Filipina Wife?

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jan-na~â™¥~ and im luvin it

in the bedroom:
tell it in a nice way like "honey, i love it when you're on top"..
add encouraging words like "you're body is beautiful when you.."

and out:
encourage her or ask for her opinion when making a decision then come up with a plan using her suggestion and praise her when it goes well. if her plan is not oh-so-good.. revise it but still dont forget to acknowledge her ideas..

chattemm

don't worry, most filipina women nowadays, especially the modern ones, are not that submissive. it's a stereotype that most westerners have that filipinas (and asians, for that matter) make submissive gf's and wives.

it won't hurt to have a heart to heart talk with her. after all, communication is a very important part of marriage. if you're worrying about being viewed by your wife and/or others as a weakling or something, for as long as you have your wife's respect and she shows it, there's nothing to worry about.

Ruby Alice Love

I've been in this situation, my man wanted me to be the dominatrix not only in the bed but in our every day lives outside of sex. At first I was hesitant, but I listened and I warmed up to it. Since she's your wife I'm sure she'll listen to you if you're upfront and honest.

Carl_the_Truth

WRONG !!! I have NEVER known any Filipina that was submissive ! NONSENSE ! Just talk to her ! And it's no-ones business what the two of you do when you're alone !

Love!

Just talk to her. Tell her that you'd like her to take charge in the bedroom and be more dominant, and you'd prefer to be more submissive. Suggest that maybe you role play or do mild things. like maybe tying your hands up with a thin scarf or something. Keep it relaxed and simple for a while, just ask her to try it. Don't forget to try things she'd like to, as well.

Sirena

just suggest to her what you want. it's okay to spice up the matrimonial bed and role playing is a safe acceptable alternative. you've been married for 4 years; surely, you can be candid about these things with her. have fun!

Cici

that's the problem. u knew it coming didn't u lol. ok serious now. as u would have already known by then, many filipinas are quite traditional/conservative. your wife might have a hard time understanding the "concept" at first, but i think if u explain to her slowly and let her do some samples, ahem, then both of u will do fine.

ken_r41

Buy some movies and be patient. Your situation will improve in time

Username

I will tell you this, Filipinas we're raised where the male is dominant (I'm not even sure if that's true) but if they were they'd probably be all dead by now. All people are different, so you don't have to say "filipina wife" and just say "wife" cause it's kind of insulting cause it like your saying all filipina women think the same. Well, we don't, and just tell her and you'll be fine since she loves you

nang.amie

we filipinas prefer macho men.

GordonGekko

This might pose a problem, as traditional Filipinas are used to Macho men, and conservative Filipinas do not even want to discuss this.
My advice: talk to her, but take it slow.

mizfashionablylate

I guess role play buy her a sexy cop outfit and play cops and robbers. tell her what you want her to do to you.

D Happy One

Do it one by one. Don't tell her suddenly.Good Luck

Giles Phite

You could have married a dominant Filipina, but you chose your wife for so many reasons beyond bedroom acrobatics. If she is not bedroom-dominant now, she would most likely stay that way. NO< YOU MUST NOT VERBALIZE your wish to be submissive. She might find it odd. If you really prefer to be submissive, you must find subtle ways to make this scenario happen. And you must do this little by little, so that she is not bothered about changing roles.

you rock

You could always try the up fronte approach. Just tell her what makes you tick and you never know you could be pleasently suprised. It worked for me.

Paix

Just be honest with her, let her know how you feel and talk it out.

Sophie79

You know what... I have always considered myself to be a traditional kind of Filipina... But when my partner opened up about all his sexual fantasies and revealed his preferences, I learned to cope -- because I love him and wanted to please him -- and I have grown to like the non-traditional side of our sex life. (See, Filipinas were taught to be submissive -- yes. But we were also taught to care for and "please" our husbands.)

You two have been together for four years (at least), so I'm sure you know what she can and cannot accept. Just be honest and broach the subject carefully... Perhaps start off with the old cliche: What's your wildest sexual fantasy?

Good luck.

Felicity???

Speak your mind to her... little by little. <*-*>

Sharon O

If I was your wife.. I would not like it at all.. this will be a surprise to her and she just may not like it... good lu ck...

Louie Liverlips

That could take some doing. Filipinas are raised to be submissive, and males dominant.

You might want to look at a German wife instead.

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