debonaire_25
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Sorry dude... I think you got the short end of the stick... How did you meet your wife? Online? Pen Pal? The Philippine population from last I heard is 70% below the poverty line. I've seen it many times... Filipinas marrying foreigners for their money... so that they may help their poor family members get a better quality of life... I see nothing wrong with this... but to be very demanding and getting all cross just because you want part of your hard earned money? I am Filipino and married to a loving Filipina wife... and she is not at all like that... I think you should reassess your relationship with your wife... Does she take care of you? Does she love you for you and not your money? Ask yourself the hard questions and maybe it's not too late to set your marriage straight. Lastly, be a man... stand up and be heard if things are not quite right. |
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freeverse
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I'm sorry to hear your situation but NO, not all Filipino women are like that,it's just your wife.Though I will not lie that there are people who changed and can't remember where they came from once they leave the country.Better communication will help her realize things.
Good luck |
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ricks bro
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This is not typical. This sounds like a relationship circling the drain and so you should either fix it quick or get out easy as that. Just sit down and talk about your feelings with her. |
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iscikedelic
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I am a Filipina, also married to American. He never supported my family nor gave any money at any reason. I made sure of that because I don't want him to think that I married him because of money and also my family think it will not be a good idea. Our culture is very family oriented and I can tell that it is not a big deal for you that you are helping her family and the main problem is your wife could be expecting so much more. She is lucky enough to marry an American, frankly speaking she can never had a good life as she is having now as your husband, if she search for a Filipino, she could ended up marrying a jobless one because the truth is most Americans do marry not so pretty girls in Philippine standards or taste...so unless she is educated she can never get a good guy that can be a good provider. Many Filipino guy are responsible and a good catch but I guess she cannot have that because again, she might not be as pretty as Americans like you think...so marrying you, she is lucky enough.
I think she must be grateful for that. I don't reccommend you to fight with her but I think you can sit down and talk to her about her being capricious and that you never lied to her. Remember that you already married her and you must accept all the evil in her. I beieve that you can still change her to become a better person.
For your question if all Filipinas are selfish...my answer is NO, most of us are selfless and willling to sacrifice ourselves for the people we love. |
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danny boy
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she's definitely NOT a typical pinay. |
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khn_mchl
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How long did you know her before you married her? |
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jnnypacheco
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NO i thing is just you wife. |
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`♥•Debbie the PINAY`♥•
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big fat NO.
please don't generalize filipino people. |
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Big P
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I am amazed to hear your story about your wife.
You know sometimes I play with the way I answer questions here on this website but to be honest, I think most filipina's is much better than that. She is not a typical filipina.
Overall, Filipina's is outstanding. |
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STL Biker
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Not all filipinas are like your wife but your wife married you for your money and now she is freaking out because now she realizes you are not as rich as she thought you would be. I am 100% certain of this.
Not all filipinas are like that. I have met many filipinas that would never marry for money alone. Those filipinas are usually the type that marry their own filipino blood. |
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CuriousWoman
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Just a bad luck! |
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Darkskinnyboy
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No, probably just your wife. |
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Binibini
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just your WIFE!
divorce her a*s*s if she continue her selfish attitude. |
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annabelle p
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No, she is not a typical Filipina. She is one of the rotting eggs in a basket and needs to be thrown out.
I am a Filipina and am very ashamed of what she is making of herself. It is women like her who gives us Filipinos a very bad name or image and to think she is only a negligible percentage in our population.
Don't be a henpecked husband. You have as much right to the money as she has because you earned it, you own it. Be firm and don't give in to her tantrums, show her who the man is in the house. It is enough that you feed and clothe her and give her what she wants; your responsibility ends with her, not to her family or extended family. You may help her family from time to time but it is for you to decide whether you do or not - she can't be so selfish as to ask for something which you are not duty-bound.
I can empathize with her in some ways like wanting to help her family. She may have come from an impoverished family in the Philippines but, at least, she should show some decency and pride in being a woman, of being a Filipina. She should understand that marrying you doesn't mean you will always be the savior or knight in shining armor for her family. It is enough that you have helped her family start their own business, to stand on their own so as not to depend for all time on you.
