Is he just fooling me? i really need your opinion about this?

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Troubadour

Sorry to hear that. I am an American living in the Philippines and I can tell you that a fiancee visa only takes 3 to 4 months.

For a Spouse (if you were already married) it is about a year.

Two things comes to my mind,

1. What is his Job? he may not make enough money to meet the income level in the U.S. to bring someone to the U.S.

2. He has no plans to marry you.

Two years is way too long of a time and if he got mad when you asked him questions, there is a big problem there.

If he got angry because you asked him about your future, you will have big problems once you are married.

I know it may be hard for you but I think you would be better to drop him and don't let him ruin your life.

Bill O

Here is how you can find out, when he mailed the visa application he would have received a Application Receipt Number, so ask him for that number and you can check it out for yourself and keep track of the progress, after you get the number go to USCIS web site here: https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/caseStatusSearchDisplay.do;jsessionid=abcHuqqjaWhf648l9fFmr

Now if he tells you he doesn't have the number then go to this web site and it will give you the process time for the 129-f Visa which they are currently working on ones that are dated November 13, 2006 https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/jsps/ptimes.jsp

I hope you find what your looking for :)

Di'tagapayo

Please don't listen to anyone that tries to tell you what your fiance is doing. The truth is we don't know and anyone telling you otherwise is doing so from their own damaged emotional state. Unless they claim to be psychic.

Several people recommended you talk to him. That is the ticket. Understand he may be feeling like this is all his responsibility to handle on his own. He may be having problems getting it done that he is shy to admit to. Hey, my sister had a fit when I asked her about hanging wall paper once. It seemed she was having trouble and when I asked her about it she blew up. Later, when she was calm I explained that some things are just hard and asking for help is just what you do when you need it. On the other hand, this is your visa and you need to be involved so don't be afraid to insist using gentile persuasion.
One last thing. You described him getting upset at you for asking about it. You may want to decide if his reaction was justified or unjustified. Is this a signal of something that you may not know about in your sweetheart? We don't just know people by how they behave in the good times, it's good to find out how they act out in the bad and stressful times too.

Joe

My wife and I married in Caloocan City in July 2004. I stayed till November before returing to USA. I filed petition for spouse in November 04 and it was approved in February 05. From there it took until June 06 to get an interview at the embassy and We BOTH came to USA on August 6th of 2006. The key is having all your paperwork in order and done correctly. There are no shortcuts or bribes involved but because of the immigration issues in USA now, all your paperwork must be PERFECT. A fiance visa is far more difficult to obtain than a spouse. If he is not willing to get married in Philippines, find someone else who is. Just be careful of the playboy american who only wants to play you for a fool. I'm sure you deserve better. Don't get too anxious about it. Its better to marry for love than money. Besides, my wife can tell you, USA is not all its cracked up to be. We all still have to work and its very expensive to live here. Good luck.

papars

Dont judge him till you know for sure he's lying.

You need to find out: Was he married before and has sought divorce? Or is he married to another woman now and cant get a fiance visa. Does he have some undesirable record in the courts or police? Are there any cases pending against him?

Immigration attorneys or lawyers usually do not cheat since it can seriously mar their reputation.

Guess you two need to seriously talk this out.

john

trust and openness are only 2 of the basic foundation of a long distance relationship. If you think that you're starting to lose your trust in him, better open up these stances to him just to be fair with him and he will surely explain his side. It is hard to maintain a long distance relationship if you don't trust each other.

hope these would help. good luck.

Well

Beware of any man who scowls at you for asking about a topic that is near and dear to both your hearts (such as your fiancee visa status).

As a kano guy married to a pinay, I can sense from your description of his actions that he is just using you maybe only as a "vacation" girlfriend, a little side dish. Someone he only dotes on when he is in the Philippines and forgets about when he's not there. It could be worse, he could have a criminal record and that's why he would get denied by the USCIS, that is, if he really did apply. Trust me, this happens more than you would think. Ask for copies of the paperwork he submitted and his lawyer's information--AGAIN.

It is however likely that he has another girlfriend in the USA and that's why he is adamant on making sure you never do really get to the US. Worse, the GF may really be his wife and perhaps kids.

How would you know otherwise? You don't; he won't let you, right?

Update: He may not have been able to afford the lawyer's retainer fee. His $23,000 a year is barely adequate to support himself much less with you in the big US cities in either the West or East Coast. The average income for a west/east coast resident is about $38,000 a year. Professionals average about $55,000, which is middle class at best. After many taxes, his $23,000 whittles down to about $16,000. Rent on a 1 bedroom apartment is about 800 bucks minimum. Factor in food (200+), utilities (150+), car payments (?), clothing etc. etc. etc.....you get the idea. There is no question in my mind that if you do marry him, you are in for some financial hardship at least in the near term compared to other Americans. The only question that needs to be asked here is do you really love/trust with him for himself and does he really love you for yourself. The answer has to be unconditionally yes on both questions because..................love (perhaps) is apparently all you got going in this relationship.

2nd Update: Based on his story about the fake lawyer, I am pretty confident your BF is lying. I will bet big money that your paperwork was never submitted and that your BF is to blame not the lawyer.

I think he wants to break up with you, he just wants you to do it so it will be "your fault". Dump him now, but not before you tell hi he's a liar and ask him to say hi to his American GF for you.

