Is it a Filipino tradition to propose/ask the girl Will you Marry me?

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ye_river_xiv

Traditionally, marriage is not a phillipino tradition. All that stuff came over from Europe around the 1500s. It is a European tradition to ask a woman to marry you, and there's a very good reason for it... because while they don't like to admit it, women are just as happy to play the field and string their partners on as guys are.

Ever assumed you were dating a girl to marry her only to find out otherwise after a long time? It really sucks. Make sure she knows your intentions are for real before she decides to make other plans.

rosieC

The Filipino tradition or " custom"for a marriage proposal is called pamamanhikan which literally means to go up the stairs of the house. In this old tradition, which is still practiced in very rural areas.it is customary for the man and his parents to visit the woman and her parents to ask for their blessings and to marry the woman. They bring pasalubong (gifts).The parents meet each other and a formal wedding date is set. They are engaged.

Even during the courtship stage. the man is expected to bring pasalubong to everybody. He also has met the parents and made his intentions known to them. That's why while courting the woman, he's almost courting the whole family.

In the olden times,there was matchmaking between two villages or provinces. Moreover, the groom's parents pay for the whole expenses but the parents of the bride are required to give a dowry.

This custom is true to most asian countries and are still practiced in some . The dowry takes the form of jewelry, clothes, fabric, kind as in poultry and livestock, ,foods , even houses, and of course money.

This is different from here where the bride's parents usually foot for most of the wedding expenses . Nowadays, in modern times, the expenses are divided between the two parties,esp by the couple if they are both working. And as with other cultures, the guy always proposes to the gal.'hopefully on one bended knee and with a diamond ring. And that's the engagement.

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NOT JUST IN THE PHILIPPINES !!! :)

filipina women are like any other woman who will feel overwhelmed when someone proposed to her.

"pamamanhikan" is the one that differs filipinos from other cultures. where the man together with his parents visit the family of the woman and ask for her parents blessings. the parents of the woman get to know the parents of the man as well. so there, they are engaged and ready to get married.

spongeboob

Popping the question "Will you marry me?" is not really a Filipino tradition. It's of the American culture, though i'm sure it's happening now a days.

In the Philippines, when two person get steady, it is assumed that you would end up together unless otherwise something happen and you decided to call it quits.

Adam

You must ask. It is a serious issue for Filipino women. I know because my girlfriend is Filipino.

VeRDuGo

no, it's not a filipino tradition... rather it's customary for any gentleman (any nationality, that is) to propose to a lady. though, right now, living together is common and that applies to all races too.

now, there's a filipino tradition, the "PAMAMANHIKAN" that follows after a guy proposes. that's filipino tradition wherein both sides parents discuss the nuptials to follow, every detail of it. from the flowers, the date, the attires, the church, the sponsors... in other words, the whole she-bang of marriage customs. that's pure filipino customs.

so you see, a proposal by a filipino guy is no different to anyone's (any nationality's) proposal... the manner (customs) after the proposal is what differs us filipinos to most other nations.

Russ Bear

technically, the answer to your question would be "No, not directly". the tradition is for the parents of the guy to make a formal visit to the parents of the girl to "ask for her hand". this is quite true in most asian (and even eastern asian) countries. but given the western influence, it's anything goes now!!! not that it's bad. maybe it's more practical and less formal.

Adventurous girl

Hey dude,u kno what....I think when it comes to proposing,or when it comes to asking a girl,it doesn't matter which part of the world,or which heritage are you...!

the most important thing is,do you really love here?and does she loves you?If so,then what r u guys waiting for?Its not necessarily that you must get a diamond ring to propose to her....anyway,if she really loves you,she won't want you to spend the money unnecessarily at all....

You know what,you have my support!

Go for it,dude!!!!! LOL

~â™¥vaginamonologueâ™¥~

gez so

Keepingmycool

I think it is

eivaJ

it's a tradition

warriorn639mr

have a friend who's filipino... her husband asked her to marry him. so it might not be filipino tradition, but it doesn't hurt anything.

crookshanks

it's a polite way to ask the girl if she wants to be with the guy for the rest of her life.

Jinky Winky

Yes it is, Filipinos practice that but we are more sentimental when getting into that serious topic, really.

i go loony

Just to ask someone to marry you if you are a man is not really a Filipino tradition but it is happenning these days as the Philippines have been exposed to the Western culture. It's not wrong though. In fact, that is being polite for in this case, you are asking someone else's permission to marry you. Couples in the Philippines also have their own way in agreeing to get married but it doesn't mean they're not polite. We just have our own culture for this as all nations have their own.

karlhegel

No, its not a Filipino tradition... we may think that it is because it seems that it has become the normal way of proposing marraige. This custom is one of the effects of colonization. In the early times, women has equal rights, status and rank as men. The myth Malakas and Maganda explains this fact. Both of them was simultaneously created and went out the bamboo tree. Unlie the Western creation story, wherein women were created out of the rib bones of men. Filipino women were equal with men... back then. So be a real and true Filipina girl!!! Do not wait for your boyfriend for such thing to happen!

michelle

Well, I think it is a Filipino tradition. But times have change and usually couples just ask each other the date on when they will get married. But of course, it is still better and sweeter on the part of the guy if he still ask the girl to marry him.

lepactodeloupes

just ask her to marry her , that it

o0_gandayan_0o

Yes.

double_g

i think that's the proper way of asking.

Chablis F

i was proposed to although I can't clearly remember how my husband did it...i know it's weird...although I can remember the diamond ring he gave me...hehehehe

Sydney

Well, traditionally if a guy wanted to marry a girl, he would have to go to the girls house to ask her parents.

But nowadays, it seems a little more westernized and guys just ask girls if they would marry them.

dyosa_0405

not really, it is more of asking the parents of the bride for their daughter's hand.

FiLiPiNo MaN

i did that but not in a marriying way, but in a asking to be a girlfriend way. it really works.

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