summerfairy
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just what are you exactly is the "good idea", is it the american-filipina part, or the wants to marry part?
well, when it comes to getting married, only you can tell. if you love each other and have accepted each other's imperfections, then go ahead. congratulations!
if its on the american-filipina thing, race does not really matter. but CULTURE at some point does matter a lot. we filipina women are devoted wives and mothers. we love taking care of the family, even though we are at work, we still think of the children. filipinas MARRY FOR LIFE.
however, you have to be aware of a few down side to marrying a filipina:
1. you not only marry the girl, but you marry the clan as well
2. some filipinas have the misconception or idea that if they marry a foreigner, the husband -- their knight in shining armour -- will take them away to dreamland. the worst part here is if the family is expecting the same.
the best thing is to come to the philippines and visit the girl and family in her own "ecosystem". that way, you will really get to see how and what she is in her natural world. |
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periclesundag
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Yes its proven many times over that submissive filipina women makes for a good wife but there are also some who are just seeking for the heck of it. My advice is look for a filipina that is regenerated christian ages 25 to 35 and you will have a 95% assurance that you can have her for life. |
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robert r
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as long as there are no anchor chains attached, go for it, think twice, look arround twice beforehand, dont burn any bridges behind you if you do decide to wed, getting it undone is harder than getting in to it in the first place, consider the options deeply, why are you doing this in the first place, if the only reason keeps coming back to sex, and that only, dont even think about it... been there done that millstones are heavy to drag around. |
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Joe
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You might get mixed answers on this. I lived in misery for years married two white women who both fired me. Met and married a Filipina and I never knew life could be so good....for both of us. Just make sure you get the right one. As for me, I wouldn't give an American woman a second look. And sex aint got nothing to do with it as some suggest here. Just visit and you'll discover something you want and need from life. Good luck. |
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luosechi 駱士基
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Filipinas are very loving and very jealous.
The pluses and minuses are: You get married here, it's for life. No such thing as a quick divorce (or a slow one). Traveling will be a pain for your wife, because you don't need a visa to go most anywhere in the world, but she will need one for most places and will have to jump the hoops for each one. |
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pink lady
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I guess It's okay,as long as you have preference on filipina women.You should check, fipilina women are so loving.They have high regards on their spouses.In other words, they make very good housewives |
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misery_105
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hey there...
first, i want to say i am a filipina and will be really glad if you're going to marry her..
however, it is your choice..its not a question of being a good or bad idea...
if you really love the person, i think the race is not imporant at all...and im sure you know the person very well and she is important to you thats why you're planning to get married...
good luck... |
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chief8
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If you find someone who loves you in return (no dollar signs in her eyes), why not. There are thousands of "Amerikano" married to Filipino women. |
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uswitchesthree
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if you love her and truely love her then marry her and forget what other people think cuz that sounds like the problem your having. |
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Bail out BS
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Getting married is not an "Idea" and it does not matter if she is Filipina or any other nationality. I think you need to define and understand what marriage is before you go around asking such a question. I hate to see you getting married to a Filipina because its just a good idea. |
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Jek
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Depends on what your definition of a 'good idea' is.
At the end of the day, nationality shouldn't matter much, if culture and compatibility win you over. |
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AskForMore
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Love is in the air, congratulations...
But make sure she love you more than others things else...
Be smart, don't be a blind person when in love....
Keep your eye open |
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THREE RIVERS
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I did it. They are the most loyal of women as a whole, individually, take time to know her. I am married 22 years
and still believe in her. I know many that have done the same.
I would think the divorce rate is almost non existent compared to the US . The odds of a good marriage is on your side in the Philippines.
Again, take time to know her |
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Tropic-of-Cancer
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Well first off all women are different and unique, and that includes Filipinas. It isn't like going into a grocery store, and buying a bag of doughnuts after all.
Most are good, but some are bad as anywhere.
It is all a question of meeting the right person, someone with whom you are compatible. Someone whose company you enjoy, and she in turn yours.
The Filipinas are not doormats, so don't expect to be able to walk all over them, they are very emancipated. Like all women they want love, affection and loyalty. The big difference is that they are very feminine, and family orienated. Most have pride to their bodies, and reputation.
I am married to a Filipina, for years into double figures, and she is the best thing that ever happened to me. We lived in UK for several years, but eventually I took early retirement and we moved here.
The main consideration is love, that you love her as a person, a unique individual. No doubt you will meet her family first, who will ask you what your intentions are towards their family member. It helps you to see her family as well.