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IT IS VERY POSSIBLE HE GOT DENIED. DOES HE HAVE MONEY? THAT IS THE MAIN REASON GUYS GET DENIED THEN YES IT TAKES LONGER.

IF YOU LOVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT.

WANT TO SEE IF HE IS SERIOUS? TELL HIM YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED IN THE PHILIPPINES AND SEE IF HE IS WILLING TO MARRY YOU HERE.

Bee

So difficult. My gut feeling is that yes he ishaving you on but then why? No offence but in the time that has passes he could have quite easily left you...especially since it is a long distance relationship most of the time.

But then we know that getting into the US is really difficult since 9/11 and they see terrorists everywhere.

I think you should talk to him and be open. Say that you understandthat he is under pressure and that you just wanna talk to the lawyer to see if there is anymore information that only you can supply. I think if he still blows is top and gets angry you need to let him go. We have a saying here that states: Better a horrible end than a horror without end...

jhonny knoxvil

he's messin' wit you. probably he found another girl. he just wants sex.

Larony

Currently US fiance visas are taking about 7 months, start to finish. There is no need for a lawyer to file a fiance visa (I-129F) petition. If you want all the information, go to groups.yahoo.com/group/mag-anak.

This man is not being honest with you. Dump him ASAP!!

Juanita L

Honey, you don't even have communication between you - how are you going to make a marriage work?

If you maybe talked more and about everything that gong on and your fears etc. than maybe you can sort out the mess you find yourself in - than you will know if he is worth it and if he has been fooling with you.

Brian F

Well, you say he reapplied in January 2007, and it does really take about 6 months. I don't know why he would need a lawyer for a fiance vise. The paperwork is fairly easy. I filled out all the paperwork for my wife's sister, and didn't have a problem. She was here in little less then a year. He could be fooling you, and never had done anything with the paperwork till January when you were confronting him about it. I know its frustrating for you since its been 2 yrs now. I would advise you to wait till September. If he did submit the paperwork in January then you should know if your visa is approved by then. If there is no word then you may just have to move on.

pau

nope, he is not trying to fool you, immigrating to the usa is never an easy journey. probably he himself is also having some problem with the immigration. if both truly loves each other, then either one has to sacrifice, time is the test of one's trust but if you think the relationship is going nowhere, it's time for you to sit and think and decide what is best for you

Boston Mark

Is it possible that he has a domestic abuse problem from the past??? The US is big on checking this out. There are some very abusive men here and the government doesnt want them importing victims.

MaSTeR

thrust your instinct...
for it is your heart desire!

Joan S

From my husband:

I'm an American living here in the Philippines ... married for eight years to a Filipina.

My advice would be a couple of things. First and foremost, open up the lines of communication. You need to be able to talk about this with him. Find out the details.

Second, understand that BCIS says "hey, thanks for the papers, we'll tell you in 6 to 12 months if you qualify". During that time, nothing is really said. You can ask him over and over for the current activities and he will not be able to tell you. Very frustrating for him (and you).

Third, and most importantly, he should have an application number that he received back from BCIS when he applied early this year. Demand that number from him.

If he cannot supply this number, then he's probably not being truthful.

Some other responders have said that one doesn't need a lawyer to fill out the paperwork. This is technically true. However, a lawyer can make it easier. You don't need an accountant to file your taxes, but they sure make taxes easier, too.

Last thing, $23,000 per year. That's a rather low wage for the United States. He may have been rejected due to financial reasons. If that's the case, there's not a lot you can do.

I would certainly advise against getting married here in the Philippines before you're married in the United States. It's easier to get the visa AND make him prove that he wants you over there.

annabelle p

I don't think he has any intention of sending for you, even marrying you. It has taken him this long to work on your papers and still no concrete result. Forget him and find another man who will be honest with you. I know there are lots of Filipinas who really want to marry foreigners but you have to be extra careful on whom to trust your heart and future to. Good luck!

NONAME

your fiance is lieing to you.he did not have go to a lawyer just the ins office.it takes 6 month-1years that only if he turned in the correct paper work.he is hiding something from you.

momoftrl

sounds like the relationship is in trouble already if you don't trust him

seijee

sounds like he's trying to hide something. sounds like he's lying . dumb the guy . you deserve better.

Felicity???

Follow your instincts. But first you need to open it up to him about what's really happening on your mind. <*-*>

cyberfiendkil

Sounds like he is messing with you. I know if I was in that kind of situation, I'd like to know whether this "lawyer" exists or not. And I would probably even go as far as mind tricking him via pretending to have a casual, smooth conversation that can give me key hints that he may be lying. Or heck, demand proof that he's not lying. Or, snoop around his stuff, if anything found is useful, like love letters, picture of some other lover, etc. Why would he say that the lawyer has been fooling him when all he has to do is handle that visa you stated? Unless that "lawyer" is actually another intimate partner of his.... But that's just me. If I were you.

If he wanted you so badly, why rely on fiance visa when he could find an alternative for getting married?

bcn_mimosa

I agree maybe he has something he needs to tell you.. 2 yrs is too long when a website says otherwise.. I Think its time that both of you talk about your future....

Good Luck...

Bcn_mimosa

1M9

Sounds like he's pulling a fast one on you.

Sorry. :(

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