comfort zone" wherever your place is located. But just like any other places, there will always be scammers around 10% probably. |
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~o0o~
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if you think they are scammers, why not marry a woman of the same race that you are??? i guess it's much better as you have the same culture too. whereas, women from other countries, as you said, could be scammers but some are genuine. but this not only refer to the Phil women as i know a lot of Vietnamese people also are doing fake marriages just to enter into that country and have job to earn/save to get a better life in their own country in the future. what do you think? |
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Aref H4
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I assume of course you are not from the Philippines.
I am a Filipino, and from the Philippines, and it really worries me when questions like this are posted.
Is there no lady in your own land whom you could offer your love? Why do you bother to seek your partner for life from another land which is a stranger to you, thus precipitating your fears?
Filipinas are imbued with honor, sir. If you offer honor, then honor will be returned. If your intentions are not honorable, then blood will be spilled. |
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Mad n Bad
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russian = scammers, phil =OK
Liquidate and drop all assets into swiss bank account so you are prepared |
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lukas
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you should personally go to the phils to meet them, never through internet |
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jsemkralfootball
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they will marry you but after citizenship and a trip to the big PX, they will make your life HELL |
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MIla M
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all of them are scammers, lol |
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LuckyO
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Personally, I think it's pathetic that you can't find a wife so you have to resort to contacting women in 3rd world countries.
Good luck - don't abuse her - and remember - you don't know what you're getting until she gets here. |
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trashcanman33487
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Yeah, um, dude!
I hope you don't live in a city, because you'd get hustled out of every penny! Don't trust these things, EVER!!! If it seems too good to be true, it IS!!! |
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