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Chali

Since you asked in the Philippines section, I am guessing you are from the Philippines?

"Illegitimate children shall use the surname and shall be under the parental authority of their mother" accourding to the family code of the Philippines. Legally you are the parental authority.

Calm down. Do you have a job? Can you take care of the child without the assistance of your parents? If you do not have a job and can not care for the child without the assistance of your parents, you are putting yourself at risk for proof of being unfit. Don't risk it!

Now, you are underage. but you are over the age of 18. If your parents push the issue you can politely ask for emancipation (legally separating from your parents). However, it would be better if you do not. Is your boyfriend interested in marrying you? If so, there are provisions in the family law code that will help you out. You can separate from your parents with marriage to your boyfriend.

If he is not interested in marriage, perhaps you should rethink running away. That is not a safe option for you, establish a job and arrange a place for you and your child to live and seperation from your parents will be much easier.

Lola

hope this answer is not too late and you haven't run away, yet. running away is a cowardice thing to do. your parents are there to protect you and they have their reasons why they don't like your bf. first of all, your bf got you pregnant without you guys getting married and at such a young age (you were 17 1/2 yrs old).

your parents cannot "trust" you in making a wise decision for you and your son for you haven't earned that trust yet. be a good girl and listen for ONCE in your life to your parents for they know what is best for you and your son. it's not easy being a parent. and i can just imagine the "pain" you've caused them by getting pregnant at an early age. for sure, they have hopes and dreams for you for a bright future.

if your bf had proved to your parents that he's worthy enough to come and visit his son, for sure your parents will see that. you are still a "baby" with a baby of your own so, please put your son's welfare before your own. if you run away with your bf, he will get you pregnant again and who will be there for you if times get rough? YOUR PARENTS.

girl, grow up and for the first time in your life, do what is right.

Rev R

Hi: I am an American Pastor living in the Philippines and you are right!

In the Philippines if you are 18-21 years of age YOU MUST HAVE YOUR PARENTS CONCENT!

If you are 21-25 you need only show that you "asked advise" from your parents.

Below I have pasted the articles that state this from the Philippine Family code.

You live in the Philippines and you are a Filipino...DO NOT listen to these people who are NOT under the Philippine Law.

DO NOT RUN AWAY, NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK YOUR PARENTS ARE WORRIED ABOUT BOTH YOU AND THE BABY...

Being that about 85% of the Filipinos are Catholic I will assume you are also (I AM NOT).

Please go to your Priest and talk to him...about your problem.

It would be one thing if you were leaving to get married but you're not and you will have 2 to 3 years of problems, trouble and fights that could cause you to (NOT GET MARRIED) then what will you do.

If you are not Catholic and would like to email me and let me know where you are and what church if any you belong to I will try to conect you with someone in your area.

PHILIPPINE FAMILY CODE

Art. 14. In case either or both of the contracting parties, not having been emancipated by a previous marriage, are between the ages of eighteen and twenty-one, they shall, in addition to the requirements of the preceding articles, exhibit to the local civil registrar, the consent to their marriage of their father, mother, surviving parent or guardian, or persons having legal charge of them, in the order mentioned. Such consent shall be manifested in writing by the interested party, who personally appears before the proper local civil registrar, or in the form of an affidavit made in the presence of two witnesses and attested before any official authorized by law to administer oaths. The personal manifestation shall be recorded in both applications for marriage license, and the affidavit, if one is executed instead, shall be attached to said applications. (61a)

Art. 15. Any contracting party between the age of twenty-one and twenty-five shall be obliged to ask their parents or guardian for advice upon the intended marriage. If they do not obtain such advice, or if it be unfavorable, the marriage license shall not be issued till after three months following the completion of the publication of the application therefor. A sworn statement by the contracting parties to the effect that such advice has been sought, together with the written advice given, if any, shall be attached to the application for marriage license. Should the parents or guardian refuse to give any advice, this fact shall be stated in the sworn statement. (62a)

Art. 16. In the cases where parental consent or parental advice is needed, the party or parties concerned shall, in addition to the requirements of the preceding articles, attach a certificate issued by a priest, imam or minister authorized to solemnize marriage under Article 7 of this Code or a marriage counselor duly accredited by the proper government agency to the effect that the contracting parties have undergone marriage counseling. Failure to attach said certificates of marriage counseling shall suspend the issuance of the marriage license for a period of three months from the completion of the publication of the application. Issuance of the marriage license within the prohibited period shall subject the issuing officer to administrative sanctions but shall not affect the validity of the marriage.

