Can chinese marry more than one?

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Marriage is considered a secular issue in Buddhism. As such, the religion is silent on issues of polygamy and monogamy. Marriage is seen simply as a social contract and is not believed to essential. No God instructed the Buddha that people should get married.

In this respect monogamy and polygamy are not right or wrong (therefore, the concept of 'sin' does not exist here) but simply ways of arranging oneâ€™s life. However, Buddhists would not seek to promote relationships which were against what was allowed in civil law.

Orthodox/Theravada Buddhist philosophy suggests refraining from extra-marital affairs which would harm the existing relationship between two. The decision on having a mistress is an extra-marital affair and is considered negative in terms of one's religious perspective/practice (unless consented by one's wife to have the second woman taken as a consort).

There had been numerous mentions in Buddhist and classical Indian texts on the practice of consorts (as they are 'legal' wives, rather than extra-marital affairs) and none of them had been considered positive or negative as what determines it is one's karmic influences and intention (as per Islamic concept it is the 'niyat').

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Before you summarize, learn more about who is a Chinese or what Buddhism is. Also, it is important to know who is a mistress and who is a consort. They are all different and non-related in every sense and NO, Buddhism didn't come from China... LOL
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Azayi, there is NO concept of sin in Buddhist teachings, please do some research, will you?! Give us facts if you'd like to argue on this.
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Azayi, thanks for your kind gesture, but I am not mentioning about you summarizing anything here. Its just that your question seems a little vague and I don't quite get you, so my answer is mainly based on Buddhist concepts as you had mentioned in your question. Nothing to contradict here and I hope you understand.

I am more concerned about the misunderstanding and ignorance about Buddhistic approaches by many Malaysians with this regard and most especially from my non-Buddhist friends. Buddhism have became a scapegoat for those who are lazy to explain their traditional cultural practices when being questioned and there is a strong misconception on this aspect. Many people call themselves Buddhists without even knowing the basis of Buddhist teachings itself, as per Hindus today who are ignorant about their own religion.

By the way, I'm not being 'hard' on you. Just sharing... and this is the usual style of my write ups. Don't expect me to be manja with you cos' I'm not gay, matey :-)

VINI Vidi Vici - Drank, saw, hit

No.

A man with a 1" penis, glasses and bad breath should not take more than 1 wife.

hehe haha

The question itself and many of the answers seem to underline the general ignorance.

Chinese are a race and not a religion. Chinese who are muslims will have to abide by muslim laws and can marry up to 4. Chinese who are Christians, Buddhists and other religions abide by their respective faith and whatever the rules are for marriages. Chinese atheists will abide by the secular laws of the land.

Not all Chinese are buddhists. Unlike Malays, Chinese have a right to choose their own faith.

Sad to see personal attacks by people like Musa. Grow up please.

anderson

no they cant. the 2nd one is a mistress.

no money

lol
marrying legally---- NO!
keeping mistresses--- CAN..but secretly.. dont let ur wife know..

btw, keeping a mistress is the most most most damn idiot stupid thing on earth.. u giv her all ur hard earn money..
if the man loves the mistress so much then divorce la.. why wanna seksa the wife?

aUDREy TTT

You can marry one but you can have many mistresses, as long as you have enough money to satisfy them all...

This topic is not able religion. This is up to individuals. But looking at this from another angle, you can say it is sinful cos as a married man, your responsibility should be towards home. Most men tends to sway away and gets sick with their old wife. They tend to want something more attractive, whereby who doesn't want attractive things. Some are wanting mistresses because their friends have got one (which is worse cos such man doesn't even know what they want in life).

Many a time, when I happen to know of friends having mistress, I feel sad for them. Sad for them because they are spending more money. Sad for them because they are setting bad impression to many others, especially their children. Sad for them and for the mistress that they cannot be seen going out together like a real family. Sad for them because they live their life in fear that one day the wife would find out.

I am not too much in religion but all I can say is that today you meddle with other people's daughter whereby you cannot give her a name, someday someone else will meddle with your own daughter. Retribution is what I believe..

My statement above are just my opinion and I hope I have not offended anyone reading here.

Tang J

if your wife allow then ok

Dr.chickencurry

azayi sejak biler you started to sharing and caring dgn sahabat buddhist you? wei...tak baik kepoh kepoh kat umah org. balik tido k. kesian beruang taip panjang panjang for u.

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Legally, no. Unoficially, yes. Only the legally married wife is recognised in the eyes of the law. Others, though known as 2nd or 3rd wives, are merely mistresses.

