I'm going to meet my fiancee for the first time in Cebu, and we might be alone together that first night, shes

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RERUNS

Another Filipina here. Although I am very much married now with my husband for one year, we started a little slow. My husband flew to the Philippines with his fear of flying and made 3 trips without getting laid. Although this may sound unbelievable, we stayed together in a hotel room for 1 week and did things but we never did "it." I am not the typical filipina who is shy, reserved, and inhibited although I didn't like the idea of throwing myself to someone that I haven't met yet. So we did a lot of talking and got to know each other a little bit more. One trip wasn't enough. I was kind of observing him how to treat people in my country and lucky enough, he was very respectful and wanting to learn more about the Philippines.

Also, although many people here would tease you or make fun or you for calling your girlfriend "your fiancee," I think that's sweet and only proves that your intention is sincere. However, be wise enough to tell which is fantasy and which is not. I would like to tell you that being in an interracial relationship (particularly brown and white race), there's this misconception that you should be aware of and that is-- the green card marriage. Sometimes people can be mean and accuse of these women that they only want "white" men (or foreigners) because that's the easiest way out from poverty. What they do not know is that many women are being abused abroad by their foreign spouses. Very tragic but I believe I can say that good and bad people are everywhere... Goodluck to your trip and hope you have a great time!

hey

if she's a traditional nothing would happen anyway a lot of pinays don't sleep with their boyfriends or finance' til the night of the wedding... you can have fun but not close the deal..

Blond Logic

Is this an arranged marriage? If so - you should know what your customs dictate.

looking2

i have a chat mate from the US too. although we are just friends our chats sometimes gets carried away, i too have that problem that when the time comes that he will come visit me, he might be expecting more and am not sure what i will do then. better talk to her. we Filipinas are still very conservative...

Pnty Rmvr 2

you have a fiancee you never met? LMAO. Good luck with the toothless Filipino reject.

piper

i'm a filipina and hear it from me.... in general filipinas are very shy and conservative... but that sometimes depends on the person.now, if she says, she's uncomfortable i say you take it slow with her... although you'll propose when you get there she may not be allowed to be alone with you especially at night... i know it's not an arranged marriage, don't listen to those ignorants.lol .....hope you'll be happy.... she'll take care of you, that's what we do...

sheikaella

just treat her like a lady.....and everything else will follow

if you truly love her, it will just show naturally....we filipinas would prefer guys that will respect us, and it really counts!

so good luck to you....

rye2

wats the question?? all u rote was we might be alone together that first night, shes... how am i supposed to answer that????

oh nvm u finished the question. yes make a move shes ur fiance but dont be too aggressive. Start off slow

filthymaddog

you said might. so you are not sure if you will be together your
first night. if you ain't together buy the second night.
pack it in. buy the way, where is cebu.

Laika

You seem like you are very sincere with her, so my suggestion is, keep your snake in your pants. :p Seriously, since you're going to propose and all, why not wait a few more weeks? Or months? Wouldn't it be more special to have your first night together on your honeymoon? That's a rare occurrence nowadays.

Wish the best for you two. :)

linda

You have a finacee and you have never met? Is this an arranged thing? That still goes on??

justnae

what you never met????????

Kerry

was it a arranged marriaged or something? well its best just to do what she wants to do..if shes nervous then take time and play it cool..everything will be alright.

iknowimuhnerd

geez guys, just chill out and answer the man as best as you can. "if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all." hmm..well, just go with the flow, everything always ends up fine if you just relax.

Bebop

just try to make things as comfortable as possible.... I'm not sure how I would handle this situation, so good luck and I hope things go well.

Ta ta ^_^

foursquaremommy

It doesn't matter how you met or what the arrangements were, you have answered your own question. She is your fiancee, not your wife, at least not yet. You should be respectful of her. Do not take advantage, but rather save yourself (and her) for your marriage night. Not only will this bring to your fiancee a bigger respect for you, it will create a lasting impression of you being the man and making the right choice when it comes to marriage. Best wishes =)

cruachanmusic

I'm guessing this is an arranged marriage.

I urge you to do a few things:

1) Let her do most of the talking.

2) Ask her questions.

3) Make some eye contact.

4) Compliment her at least once during your first meeting.

5) BE YOURSELF! Don't act like anyone but yourself. Be genuine and try and relax! You don't have to impress her too much. JUst enough so she is willing to see you again.

GOOD LUCK!

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you never met yet you are going to be married. where do you live? is this an arranged marrige?

Maria

just ask her what she really wants...

salome

well, good luck on your plan. when you do propose, just be honest, and be yourself.

i know you meant well, this is your agenda, just don't let others influence you on your purpose. others who makes sly remarks about your situation is not aware how you truly feel.

i've been in that predicament, i used to have many pen friends while im attending university and they wanted to meet me while im in the pines. my mom is very strict and you could have imagine, im an only girl so she is very protective. that is how filipino mom acts towards meeting their daughter's friends, so in your case, once you are there, respect her and her family to the fullest. don't forget to see the church of holy infant and the basilica of cebu. you will be rewarded of how hospitable filipino people, they will be your friends for life.

married man

Bone her, then again, and one more time for me!

soul patrol baby

that made no sense - stop smoking crack.

ThePeskyWabbit

If you are going to be together ALONE before you are married, then you are either lying about this whole question, or you have absolutely no idea how arranged marriages work.

You would NOT be allowed to be alone with you fiance for at least 60 days---in the culture that requires the LEAST amount of time prior to marriage.

Then you would have a marriage ceremony before ever being allowed to be alone with her without supervision.

Nice try....but that won't work.

big_j_gizzy

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Magy G

Well, I don't know if this is an arranged marriage, but that's how it sounds. Every girl is different, but I would say treat her nice, you said it yourself-give her what she wants- If she wants you to go all the way, go ahead... If all she wants is to know you and how you are, open up to her, if you are going to marry her, it can't hurt to get to know each other. Don't force her or make her feel obligated to do anything that she does not want to. BUT, most importantly, LISTEN carefully to what she sais, don't ignore her requests and desires, AND open your heart to her... If this is the person that you'll spend the rest of your life with, better start with the right foot. Be yourself, be nice, compliment...

Susan L

Don't make your move. After your wedding night, you will be expected to show everybody the bloody sheet.

sarell

take it easy and slowly and every thing will be alright

PINKtiteASSofDOOM

life is short
do what you want
every day is a adventure with a woman

Dusik

r u 4 real? Come on man get serious.

lakersforlife

Well if your serious about this and your not liing about this, then jus take it easy and relax. Start off slow.

Rain

I am a Filipina and I know you are not referring to an arranged marriage. If you are really serious about marrying this girl, I suggest you start the marriage right, at least by Filipino standard, and that means, not pre-empting the "wedding night." She will respect you for that and that will go a long way in her book. Goodluck.

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