Should only one of the contracting parties need parental consent or parental advice, the other party must be present at the counseling referred to in the preceding paragraph. (n)

Pinilakang Tabing

Here's what I find bothersome:

You're suppose to make a life-changing decision as you mentioned this coming monday before dawn and yet in your Q&A you still have time answering questions on perfume fragrances and ASL (amusingly also).

Then there's this coming monday before dawn deadline. Who set that deadline and why?

If this is a legitimate question, which I doubt, the best recourse is to ask help with your situation from trusted friends and relatives who are more aware of the details of your case. In absence of that, there are institutions like CEFAM who makes it there business to help you out.

On the other hand, if this is a sick joke then I hope you enjoyed it but being 19, if that is indeed true, it's about time to grow up don't you think?

Chris

well your legally an adult, so its not rly running away, but i suppose if they say thhat your not a "fit" parent than they could take away your child if they find you, word of advice, dont hide out at your boyfriends house, it'll be the first place they will look..

Well good luck ad uh... have fun doing it

~Chris

Alix M

Nope, it's not legall for your parents to take your son away from you or his father. But, if your gonna run away, then make sure you have money, a place to stay, people to help you, and food for you and your son before you leave. And make sure that your boyfriend is with you, make sure that he is acting like a father! Good Luck!!!

jongbong

since u are his mother, u can take your son legally however
if u can't support him, the law grants your parents custody over the child so make sure u can raise him.

william

you will only end up in jail for child abducition
dont be so naive to think you know what you are doing
Why is the father of the child not taking care of you?
Get a job and move out on good terms

SexxyDom

Where do you plan on going to? Do you have a plan for doing something like that.....If your not establish they can take your child away from you. You need to think about what your doing b4 you actual ruin your life and the childâ€™s.

shellpower67

depends where abouts you live cause laws vary from Country to Country. Why don't your parents like your b/f? Here in Australia your parents would have no right to take your baby away from you and your b/f, as they would have to go through the proper channels first and prove that you are an unfit mother. I would seek professional advice in your Country as to what your laws are.

tommy

best have a new place lined up with someone that can help you with that child. If you move to some party house or somewhere with a group of loosers, Yes you can loose your boy. If you are moving to a better place and you will have to prove it, you will be fine. If the boyfriend is a drug user and you are leaving a stable enviorment because of him you are asking for trouble. if you do whats best for the child you will get through this just fine. If it was me I would leave my parents on a good note and rember they love that child and if you take off and say nothing, that will freak out grandma and she can cause you problems. Until you get a stable enviorment you better talk things thruugh with mom and dad . They will let the dad see the boy if he does right .

Jamester

I think that if you are going to put your baby in danger by doing this or you are taking him into an environment that may harm him then your parents can go to the authorities and they can investigate.
Before you make any harsh decitions think about a few things and be realistic with yourself (specially because you have a son to think of) why do your parents dislike your boyfriend? is it because they just do, or is he mean to you, does he not have a steady job or a steady place to live? and think of all those things only YOU know about your boyfriend.
I'm asking this because I made a mistake once and I stuck to this guy who was a jerk just because I thought it was the right thing to do for our son only to go through some really hard times and I always thought he was going to "change" needles to say he never did and I dug myself into a hole, and ended up leaving him.
You're 19 yrs. old and smart enough to make your own decitions, don't be blinded by what you think "it could be" but see what it "really is". If he's a great guy and can be a good father then go for it but be true to yourself... please....

Good luck, I hope everything turns out well for YOU and your son.