Can't comment from the aspect of religion though as I'm not a staunch practising Buddhist. I've always thought that it's more of a matter of culture - men's culture! Look at men the world over and name me a place/country where no man has more than 1 wife, legally or not! That means no adultery at all!
(I know, I know, some of you're going to get real defensive about this!)
:)

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By the way, Musa, do you realise you're acting in a very juvenile manner - that means childish - by launching personal attacks on others. Grow up!

legally no..if their wives allow sure can lah
buddhist teaching dint state that its a sin to have a mistress
unless you goda ppls wife
unlike muslims, muslims can have 4 or 5 wives

new_once

I am a Chinese.

Legally no. Cause our law doesn't allow.
But practically, they are lots of people keeping mistress.

There is nothing to do with Buddhism as Buddhism does not talk about this. It is more on the cultural issue from Chinese ancient history.

Bo.$$

agree with NoMoney

LittleBoy

Legally - NO!
But they can take a second wife as a mistress without registering.

dpkdrj

Chinese have no religion,hence they are not restricted by rule.except the first one, the second becomes mistress,which is common for all.Buddhist religion does not suggest anything about having a mistress.Buddha left even his only wife,and advocated to leave all the pleasure of this world.most Chinese do not follow any religion.however ,it is not a sin, to have a mistress, may be a crime according to other countries which do not permit polygamy.

D.Connolly

hmm from what i heard dulu dulu
its like having a mistress is a sign of wealth , prosper or something like that .. most of the time they will have one wife and a mistress.. but the wife will know about the mistress..

one of my grandfather friends, he got one wife and one mistress and they live in one big house together with their 14 kids.. but the wife will have control of everything..

religon wise i donoe

For Chinese illegally can married one woman only. That is what Anderson had mention. If the same person has another woman is called mistress. So the answer is yes!!

This is nothing to do with Chinese religious. Chinese are not all believed in Buddies. Most of the Chinese do not have mistress, for those who does is only the minorities.

Gigi the teeth

No way. It's illegal. You can only have a registered wife, others are mistress. For me it's wrong to have a mistress because you have a wife and you should be responsible to her, take care of her, and love her for all of your life. But now you have an extra one.

It's wrong and illegal from the laws & moral.

Buddhist and marriage? The Buddhist monks & nuns don't married.. So you think by yourself...

jacy

No. Chinese can't marry more than one. It is illegal.
It is not about religion or sin. It is illegal.
Not fair to the partner.
Think in another way: Do you mind sharing your partner with someone else?

pontiniak

Karena

Some people like you never learn. What's the point?

lialove_18

Well, now this days almost everything is a sin

Jedi Sapiens

nope that is called adultery, why you assume that most Chinese are pagan most of them right now are Christian, having more than one wife is a sin,

Khamirul Bin Mataree

No! The old time they used to have plenty.... Nowaday, they don't.

Sin or not ..... I don't know.

mak

Chinese are nonreligious. So they dont have any restrictions of marries from that side. But the present chinese society and govt do not aloow more than one wife at a time. So they dont marry more than one. As they dont have religious restriction, so they may have some other means (so called mistress) to stay with women.
According to budda, it is not permissible to have such mistress.

ANDERSON P

I agreed with He he haha and if you r are underage, i suggest you have your parents with you whenever you are online. One thing good about YA is to educate ignorant child and little lost soul like you. Well, from today, start be friend-ly with non malay and non muslims especially on other religions so that you don keep on wondering and jatuh inside longkang. If malaysia is so harmony then you must be living on a tree somewhere in Bornea or Taman Negara for not getting to know other malaysians better!

Religion asides, it is common sense to only have one legalised spouse. IT is the same under law everywhere in the world except Islam countries cos they cant separate religion with government/politic. This is fair hence horny men or gatal b""h want to have more than one, then it their bloody business whether their wife or husband excepted it or not, is also their own bloody business . Is the same why islam can allows up to 4 , so does it means that their man are so horny or the muslim women is so desperate that they don mind sharing. Some gave me answers that to legalise 4 wives is better than having mistress. So can we legalise robbery, raping, murdering to curb the problem?!?!

zoidgirl0905

yes they can
no it is not a sin
PK and anderson:
they can because i'm Taiwanese and i know that

tasyreen

I don't they can, that is why they have mistress. .

ashley**xoxo

i think it depends on the religion of the person..
im not sure though..

ZxssxZ

Most chinese, they don't have religion.Most of them are non believer.So they are free to do what they like.Buddhism doesn't preach marry more than one woman.

musa

bear diam lah wat u know about org cina and u onli go amibatha always

u must lern from us dat u ppl dosa alot dats y never kno about jalan kebenaran

balik thailand la woi, sibuk wif our contry 4wat?

malaysia boleh, we dun need u here

i agree wif azayi said u r a clone

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