My thai girlfriend is leaving me, what do i do? i tried talking to her but she wont listen.please help......?

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Crazy in Love

I absolutely agree with "Narak".
I'm Thai girl and know that all you said is not a manner of the good woman here.
No guys here need to marry with that kind of woman.

I'm so sorry to say that but its truth.
Don't sorrow about her. You are lucky that she was leaving you. Time will help you feel better.
You are a good guy, I hope you will meet a good girl in one day.

Narak

Forget her, she is a *****.
Save your love for someone who deserve.

I'm a Thai, and I hate this kind of Thai girl. What they expect from westerners is money money and money.

University-graduated can be a ***** too. Think this way : You're so lucky that she went away from you otherwise you would have to pay for her, her family whole your life. Whenever you lack of money, she go away. So, let her go now is much better. Look for a new one either Thai or American who is willing to share with you up an down.

This girl won't stop at that Air force man, believe me. She always looking for any better things including men and one day she will get trapped.

She is not a bar girl? What she behaves on internet is similar to those bar girls. She is a gratduated girl but can behave like a bar girl to get attention from guys. For me, she is even worse than bar girls.

Forget her,

karazyal

Heck of a long question, written like a very young teenager without using any capital letters and without paragraphs!

Probably the reason this girl dumped you is that she didn't want a whiner!

It is better to be dumped now before marrying her and paying alimony!

It is time to move on, lots of birds to hunt up! Think of the money you will save!

Time to grow a spine too!

No Fat Chicks

shes not your girl.........it was only your turn..shes obviously a gold digger and has got u in a spin...........forget her and spend your time researching thailand and the ladies so as to not make the same mistake

NONAME

bloody hell write less dont want to read a bloody essay

Dan

Many Thai women are beautiful and sexy and equally versed in coaxing you out of your money. She was just playing you, to get money and have you pay for her car and probably give money to her family as well. She probably has other guys sending her money as well. This is what many Thai girls do, even if they are not bar girls. They will have 2 or 3 boyfriends abroad sending them money, taking trips to Thailand to spend time with them, etc.

You just have to be smart about it. Have fun with them, but don't get so serious that you allow them to manipulate you like this and separate you from all of your money.

BENSON O

dump her dude , not worth the call , there plenty of better thai girl out there, go to thaikisses.com

IceCube

**** happens.
She doesn't love you. Just want to travel to the US.
PS not all Thai girls are like this. I'm Thai.
But lots of girls will do this; not only Thais.

crackalac

If i were you i would let her go. I wouldn't want a gf that is in a chat room dancing in her underwear. There are plenty of decent women in Thailand. Sounds like she only wants money and she doesn't care who she gets it from. If my gf acted crazy like this i would kick her to the curb. She sounds like one of my ex thai gf's except not as extreme as that. Better to forget about her while you still have your health.

Zach

you don't seem to have enough confidence. she's not happy to be with you because she feels like she has to "settle for someone like 'this'".

stop catering to the women in your life and show them how you're a man!

andy195220022003

Look buddy, almost all Thai girls are like your girl. As long as you are with them, it s alright and lots of fun but the moment you are out of sight, you are also out of her mind. She would grab the next opportunity to get a better offer. I feel that you forget about her. You should have got her to USA with you in the first instance.

if this is a real story,
you know what? let her go.

it would be a shame on you to stick on this twopenny girl.

i loose my thai-gf when i was in America and she was back in thailand too.
i feel bad as hell at the time, then i got a new girl which is my wife now(not thai, and thank god she is not thai!), we had been living far in difference country for the last 3.5 years before get married.

3.5 years without seeing, but our relationship still strong.
less than a year with that thai-gf, and we broken up.
that tell people truth color.

Sao Noy

I agree with most of the people that tell you to dump that girl believe me she is not worth for you. Its time for you to move on and some day you will find another girl then you"ll know she is the right one for you.

Mark C

Meal ticket..dump her. There are plenty of nice women in the United States.

Crybaby Bob

Your girlfriend is using you your not paying the bill she will find another. Your having anxiety because you think your level headed and make good decisions. Truth is this was a bad deal. She has heart no good forget her.

Fake Bean bin Laden

find a new one and take it as a lesson learned.....she must be hooking with someone else at this very moment

giddy penguin

remember thailand is no longer the land of smiles it is the land of greedy eyes , you are a meal ticket and have to accept this when the money runs low the thai girls do go golden rule never fall in love with a thai just have fun and live the good life for then the thais have a saying and its tomorrow never comes so they live there life for what comes along on the day.

