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You know.....I never got this whole deal with meeting the love of your life over the internet. I've dated plenty of girls and can tell you that not everyone that you meet is the perfect one.
I don't understand how you could fall in love with someone online without even meeting them in person. Yeah they may be a good chatter over their computer but a bad conversationalist in person. Somebody could be hot tempered, psycho, or just doesn't have chemistry with you when you really get to know them. Plus people may not be completely honest on the internet. I mean you don't see this person on a day to day basis so you really don't know if what they say is really true.
The only thing I can tell you is to meet this girl in person. And spend an extended amount of time with them to see what this person is really like. You might be pleasantly surprise or in for a rude awakening. I mean this person could be trying to scam you, marry for money, citizenship or whatever. They might take advantage of you so be careful. I wouldn't just trust any random person online with my heart let alone opening the door into my entire life. |
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There are some scams associated with internet romance however, I think there are also many success stories about marrying Filipinas. Every one have a different experience. It would be hard to advise you without specific details, which I don't really want to know about. I know many American men who married Filipinas and are very happy together for years. There are good people and bad people everywhere. Just use your own judgment and follow your heart. It would be tragic for both of you if you pass on this opportunity to meet and marry the woman of your dreams. It would haunt you for years to come. Take a little risk and go and meet her face to face and see if that magic is still there in person. If it doesn't work out at least you will know. And you will have visited a very beautiful and interesting place, Cebu, Philippines. Good luck and I hope you two will meet up. |
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my daddy married a filipina, my mommy was a tour guide and they met in the Philippines that way, but of course that was in person and your dilema is different but yea
oh and the Philippines isn't the best place to live, maybe for vacationing (most beautiful place in the world!) but for LIVING!!?? it's full of poverty and unless you can afford a 5 million dollar mansion you're going to see that everyday |
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Chillz29
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To me it sounds like she's an honest person. If she wanted to scam you, she would have already asked you for money. You said she has her own job so that's a good sign.
As far as moving to the Philippines, you need to fly out there and visit several times. You really need to get to know her and her family. Family is very important in the philippines, when you marry a filipina you marry her family to. She may expect you to financially support her relatives.
I know America has it's problems but, there is no shortage of foreigners doing whatever they can and waiting for years to move here.
But yes you should definitely go meet her. Don't ask her to marry you on your first visit. Good Luck. |
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fox
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I went to the Phils and married the love of my life. We have known each other by mail, e-mail, phone, text messages and web cam meetings for three years. We finally got married. Go see what she is about. You have 21 days to figure it out before you have to get a visa to stay longer. Just meeting her, you have nothing to lose. |
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imajcfreakxD
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you guys are really mean to Filipinos! x-( fyi im proud to be pinoy :P
...if you're gona marry her dont mistreat her like some americans do..and you know what? i see a lot of old americans married to very young filipinas. :( i dnt like dat |
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jcgimp11
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I married a filipina I meet over the net, moved to the Philippines.
If you want info I'll give it to you from my perspective, just email me. |
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Box Monkey
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She should be around the same age as you and you need to accept from the start that if you marry she will be sending money to her family on a regular basis. Also, it's not easy but be alert for small signs that may mean she's not entirely honest with you and you should be completely open with her. |
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Barney G
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Play it by ear and see how it goes, I married a girl from the philippines, nice over there, nice and green, about as green as you will ever see, very different than what you are used to, at least you can get a flight from manila right to cebu on cebu pacific or pal, I spend the time in ormoc city so fly into tacloban and drive up and over to the other side of the island but at least the view is nice on the way..
In cebu at least you can find food you are used to, you can find KFC, McDonalds and several others in the sm mall and around town, you will get a chance to eat at jollibee they are all over.
Just relax and have a good time..Don't expect to get much of a job there unless you really have something to offer. We hope to spend the winters there pretty soon, and will see after that, but I like it over there.. |
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Just be honest with her and expect the same from her, then you will have good chances. |
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Jaimee seeks HARMONY!
