Is it common for Filippino families to be like this?

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oneiloilokano

No it's not. Your boyfriend is an irresponsible jerk who ran away from his responsibilities. He's making excuses saying "his family wants nothing to do with you or the baby" ! I doubt his parents really feel that way and Philippine families are close. Family is the most important thing to them. While having children out of wedlock is "shameful" here they blame the woman and not the guy. But it's not an acceptable excuse for his behavior. I doubt his family has anytrhing to do with keeping you apart.

I can tell you in my family here the Uncles, Nephews and brothers would hunt this poor excuse for a man down and, well lets just say if he didn't do the right thing he would be missing a very important part of his anatomy and would not be capable of doing this to someone else.

I'dStillPreferNoName

Your boyfriend is just a jerk as simple as that.

ragdefender

He's just a jerk. The usual Filipino would marry the girl he gets pregnant as it is our culture to believe that it is the honorable thing to do.

Lapu-lapu arf

Its just his family.

Most traditional Filipinos will encourage or even force a wedding if the girl is pregnant, thinking that a baby out of wedlock will be more shameful.

Basically, its the immaturity of your ex and not his being a Filipino, believe me.

Donald M

That dude is just a lil ***** im sorry but your boyfriend has to man up and take responsibility. Filipinos don't do that stuff we are very proud of our culture. Filipinos are very kind and loves kids you sure he is filipino?

bluepill

it's not about shamefulness, its about quality of living, they'l support you if you're presented to be useful to them.
has low level of need, no morality, just basic food first before love.

Dizzy Dame

I don't think that kind of irresponsibility is particularly Filipino. I attribute it to the lax values of the younger generation, regardless of nationality.

ynsy spyder

Filipinos have high family values. At the same time we are known to keep close family ties. But it looks like you ex is more keen at keeping a close tie with his family rather than build one with you...which in my opinion is a shame,in the first place he should have stood up for you even if you're not married (yet).

The Broken Gentleman

Just the family. Some people here are all about morals & keeping the dignity of their family name. This is an attitude that many of us Filipinos thought have gone away due to the changing times, but it's alive & well...

makingsnsucks

sounds like its just his family

That fool just want to shirk his responsibility....and that is very common among cowards not only Filippino

Melvin

Well as they say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And that applies to everybody, be it Filipino or American.

jerriel

That is not common. That is only common to jerks.

What's common here is the guy must marry the pregnant girl despite financially short. The typical Filipino guy would really want his baby to get his name. That is an honor for us to keep the baby. It is shameful and cowardly to run away.

I am glad you are keeping the baby. Good luck.

@@love@@

Hi, I don't want to sound disgusting with you, but would just like to ask some questions, have you ever asked yourself if in case pregnancy incur he will be most willing to stand up for his responsibility with you and your baby?. You know some men, not only Filipinos, but I believe in all races specially those are not mature enough to handle such problem or situation tend to break away from the consequences of what they've done unless, otherwise the person really loves you so much, it's like no matter what, he will be besides you and will probably fight for you. Filipino men, mostly opt to bear their responsibilities with their child whether out of wedlock or not, is it not because their son was already married in the Phils. that's why they try to bring to an end any connection with you? Its just my analysis, it may or it may not. Because no Filipino parents wouldn't want their children to get married and settle when they are expecting a birth of an innocent baby.

Aref H4

.... Basically, I am appalled! I am almost tempted to challenge that boyfriend of yours to a duel! (Except that he might be very good with pistols and might shoot me dead!)

reporter

well most filipino families who are still conservative do mind having pre-marital babies. well the parents may be fine with it but the elders will, most of the time, force the parents of the baby to get married so the baby will be "legit" in a way. so as much as possible, they want a whole family for the baby.
well the guy you're talkin about is pretty shady. maybe he has financial issues. and his family is also shady. they shouldn't be like that.

Mary Magdalene is my mom

Not all Filipino male are that irresponsible and immature. Maybe he is too young to carry the duty of parenthood. Find another lover.

Jacinto Luis

Evil lurks everywhere regardless of culture. Filipinos generally are kind, generous and forgiving.And they love family and the honor they bring. Too bad you met him and I am sorry for you but move on. It is good you knew him that early. Raise the child well and I am sure more grace will come your way. Good luck.

U+2640

NO. IT'S NOT A COMMON PRACTICE.

Filipinos are usually caring and responsible.
It just so happen that the man you have chosen
and his family, is not even a bit like them.

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I WOULDN'T SAY THAT IT'S SHAMEFUL.

I'd rather say that you both are disappointing.
As you might have already known,
most filipinos are conservative.
Well, conservative people should make out
only after marriage. ain't that right?

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TAKE CARE OF THE BABY.

If your boyfriend's gonna ignore you both,
so be it. who cares anyway?
don't waste your precious time chasing a moron.

Also, never think of your baby is a burden.
S/he is a product of love (you were not raped right?)
and a blessing from God (not everyone are fertile)
so you should raise him/her well.

Babby Joshua Christomato

In part of some woman's life, they tend to meet a 'Wrong Guy', YOU DID, unlucky for you.

The man being Filipino national has nothing to do with it.
Just be careful next time.

kentenooo

why do you suppose there's so many unwed mother's in the philippines,girl you've been f**ked----twice

CebuCustomComputers

No, unless they are afraid it will affect their family income in some negative manner.

chliff

from where are you? no no no no no no no no no no hes just a stupid coward irresponsible jerk who only thinks about his p**** having a good time not minding the consequences of his actions as any other man from any kind of nationality.

(y)

Becoming pregnant is not something that "happens to you" as if you are some kind of victim. Unless things have changed, it's a joint effort. If you are in a more developed country with lots of rules, regulations, and man-hater laws, then it's no wonder he fled. He's probably considering how broke he will be for the next 25 years if he raises his hand of acknowledgment. Maybe he really does love you but he's just not ready to go to jail for something you both did.

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