I met my wife to be, through sheer chance, the day before I was going home. Eyes across a crowded room, they touched, moved away, then touched and embraced. We spoke, we talked, and suddenly there was no one else in the room for either of us.
I wish you good luck, and happiness! |
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Juan C
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think first before doing it...
not all Filipinas are good... not all Filipinas are bad... |
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Jay & Gigi
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Yes they are the most devoted women I have ever met.. I married a Filipina lady and sold everything I had in the USA and moved to the Philippines.. But you need to come here and see for yourself.. |
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Phoenix
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I am Filipina but I dont wanna say much. People might say I am being bias but I love reading those compliments esp. coming from those who chosses Filipinas as their wife.
There isn't much answer yet from the regular Yapper except for Luosechi and OO7 but I am looking forward to it. I am pretty sure that'll be interesting as well. c') |
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Johny
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Yeah they're pretty good. Just make her sign a pre-nup. |
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Bopols
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Honestly, none of us can ever tell you if it is a good or bad idea. You yourself know that. maybe you are looking for signs? Or confirmation about waht you are about to get into?
Marriage is between individuals. And, unfortunately, we would not know the two individuals (you and your Filipina girlfriend) in this affair.
I hope you decide well. |
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Sexy No More
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I am a Filipina and marying a "playboy" englishman on the 2oth October... Isn't it obvious that Filipinas are wonderful and absolutely fantastic?... lols! |
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kuanas
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this is what i got from my european bf "i wonder why so many americans/europeans loves 2 be in a relationship with a lady from PH" and i said: may be u can answer that yourself.; and he said: i love and like u for your personality, not bcuz of your race.
i agree. just as i love & like him for who he is. race has nothing 2 do with it.
so whether its a good or bad idea- in the end, it all goes down to your respective personalities & the love you have for each other that really counts.
All the BEST. |
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ericka
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if it is love, you don't really look at the nationality or the race. well, filipinas are good lovers, having one as a wife is indeed a blessing. but again, love looks not on the nationality...it looks deeper into the hearts...beyond what human eyes can see...
best wishes!!! |
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Redge G
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Is culture a concern? Or are you worried that your feelings for each other wont be able to transcend over some of life's challenges? :(
Guess my thoughts are - why be bothered with the thoughts of other people in the relationship... :) You and your girl will work things out. :) |
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jan-na~♥~ and im luvin it
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marry a girl that you love and that loves you back. filipina or not.. ~♥~ |
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Felicity???
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Sure, if both of you love each other. <*-*> |
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oneiloilojeepney
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I have been married twice befor and my wife of the past 7 years is a Philippina. I am an also a white american. I don't think your race has anything to do with love. |
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Garnet D
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I have a fiancee from the Philippines and hope she will be here with me in Australia soon, just waiting for the Visa to be approved.
You have to really love the woman because there are an enormous number of hurdles and expenses if you want to bring her to your country. Plus when you get her home you have to help her adjust to a new country and culture.
Also family is very important to the filipino so you will get a very large extended family who may look upon you as a walking ATM.
Having said all that I wouldn't swap my fiancee for the world. |
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♥angelfire♥
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It depends on your intentions, and it depends on the woman's intentions. If both of you are truly inlove, nothing's wrong with that. I am a filipina married to an American. Of course, as normal couple, we also experience some hardships, but as long as the love is there and both of you respect each other, then i'd say there would be no problem. It is a good idea because Filipino women are the ideal wives (as most men refer to). Goodluck and be happy! =) |
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Grand pa
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been married to one almost 30 years how ever i have heard of guys being sucked in and dumped hard. I was married to a canadian before if something goes wrong i would chose a Filipina |
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Matt T
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It's OK, it all depends on both of you. The Philippines is the largest Amerasian country in the world and has Asia's largest non-combatant American population, anyway. Well to be honest, most Filipinas are attracted to Whites because of their Caucasoid features such as White skin and the mere thought of producing Caucasoid-looking children thrills them.
It all depends on you:
GOOD SIDE:
1. If you love her, then there's nothing wrong with getting married with her.
2. The Philippines is Westernized in culture so there will probably be no cultural shocks or something like that.
BAD SIDE:
1. Well, thing is, a lot of Filipino males are now left with no one because Filipinas want Western males - which results to a renewed call against Colonial Mentality.
Colonial Mentality, by the way, is the desire for anything Western or Caucasoid, particularly Caucasoid features, and even the conscious purchasing only of American-made products. |
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fakebobjones
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No..........looking for a woman of a certain ethnic background from a certain country sounds like someone with (1) fetish or (2) creepy fantasy of submissive Asian woman. |
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