Dominant Women: What would you do if?

Show all answers

Bean

*blush*

HRH Shim

You don't need to be dominant to say NO to a philanderer. However, he wouldn't proceed to a point of talking about second marriage if you hadn't contribute to this infidelity as the saying goes, it takes two to tango.

Optimus Nate Primalâ„¢

how can we trust someone virtually? if we know someone virtually for 5 or 10 years, can you tell he or she honest or pious person. 75% of communication come from non-verbal comm, from these gestures, eye contact etc we can know someone if good or honest. how can we trust person by looking from his or her writing. to me, virtual social life just for entertainment, seeking info and education... not for love.

Puan Sri kiki. lala

well something tells me that the man is datuk K and the lady is u..
miahaha! kn?kn?
tettttttt..

happy thursday.
pardon me if i'm wrong.ecewahh..

Adi Keladi

I don't know why my instinct says this is actually happening and not just another Q in Yam. Why ah?

Edit: Yaya's answer on behalf of all dominant women in YAM,
DO NOT break another woman's heart just for the sake of a disloyal, faithless husband.

(she's just started her fast in YAM, just pray that her fast is not broken by you-know-who).

Zee..zzzz....

Oh..NO! I can never be second.

I want to be the first and there is no second of me. (urrmm...what kind of sentence is that?)

Virtually, almost everyone wants to be perfect.
So, he might not be so perfect at home with his wife,
so he created an imaginary personality, a perfect man.
Charming prince in shiny armour .....or shiny BMW 5 series.

Don't judge a book by it's cover, people say.
So...flip and read the book until its finished.
(Humm...I'm talking rubbish)

Wild Bean

Nope if it involved a already comitted guy ... cuz

Why is a married or engaged man flirting around and used cars the same ?

Both are cheap and unreliable.

Î¨Î¾There is Peace in Ya!m$eng

^
|
|
is it him?u wanna marry a bird?
u know malaysia govermant won't allow marriage between human & bird.........

Jeffy

^
babe,
in virtual world, its hard to see a person's real character..
we only know what they allow us to know..
so when we feel the man is perfect, he might not be so perfect at all in the real world..

being a second wife is REALLY not a good idea.
if a married man can go round finding a second wife..
most probably there will be third and fourth wife too!
in the end who will suffer?
the wives..right!

if he can do that [cari bini muda] to his own wife, who probably stood by his side through the rough patches and difficult times..
he can do the same thing to his second wife too..

Reyna D D

never ever trust a married man.. coz they are all liars.. they lie abt their wife to get closer to their prey
he will be as good as the saint and as soft as the cotton ball..
he will be as gentle as the wind in ur hair and anger will never arise no matter how his prey push him down..

any woman who has this in her mind will never fall for a married man..

lets talk-now w

cheekeedee..i agree with Shim, its not about Dominent or non
its about doing a right thing...

mr crab

spill the beans then... who is it?

white_dove0902

are you in love with Jedi !!! kah! kah ! kah !

Ryuzaki "L" The KiD

Virtual world is not the same as real human world.
But, to tell you the truth, i disagree if you wanna marry someone who already belongs to someone else. I dont care bout religion stuff regarding this matter coz it just unacceptable.
Dont think only bout you and that someone but oso others such as his wife, kids etc.. so, dont trust any online love k. the probability is 10% real only.

Â©actâŠâŠaÂ®

Majority of the answers tell you not to do it...and, from a moral viewpoint, I agree with them.

I'm sure in your present predicament you'd have already consider all sides of the argument; the man, his wife, his kids, your future, the consequences, etc.

Having gone through my share of marital woes, I now know that couples stay in a marriage for many different reasons. It'd be patronising for me to tell you to save yourself the heartache, save someone else the heartache! But should you decide to go for it, you must be prepared for the string of problems that will likely follow.

*Fyi, it's always exciting the first few months, stay a while, you might feel differently. Just don't rush into a decision. Stand back, look at the matter from a third party's perspective.*

I feel for you...take care.

--------------
Hah! Hushpuppy...I guessed right!

yuanyuan

That is rather easy to solve if I am the one in your case Cheekede. Let me assume that both of you accept and are very comfortable with the rules of your religion, i.e. 2nd wife allowed. Then the next thing to do is meet each other in the real world. After all you can't set a wedding even before u have really met in person, right? As the answerers above me have said, there could be a gazillion differences in virtual world compared to reality. What if he has the grooming habits like what we imagine of Daun? That's probably a small thing but then again, who knows, that might turn u off completely, lol!

As for your problem of becoming a second wife, well if you are the dominant type, let us just hope that the original wife is not of like personality, otherwise, you will be in for a lot of battles if u do decide to boldly take the plunge.

In short, you have a lot to consider dear, and if even now u know in your heart you wouldn't wanna be second fiddle, then I suggest you forget all about it. But if you think u love him too much that you'll accept the presented fact, then the next most important thing is meet him. Don't ever decide anything until you've met, and even then, you have to give it time. What is a couple of months or more if you are deciding for a life-long future, right? Good luck :)

Of course, I would also like to tell u that for myself personally , considering my real-life personality, I would never,ever accept to be second fiddle, no sire!:) And then again, we might have exactly opposing personalities so there, it's a case-to-case basis.

GINDURAS

honestly, i dont like very long question

lim

datuk kacang?haha.

virtual love almost didn't exist.if he's already got a wife lagi teruk.tell her wife if he's serious.

hushpuppy

well believe it or not, i always say i can always always stand right and testify to my beliefs. but your question this time really really slapped me very hard in the face.

i said i dont touch someone else's man, right. yes i did say that and no i havent touched anyone's man yet. but i am kinda involved with a married man at the moment. went out a few times and... i have never been able to tell anyone what is my type of guy until him. lol i have a feeling that he is my type of man except of course he is married and i have no intention to be a mistress now or ever. or homewrecker, whatever you like to call. i despise those who do and think they are very stupid. apart from being emotionally demanding i am also extremely possessive and territorial, it definitely will kill me to share a man with anyone... me being first or not. no way.

im still going out with this guy though with the mutual understanding that it's ever only going to be platonic and i really love this same phase that we are at. remember i said about my greatest company/date in years? thats really how i feel. i have nothing to hide as the wifey knows he knows and i know whats happening. so it's all good but no doubt i am very conscious about his status too... remember my question where i said i was very conscious about the "wrongness" of a thing i do but i am certain i am continuing that way? well... truth be told, this is it.

anybody can condemn what i do, but i am here and enjoying things as they come along. i may cry in the future if my attraction grows deeper but at the end of the day i have only myself to blame :) who knows before its too late, i have another love interest? haHa

lol not sure whether i am a dominant woman... but yeap, thats what im going to do... keep going out until the day i feel i would cry. do i make sense?

----

as for online virtual love... as much as i'd like to say i am a realistic person, i was young once. i believe things can still be real over the internet, it is really up to individuals. the love interest i had over the internet back then actually realised to become a real relationship and lasted for 5 years.... pretty genuine i would say and am confident that there hasnt been a lie between us until the last few weeks we were together.

so there, my bloody uninteresting virtual love and "affair" with a married man.

i just havent had an affair with a married man online. lol

---

lol cactuar... half right, can or not??

Enter Your Message or Comment

User Name:
User Email:
Post a comment: