Filthy Lucre
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It's a common dodge. Books have been written about this - and some of them quite comical. Mate, I live in Korea and visit the land of smiles from 2 to 4 times each year, and have been doing so for more than 12 years. I'm going next week myself in fact - for a week of business and pleasure in "Fun City."
Lad, I'm an old Bangkok hand and I'm here to tell you that there is no such thing as a "Thai girlfriend" - not by the traditional definition of girlfriend that is.
But understand that in her mind it's not a scam, it's a necessary way to get you to give her some money so that she can impress her folks and friends, and show them that she's doing well.
By the way, is she from up-country, like from Udon? Up-country girls are particularly adept at this bit. It's a way of life for them to have farangs sending them cash from overseas, and usually the younger neophytes and the old men are the ones that do it.
Of course they'll correspond with you and tell you everything you want hear, so as to keep the money stream flowing. I'm guessing you don't live there. How did you "meet" her? Was it a website?
You've made it clear that you haven't met face-to-face, but how often do you visit Thailand? Or, have you ever been there?
Also, exactly what do you know about her? Is she a bar girl? Does she work in Nana Plaza, Patpong, or Soi Cowboy? Or does she work in one of the newer "entertainment" districts?
Has she been to university? As far as you know, does she have any education? If she doesn't, she's a "working girl" for sure, and asking for money for her "mother's operation," or a "new cow because the old one died," or to fix her "father's tax problem," or whatever...
It's how she improves her lifestyle.
Hate to break it to you mate but she's got several more just like you that she's getting money from, and she's probably gotten pretty good about juggling all of you to keep from bumping into each other if/when you all come for a visit to see how your money fixed her problem.
Of course this may not be what you want to hear, and you may want to see yourself as her white knight. Trying to save the distressed damsel from a life of certain ruin. But the old notions of girls enslaved to brothels is hogwash.
For the most part, the girls work there willingly because it's their only hope of any glamour in their otherwise, meager, drudgery-destined lives.
In the "life," club girls are almost like celebrities, or at least celebrity wannabes. After work they group up and go to after-hours clubs for karaoke and whatnot. And sniff those ephedrine inhalors they're addicted to.
Mate, it's your life and you can do with it as you like, but if you really want some sincere advice on this, DON'T DO IT! and don't worry about losing her either. She'll stay or go and it really won't matter because to each other, both of you are easily replaceable. And that's the truth.
So go there, enjoy yourself, and spend some money, but don't fall for that old dodge. If it was a small amount, what's the harm (but even then I wouldn't do it), But the amount she's asking for is quite a bit of money.
Tell you can't but you'd like to meet and see how else you might be able to help her. See what her response is. see if she cools off or not. I'm pretty sure she will. Maybe not at first, but in pretty short order I'm sure you'll see a loss of interest on her part.
If you resist being duped, I promise you that you'll feel a whole lot better for it. I assure you that self respect is a wonderful thing. Much better than giving your hard earned money to someone who most likely has no real feelings for you.
Think about it. |
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Ïιηкι
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Sorry i wouldn't...go with your instinct,your obviously having doubts... |
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uk expat
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You will never see her if you send the money or not ! 10 grand is having a laugh, i live in Thailand and my wife is a teacher with ten years experience and only earns £2,500 a year , sounds more like mum wants a new house ! |
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madonna_toller
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This is one of the OLDEST bar-hookers request!!! Here among the ex-pat's a running joke,ha,ha If it is not family then the water-buffalo needs urgently an operation...You can as well flash the money somewhere else. If you want to be cheated - go ahead... |
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polsit n
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NOT DO ITS...CAUSE I AM BE THAI SAME..MAY BE SHE LIE ...IN THAILAND WE HAVE FREE OLD PEOPLE FOR GO HOSPITAL...I THINK SHE LIE..I DON'T KNOW UP TO YOU...BUT MANY THAI LADY ALWAY LIE..I HAVE BF FROM US SO I AM BE HALF BELIEVE YOU GOOD AND SHE GOOD BUT NOT DO THATS HAVE TO MEET HER FRIST..TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCKS.. |
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missshoppieshoppie
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I'd say bring the money with you when you go to see her, if you gives you an ultimatum like "send the money and then you can see me" it sounds like a scam. If you go over you can also see for sure that her mother is unwell and help her if you wish to do so. I wouldn't give that much money to someone I've never met, how do you know she won't just take the money and then you won't hear from her? |
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killerclown0524
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lol it would not surprise if some sad guy has actually done that |
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AV (Avinash J Welinkar)
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Don't get me wrong but I wouldn't want you to get cheated, you have just got to know her, would recommend to find out whats the illness and also how much it would cost.
