Saving a disastrous relationship?

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ANGELO [Flying]

i always try to save a relationship until i totally lose hope ...

everything is worth saving if you think it's worth the time and effort you have already invested in it ...

it depends on what is the "disasterous" thing about it .. there are different ways ... but the most thing i do is to emphasize on the love and care i have for the girl ...... but if she's driving herself to self-destruction and dragging me down then i have to use some Tough love ....... i will ignore her and avoid her until she knows she needs me .........

if you believe it was a wrong thing to get into then no .. don't save anything .. just let it go .........

Fire Princess

...when a major disaster strikes, it's time to bail out.

HOWEVER, when you have invested so much in a relationship and when the feelings are still there, then it is worth the effort of salvaging it...we can't always run away at the every sign of trouble; otherwise, we will never build a strong bond...it is only in mending the little and big patches that we can solidify the relationship.

to compromise is the core of a solid union.

tin2

I wish we all have a reliable crystal ball to tell what lies ahead 5 or 10 years from now. As it is, we can't even tell if our heart will still beat tomorrow. In the absence of such, we just have to trust our good judgment to tell us when a disastrous relationship is worth saving for. When the ship is sinking, I'd be clinging to a lifesaver (salvavida) - that's for sure! So when my love life is going down the drain, I'd be doing the same. For as long as love is not gone, I'd do everything in my power to save (to hang on) to what I believe is really mine.

Harmony

Disastrous it is...honestly don't have any idea because i haven't experienced being on a relationship yet.

But anyway, based on my observations...in the outside world, my surroundings, and so forth and so on...a relationship should be guided by:

Trust begets trust,
Love begets love,
Patience begets patience,
Maturity begets maturity,
Respect begets respect,

the rest is prayer...because God himself really helps to ease out the burdens and worse scenario of any situation in a disastrous relationship...what matters most is that...you both are real and just simply care for each other...Hope you can save your relationship with him good luck...if not...try to have a personal relationship with God through prayer...pray for that person who've caused the disaster....in that relationship...

Thanks a lot too and You're very much welcome...because in every questions here...that I've answered, all that matters to me are the lessons I'm gonna learn.

bantay salakay

when the going gets rough, we have to get tough. we either we get out if all attempts of reconciliation don't work or we stay if the channels of communication are still open.

sheerâ™¥black

On the practical side, in a relationship, the two of you should grow together not as one, but as an individual. If the relationship is causing too much suffering on either side or both to the extent that there is no "growth", then I think there is no point in pursuing the relationship. On the other hand, if you think that it can still be saved, then there's no harm in trying. It depends on the relationship's damage but saving it is a roller coaster ride nonetheless. What more if the two of you pursue marriage but the sufeerings were unbearable at the first or second time and there's no growth? You're like two magnets with opposite sides trying to stick together.

siopaO

try once or twice... if it still don't work out... just let it be... its better that way than to stay in such relationship...

Supergey

you know better than any 1 on the computer trying to help you.

If its your relationship think about everything.

is it disastrous because its stressfull? your not happy? its not easy(to see eachother) you fight too much?

regardles of the problems. put everything together in your head. or on paper. if you really are considering saving it. and by going on here im sure its worth a try and you wanna stay int it or else ud already be out.

bing2

why is it disastrous?
if both of you still love each other it is worth saving, if its a one way love affair maybe its better off to both of you.
have a serious and honest talk both of you must work for the relationship to work out.

skeptic

if its that disastrous as you said it is.. then i think its not worth saving... its better to quite rather than suffer the consequences later... anyway its really your choice to make... its your life...

Aref H4

Suppose you find yourselves in the Titanic, and it's not yet time to collide with the iceberg.

First, check with the ship's captain for directions, to find out where exactly the ship is in relation to the iceberg.

If you can persuade the captain to change course, you have averted the disaster.

If not, try to get weapons aboard and hijack the ship, if only to change its course.

If that didn't work, steal a boat and offload before the tragedy.

No go? Ok. Have your lover make a sketch of you, and have that sketch kept in a watertight container, and tell him to drink up a lot of whisky cause he's sure headed for a cold swim.

alan

Yes it is. if the relationship you want to save means a lot to you, if it's your life which is at stake, then, it's worth saving. If that's the case, i will. i'll take the consequence.
To do that, set down and talk, in a professional manner.
"..'ika nga, walang problemang di malulutas sa maboteng usapan,". The bottom line is, nobody knows better than you do.

heartburn

are you trying to kill each other?

Erica A

This e-book is free to download and I really think you should read it. It's called 97 steps to a happy relationship. Check it out!

yvie

If it doesn't work why save it? The disaster lives on. DON'T BE MARTYR

I'mFromOberDare

Is it worth it? only you can answer that. If you think it is then try couple's therapy or a support group, have you tried going on a trip together (boat cruise, Australia)?

If you tear at each other's throat on a trip, then it's over....

automaticstay

just walk away...

usually you'll know the worth of something only after its gone because that's when you'll get the big picture, after you've gained a little distance from the whole thing. if by then you think your disastrous relationship is worth anything, then go and work like hell to save it. but then again, there's always a risk that it might be too late by then. whatever the case, its all part of growing up...

;-)

annabelle p

If its a disastrous relationship, then why save it? It's not worth your time, effort and patience to save something that is a disaster...maybe from the start. End it and move forward. There is always someone for each of us, just be patient. Most importantly, pray to God and ask for His guidance in choosing the right person for you. Good luck!

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