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I tried reading and assessing your inquiry for a few hours.
My initial thought was really..."Not again!". I didnt answer then since I was not in my right senses the first time I read it.
Here's the thing. Every race has a stereotype belief about different races. Unfortunately for Filipinos...we are most often thought to be "gold diggers", "scam", "needs a foreign spouse for easy access out of the country". Forget about the good traits, who needs those if we could always slam on the bad ones.
I feel disgusted every time I hear such. Its like Filipinos has no place in this world.
You seem to be a decent guy. Sure, you wanted to protect yourself too. But here's the thing, if you fall in love with your woman...and you truly feel that she is the one for you and she feels the same for you...both of you could manage and make ways to make both end's needs meet.
I dont understand the whole idea of "Beware! You will be married to her family too". Wouldnt you be even if you are to marry a non-Filipino? Its not going to be like "I'll take your daughter...now back off". Marriage has its risks. It depends to the both of you how to make it a better one.
Like smile said...let not LUCK be the basis if you are to marry your woman.
If you are willing to change, let LOVE be your energy. You will get more than you need, when her LOVE shines down on you. No need to look back.
I wish you good luck! Dont think twice...dont hesitate. Go because of the girl. Then decide from there.
There are more success stories by the way! So its worth the shot!
Cheers!
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Fred Bear
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I know 5 guys that married Filipino girls. The women are really nice and a couple of the guys treat them like s**t and they still stay. I'm amazed that they do. |
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_smile_'s Kometa of Biga-a
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Marriage isn't about luck. But it is about how both of you deal with everyday life.. its about how you see life with her or without her.
Marriage can be successful if both of you work it out. She may be a Filipina or not Filipina it really doesn't matter. |
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creeper1
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God only knows. No-one can make a judgement about how long your relationship will last and if you meet someone online you are always open to them cheating on you online.
How long before either of you start to wonder about what the other one is doing online? IF you meet through friends you have a social network and interests in common. You are less likely to break up.
YOu however claim to have fallen in love ONLINE.
I don;t know your age but many middle age guys go the Phils for young girls (20s). They are divorced and want an second chance.
Well they have their own challenges. Some stay together and some divorce. |
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Najஜ
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Be aware , but luck in doing that. I dont understand what you see in the Philipines BTW if you're an American you can go over there without her help and support. All you need is a ticket and the VISA is with the passport.
I love America. |
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Its a 50/50 gamble. For every storybook happy ending there is one who lost a fortune thinking he found a good woman. The scam is not always as simple as "send me money". It's true like someone said that filipinas have a bad rep for scamming on guys. Well, as far as I know, people earn their reputations. I didn't make that sh*t up and you didn't make that sh*t up. It's already there when we arrived on the scene. If you recognize it and call it what it is, you will be labeled as disrespecting and insulting filipinos. You see, they have no clue where they really stand in the grand scheme of things. Some actually call themselves a world super power. They like to claim to be such meek and mild compliant peace loving people yet they have had one rebellion after another and can't keep trying to overthrow their own government. Many of them seem to be in contest to see how many of the ten commandments they can break and how often. It's quite a joke if you were here you'd see it. But, good luck with your wife choice. Maybe she's "different". |
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Bhuwisit
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You have to visit her first BEFORE you start talking that "we're in love" shite, dude. That's reality. No one in all seriousness falls and STAYS inlove from a digital image and voice while separated 8000 miles apart--unless you're really desperate.
In all likelihood she cannot visit you because she has no visa, but you SHOULD fly over there and hopefully be able to distinguish reality from your flightful fantasies of love.
If you cant get yourself to do that, then you have your answer. |
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Mary Magdalene is my mom
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If you do not want to be scammed stay put and love your money and forget the girl. |
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Charles
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Haha, I'm sorry, but you have Yellow Fever! XDDD |
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