How to deal with the loss of a best friend?

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Bean

My condolences to you. It's always sad when someone close to you passes away, it's happened to me a few times.

There's not much you can do about your sadness, just try to remember the good times you shared together.

But your sadness will fade in time "Time is the greatest healer" as they say...

emma f

the loss of a loved one is an extremely sad time...and unfortunately it just takes time to get used to. everybody has to find ways to deal with it in their own way..you could try going to counselling..or just talking to a family member. but like i said, there is no quick way to get over it and it will hurt for a while....only with time and the help of others will you truly be at peace

Ryuzaki "L" The KiD

Share your feelings. i know that you are older than me but i still can share something...
My friend died in my class (disease related with white blood), in front of me. it kind of sudden and words cannot explain that very shocking moment. i just cant imagine when someone that being with us in class five days a week, suddenly gone..
The best way is to cry and cry and let every emotional feeling gone with the teardrops..
my condolences to you..

kathy w

everyone have to go.. it only the matter of time which who go first.. we will all die one day.. so dont worry be happy! juz think like this, ur friend now is at heaven enjoying life beside God. why bother to be sad about it? aww cmon gimme a smile :) dont be sad anymore.. be brave! this is how life work. everything must come to an end. and the end never the bitter one.. it all ended in heaven. n live happily ever after!

its ok.. its aaaaaaaalright.. he wouldnt want to see u cry.. i know it hurt but u juz have to be strong. there is more to life for u.. we love u!

anderson

my condolences, there is nothing you or anyone can do anything about it. but you can pray for his soul to rest in peace.
I m sure members in YAM here share you pain and hope that we can cheer you up some how.

imar

Hi..sorry to hear on your loss..my condolences to you..

I had the same experience 4 mths ago when I lost my boyfriend in an accident.It was really hurt me as I just heard his voice half n hour before the acccident.

At the time,I could not even do anything and I almost quit my job..Luckily I have my families and friends who were always there when I really needed their supports.

I am recovering almost 100% now and already back on track. Remember, whatever it is ..LIFE MUST GO ON!

The most important thing is..do not let yourself be alone..talk to friends and families,if any..even they have to hear you moan and whine everyday.Get yourself active in any activities or sports.When you are exhausted, somewhat your grief will decreased.

Pray for his soul..never blame yourself and feel regret if you can't attend the funeral as he will always know that you will never stop remembering him in your prayers..

Believe me, grief will lessen each day..just be patience and time will heal them for you..

GINDURAS

i dunno what to say...
the only i can say, is...
he cant stop u from continuing ur own life..
after all, u are not alone...
its the time for him to go and soon will be mine, yours or someone else...
so, its not wrong to be really sad.
just enjoy ur life while u can... ok!
hhahah.... we always here for you sist...

yanar89

Cry.. pray for him, and be nice to his family, but dont mourn over him..

Akira H

my condolences...find someone to talk to like ur other best friends or family cos when u'r by urself, the pain tend to get more intense and it'll only hurt u more...and dun ferget to pray for him....

kimht

time do catch up with all of us
the best we can do is to say hello or goodbye whenever possible to them who can care about us

Bebe

Firstly, What do you want? Try to figure our what is the most important thing for you to do now. To set a target for yourself and do your best to complete it. Keeping self busy focusing on one target is always the best way to forget the sadness.

Secondly, Do yourself a favor. Please avoid those places you spent with this friend be4. Don't let those areas to make you recall memories with him/her.

Thirdly, Change your lifestyle and routine. Maybe you can learn a new thing you interested in. Brace new things will help to forget unhappiness.

Last but not least, do an exercise regularly at least 30 minutes a day, such as, going swimming. When you exercise, your brain will spread a kind of chemistry to make you feel well.

Oh... yes, remember to treat your body well. keep diet balance, do eat fruits and vegetables everyday. Never ignore physical assistance.

thumba

Each one of handle a lose differently .
I picked out a bright star out of the sky and name it after my loss. I kept the memory warm and still listen to the old songs we enjoyed.I kept my loss positive .

Erica

I lost my best friend 5 months ago. I am still grieving and in shock. I understand what you are feeling.

ola d traveller

There is never an easy time and easy way in coping up the grief of a dead best friend .. and there will never be .. youâ€™ve heard all the saying in grieving and coping with this tragic loss .. you thought these tips would be of help but they donâ€™t .. the fact that you lost your best friend forever and the thought that youâ€™ll never get any chance of doing anything for and with him/her makes the pain more unbearable .. believe me wheter you heard the news yesterday or the year after today will never make the pain lesser .. if it does that only means your love for your best friend is not that deeply rooted in your soul .. but having the chance to attend his funeral is a good thing at least you will see his/her countenance for the last time .. but if the depth you shared with your best friend is profound believe me you have to grieve for this tragic loss a lifetime .. and when you feel like missing him/her, feel it, if you feel like crying over the loss .. shed your tears ..dont be feel awkward .. when I heard the news that my best friend died in Lebanon for alleged overdose of valium at first I could not believe my ear, the worse part his death happened 14 months after I tried reconnecting with him when I came to manila for vacation .. to make all things worst all his family members have migrated to the states and thereâ€™s no way I could trace his remains even just to pay some respect .. my last encounter with him flashed into my mind with him saying that he misses my company so much .. we had not communicated for 2 yrs when I went to Saudi and when he went to Lebanon and his death happened 5 yrs ago .. and the pain still lingers on .. I already accepted the fact that though I let go of him I still have to mourn his loss in my life a lifetime .. until now nothing has replaced his place in my heart .. if your love is too deep for your best friend .. believe me you will feel exactly the same .. but life goes on .. and on .. and on â€¦

Brittney (formerly Mrs Manning)

good question.. a friend of mine commited suicide recently and she is being burried where she grew up so I won't be able to go to her funeral either.

this is so hard... we'll get through it together!

yay!xkittyxstarr

Don't worry about your post, you're probably crying the Asia Pacific right now D:..
I can't even imagine what I'd do if I lost my best friend...Are you 100% positive you can not attend his funeral? Maybe you can make some quick arrangments, since you really care about him, and I feel for you, I hope you make it to that funeral! Do you have at least one more close friend? Hang with them, and don't be afraid to use their shoulder to cry on. Crying helps a lot, so cry all you want. Maybe spend some time with your family, and talk to them about it. Maybe make a collage of them, with pictures of you two together, so you can have something to look at and smile/cry for...I'm so sorry for your loss..:'(
I really hope you feel better real soon. I know it's a HUGE thing to get over, so give it time.

herman loves SKCB

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