I am sorry that you had to meet and marry someone who is a great spoiler but maybe, in time, she'll change to someone who will make you proud. Talk to her, make her understand that you can't always be her family's savior. Good luck! |
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Brian F
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No, they aren't. Sorry that you have a bad wife, but it has nothing to do with her being Filipino. You really shouldn't be stereotyping. |
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still
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It's hard to understand for a wife to scream at her husband just for asking a dollar. Maybe there is a very good reason for that. It's hard for me to assume but I guess she is so fed up with something. No matter what race a woman is, she can get bitchy if her husband is a good for nothing husband. It has nothing to do with race. We must remember, the coin has two sides. |
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cheddar
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gush, its a bit same tale with henry and terry of the amazing race race asia 2? But then, its not the race your problem its her upbringing and her family background...it happens so all over the world... |
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lyt10
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It's a shame when you label all Filipinas as selfish women. You're just unlucky to find a selfish one. May it be a Filipina or not selfish people really do exist. You should have taken the initiative to know her better before marrying her. She's actually showing the signs of her being obsessed with money when you met her but just ignored it for the simple fact that you love her. And since you're already in that situation you can live with it for the rest of your lives or have an option to break it with her and find someone who can understand your financial situation. Or better yet communicate with her and let her fully understand that you're telling the truth about your financial situation and she must at least be considerate of what you're going through. Goodluck! |
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dyelai
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Sorry, I think it's just your wife. Talk to her nicely. Express your thoughts and feelings. |
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JudasChylde
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Dude, I've met people from Spain who hide the truth, customers from the US who bawl me out on the phone and suppliers from China who hound me for sales; but I don't think that Spaniards are liars, that Americans are rude or that Chinese are pushy.
It takes all kinds.
I empathize with your predicament with your wife, but her country of origin has little to do with that aspect of her personality. |
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ThinkTank
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May be your wife is not a full blooded pinay! . . . lol. |
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iyang
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of course not...
filipinas are submissive and caring...
feel sorry for u.. |
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reigningbreeze
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i think your too unlucky to have her as your wife.
if you'll know some foreigners like you who have a filipino wife, you'll be very jealous on how they are very happy with their relationship.
i know a lot of them.
actually, my cousin has an american husband and they are really satisfied with one another.
and this weekend, they'll visit the philippines.
and they'll go to boracay. i wish they'll let me come with them. ^_^ |
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SNL
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not all women are selfish and unfortunately, your wife is one of them. hmmmppp. not your typical filipina and i'm truly sorry that you end up with someone like her. hmmmppp. you know what to do. hmmmpp. |
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dave i am
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Be a man... Don't let her toy you around.. but don't hurt her physically... If you have to leave her then do so... you married her cause you love her.. but I think she marries you cause she thinks your loaded... well though luck but you gotta do what you gotta do... |
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Bitter Guy
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just your wife and my ex wife too! Divorce and Anullment is the way to go my friend, unless you have kids then marriage counseling perhaps? |
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Crissa
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Being a Filipina myself, its not 1st time that I heard same stories as yours. Hurt to admit but there are Filipina's who is same as your wife but these are not the typical Filipino women. In fact the typical Filipina are the one that have its own career, graduate of a degree course & earning money of its own. Yah, they help financially their family (a Filipino way of paying your respect & love for your parents & siblings) but once they got married, their family understand that she has her own life now. She can still help but not that much, because parents felt shame towards her husband.
You did not give the family backgroud & lifestyle of your wife. I have the feeling that maybe she came... lets say not a well done family or they have this thinking that you are rich (although you said that you are not & you tell it to your wife before you marry her, but maybe she dont believe you). Sorry to say this but maybe one of the reason why she marry you was because of your money & the thinking that her family can benefit from that. Situation now have no turning back, she is your wife now & if you do love her, sit down & discuss what you felt & the situation that is going on. If she loves you more than the money then she will understand & explain everything to her family & learn to accept the life you can offer only. If everything turn the other way around, I hate to say this but no other way but to get divorced & move on with each other life otherwise both of your life will be miserable & frustrations. Goodluck & God bless. |
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Talk about bad luck.
The typical Filipina is submissive & selfless. Are you sure your wife is a Filipina?? |
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help_me
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No, not all Filipino women are into money. I'm a Filipina too and I'm married to an American. Since I lived and worked in the US too before we met, I know that not all Americans are rich and it's hard to earn money. Maybe you should let your wife realize that you don't pick money on trees. She should experience how hard it is to earn money. Educate her and you are not required to help her family. |
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kuanas
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just your wife. (shame on her!)
amen. |
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Big B
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Dont worry mate, your not the only foreigner that thinks that way towards filipinas.
To be honest with u, alot of filipina's are dedicated to their families and like to send money back to their parents / families back in philippines. Which often means that the foreigner husband gets left out of the picture - even though he is the money / bread winner.
Filipinas also love to show off - they get extremely jealous if one of their friends has something that they dont - be it a mobile phone, motor scooter etc etc. And they cant stand it when they dont have something that their friends have. They will want money to show off to their friends for shopping etc.
Alot of filipinas also come from impoverished backgrounds. Depends on how they handle it - some filipina's are very humble and thankful for what they have, but others are extremely jealous - and want the best of everything for themselvs and the family.
Last point - mothers! Some filipina's get their demanding money from their damn mothers, especially if they have come from families where the mother has dominated over the father. You can bet your life that the daughter will turn out exactly like the mother - best thing to do is to get her away from the influence of the family and tell her - husband is first or there is the door.
You have to put your foot down and let them know who is boss. Back in the philippines, their filipino husbands would give them a good backhand for smart mouthing or take them out and put a bullet thru them. Just because they have foreigner husband, have to let them know who is boss.
If they dont like it, point to the door and wave bye bye. Tell them your the husband, not the money ko. |
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