Medication and treatment is not that very expensive in Thailand.
you could send the details to a few hospitals in Thailand, Number of hospitals there have their own websites and find out the treatment & cost.
All the best |
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sonia
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Hey Crispy me old mate, hope you aint kidding bout this one!!!, well dont do it please if you are serious...... its a scam.
Why dont you date somone here? |
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PersianGolfer
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Send it to me and I'll give it to her when I go. You'll save lots of money in postage that way. |
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dipydoda
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Wow, you can come see her after you send the money? I think after you send the money you'll never see or hear from her again. I would think long and hard before you do this. Don't let those rose colored glasses get in the way. |
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♥fluffykins_69♥
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no don't you send money to them, there ripping you off you silly man. |
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occi
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Come and see them by yourselves ...
her mom might real sick or
your gf is a liar. |
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cutiem
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I wouldnt..... it sounds terribly mean but you shouldnt have to do that to be allowed to see her. also, thats an awful lot of money.... you could get in trouble here too..... |
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Crispy sweetheart i think your being played! i really hope shes only joking, but if not you don't even know what she looks like, i really think you should leave well alone! =] |
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Terry M
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Don't do it
It's a scam to part you with your money |
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Neo Theone
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I'm Thai and have heard this same story too many times. Be careful with your money bro. |
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BadShopper
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Yes, and send me £20,000 for my sick gerbil's operation too |
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Me
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No way. Go visit her first. |
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Gungnir
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You are kidding, right? One of the oldest scams in the world. She's probably corresponding with 100 Westerners, hoping at least one of them is stupid enough. |
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ed
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And you've never met?
How in hell do you know this is a "girl"?
OHHH! She sent you a pic. UH HUH!
And after she receives it, you can come see her?
If you're serious, deliver it in person. Don't be surprised if she/he is no where to be found.
And I thought I was nuts with my ex, with what I gave her.
Geeezzz. AARRRGGGGHH! |
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Infodude
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Sounds like a con... the usual one with thai bar girls is a sick buffalow
Pretty common... Its ad when genuine cases get seen as conned but more liky a con...
Also er mate how can she be your girlfreind if you ahve not met let along snogged and dated for a while? |
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A G
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I think a fool and his money are soon parted! How can she be your girlfriend if you have never met her? |
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*SugaryLips*
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1) do u 110% trust her?
2) do u know her very well?u haven't met her yet
3)does her mother really unwell?
4)does that money really meant for the operation? or something else
5) what if she lied to you?
my answer is definately NO! DONT
10,000 pounds is alot of money |
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Stephen M
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how long have you been goign out with your girlfriend, if its only been a couple of weeks i would watch myself, could be a scam but as long as you can trust her |
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GorGeous_Girl
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i wouldnt trust anyone i havent even seen mate!
although if you have that kind of money to throw away and not worry about it later, then do it !
you need to to consider that she could be lying or telling the truth and ready for the consequences both ways !! :) |
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Scam. Don't do it. |
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IrishLassie
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eh whatever... if your gonna say it...good luck to you...
by the way my dog needs an operation can you send €20,000 please |
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John D
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If you really think this is genuine get her mother a ticket to the UK or another country with a free health service and get her treated there.
Also, 10k sounds like a nice round number. Just right for a scam.
PS if you haven't met then she isn't your girlfriend just some woman you know over the net/phone. |
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Kevin O
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if you want to get in her pants |
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Dan
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Are you having a laugh is this a joke question? Your thai girlfriend but you haven't met yet - who are you kidding..you THINK her mother is unwell? A deal? after you send it you can meet her? well pls answer these questions before you do anything stupid or have a good laugh at my answer because I took you seriously. |
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