Ali

....I'm so sorry for the pain your going through....your parents shouldn't have the right to take your child from you or stopping it's farther from seeing him. I don't know what the laws are in the Philippines but you need to find out for sure, not by using Yahoo, but you need to find out what your rights are properly. It's a really appalling situation you are in. Good luck.

chickey_soup

I don't know what the laws are in the Phillipines, sorry. I do know that most places there is an age you are considered a legal adult (in America it is 18). I'm betting at 19 you fall into that category in which case you are legally able to make up your mind.

You may have more protection if you get married.

mary

I wish you told how old you are. The only way they could legally get custody is if they prove you are an unfit daughter. This too, depends on the parent and if they are mean enough too. Be-careful to realize just what life the child will have by running. Is he happy now or are you doing it because you feel sorry for your boyfriend.
The safety of the child is crucial.
Do what is right for your son.
Do your parents not like your boyfriend because he is somewhat dangerous.
Think about these thing and good luck to you and your son.

Pebble da rebble

This is a sad situation to be in. It is hard to answer without knowing why your parents are so against your boyfriend. But as long as you are not putting the child in danger and can prove you are fully capable of providing for your child I can see know reason why your parents could try and take him away from you. I believe that the courts today do all they can to keep the child with its mother. All I do know is that your parents can try to get access to your child. Hope this helps

Sandy

I don't know where you're from. It all depends on the age of majority in your country. In some countries, it's 18, in others it's 21. If it's 18, the child is yours. If it's 21, you yourself are still the ward of your parents, so you have to listen to them.

joy s

Parents ultimately know what is best for you. think about how much you love your son and you would do anything for his best interest. now think about how your parents had been loving you. talk it over with your boy friend and try to resolve this situation before you regret it for the rest of your life.

Jorge T

Get LEGAL advice. At all cost try to consult with your parents about the matters, since the may have to pay a high cost for your mistakes.

yonip.orig

Good luck on your decision.In my opinion,your parents cannot legally touch you and your child anymore since you are of legal age.They dont have a legal right to take your child away from your custody.Your boyfriend and you are both adults and have all the rights to raise your child as you wish as long as it is within the bounds of the law.If you finally decide to live wiyh your BF and begin to raise a family then make sure to stick with one another and love each other.

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Consult a friend...

have you planned where you will go/stay?

you are too young to have a baby in the first place...

If your boyfriend loved you, he must be at your side at times like that...

Before deciding things...see to it that you are responsible enough to handle it...

In america they can't do anything about it, I have no idea about the phillipenes.

Jimminy

why did you write this question like a moron.

look dont run away with the kid. at 1 and a half he needs lots of care, protection and security.

I dont think living rough or sleeping on a friends floor will do him mutch good, do you?

You have not stated where you live... Each country has different laws concerning custody.. However, I don't think your parents are capable of being objective judges.. Also, you are 19 years old ..my dear you have no reason to behave like a child and run. Call the sheriff if you must and have him assist you in moving.. If you can show them you have a secure place to go I don't think they would call child protective services, if not you can request for the police to direct you to the nearest safe house for women and children. Grandparents do not have the right to keep the biological father away just because it is what they want. You can also tell your parents if they try and take your kid away from you that you will request the judge to appoint the child to a foster home until it is resolved ...wish you the best

Lauren =)

I would go to my parents. Believe it or not, your parents loves you very much and want whats best for you. You parents has been trough more then you know and they can help. Believe I have learned this the hard way and I didn't at first trust my parents, but after I listen to them, I come to realize how much they love me and care about me.

LOVELY J.C.c.

U R ALREADY OF LEGAL AGE TO DO WHATEVER U WANT UR PARENTS CANT DO ANYTHING ,ALTHOUGH U SHOULD TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THAT UR BOYFRIEND HAS THE RIGHT TO SEE HIS SON.IF U LEAVE U MIGHT LOOSE UR PARENTS FOREVER, SO BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT U DO, AND GOOD LUCK

Lushbabe4ever

Darling, are you running away coz you want to elope with your boyfriend, the father of your son? If so are you and your boyfriend are capable to raise your baby? If yes then, are the both of you are capable to work and start a family of your own already? If your answer is yes, then you have the right to take your baby with you coz as a mother you have the right for your baby. Just do what you think is best for you & your baby but also think about your parents. They also know what is best for you & your baby. Good luck. (--,)

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