Negeshia

For God sake can't you read between the line. You have been had. Forget her and move on. Your not the first and you will not be the last.

When I read this over again I am getting the feeling that you may be a troll

diombana a

she don't love you move on before you get hurt more

kik

she used u.

i know it's hard to forget someone,but time will help. for sure u will not be happy for a while,but as i told u that time will help. take time and learn from your pain.

i ever got pain from love,i took time for almost 3 years to forget that man,but finally i did. time help me and make me stronger.

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not all thai girl are bad,as the other farang men try to stereotype them.

yeah,some are bad behave and not faithful. but there are many that are very nice and honest. thai girl is like another girl from all over the world that mix with bad and good one.

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take time and u will be better.

traveler

Celebrate. You'll have US$ soon.

roe

Hi, first let me say that I am sorry for your pain. Things WILL get better. If this girl does not love you as much as you love her, which based upon what you wrote, she is not as strong as you. To keep a relationship strong when so far apart, is extremely difficult. Understand, that this is not your fault! Couples have difficult times, even when living in the same home:)! The bottom line is, that if you truly love her, then let her know that one last time, and ask her if she wants to be with you and you only, If her answer is no, then trust that when one door shuts, another opens, and when the time is right you will find someone as faithful as you. In the mean time, concentrate on your new job, and take up a hobby that you have been meaning to, and find joy within yourself, by yourself, and before you know it, love will come knocking. Prayer and study are also helpful for anyone who is hurting, seek the Creator and Scriptures for solace and understanding. Peace to you. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/StudyingScriptures

nokkie

Clearly her goal was to move to the US. If you really want her back, tell her you will marry her and bring her to live with you. She wants a better live and more money to send home. She doesn't care if there are Thai people in the US. If she's smart and educated like you said, I'm sure she could easily adapt.

Btw, there are tons of Thai people in California. If you're ever in L.A., check out Thai Town. I have a bunch of Thai friends in NY too.

gordon69_scot

Well we can all see that you go on a bit. Forget her there are lots more available.

marmalade

Long-distance relationships are really difficult. This is especially true where Thai people are involved (even if the relationship is between two Thai people). Whether its good or bad, the fact is that one of the fundamental things about Thai people is their love of 'sanook' (fun). If a Thai woman (or man) isn't getting what they regard as their daily quota of sanook with their boyfriend/girlfriend (e.g. because the boyfriend/girlfriend is in a different city or country) then they are likely to look for it elsewhere. You might say that this is childish but so what if it is? its just the way Thai culture is and there is no way to change it. If a boyfriend isn't around to have sanook with then its not amazing that a Thai girl will look elsewhere. The only hope is the girl has some sense of morality will kick in and impose limits on the way that sanook is obtained (tip: go for Thai girls that are strict Buddhists as they have an internal moral code that will prevent the sort of behaviour you describe. Also girls that no longer live with their parents are dubious because they have already lost a powerful influence that will insist on them following conservative Thai standards of behaviour. The classic case is a girl that has gone to Bangkok from the provinces to university/to work and who lives with friends - for me that's a red flag).

I can't help you by telling you what to do; I can only tell you what I'd do in the situation you describe : dump her.
From what you describe, by her behaviour, she has shown you no respect and once respect in a relationship has gone then it is (in my experience) impossible to recover and, frankly a waste of time trying.
Its sad about the money you spent but I think you have to write it off. At least you can start saving money now by stop making international calls to her.

Every relationship has its ups and downs - I don't live in perpetual bliss with my Thai girlfriend. We have our good days and our bad days but there are limits to what a girlfriend can do and get forgiveness for and the lady you describe has, in my book, gone way beyond those limits. Do you seriously want to be in a long-term relationship with a girl that strips down to her underwear in public or talked to you about being with another man ? Its not really normal Thai behaviour (except for a bar girl). She doesn't sound exactly like wife/life partner material. If it was me, I'd move on - to have a relationship with a person that could behave in such a way is below my self-respect.

This is quite surprising to hear about a Thai University student doing. University students often come from middle class families that produce good Thai women that behave very politely and have a conservative view of appropriate behaviour. However, I guess that there are some universities that have better graduates that others.

You could tell us which university she attended so as to give us a 'heads up' about which university in Thailand has produced a graduate that has behaved in this shocking way.

tonics4u2

come on yahoo, this is a travel section, u need to monitor the malaysian travel section too-- enough of this rubbish

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