Thai girls want good heart not handsome man.?

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kik

thai girl is a human same as u guys who response sutpid answers. dude, u make me get angry about your answers.

u guys know some thai people,spend many years here,it doesn't mean that u know all about thailand or all thai. such a narrow experience u got.

i spent some years in abord,have many western friends,but i never try to sterotype them or u. i jujde people by person,not by their nation.

try to be fair enough,don't try sterotype thai girl or thai guy from your narrow knowledge. we are the same as u,as a human way,that some are good,some are bad.

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well back to the question,thai girl is the same as girls in another country.

some are really stuck on love,don't care about look or money of a guy.

but some looking only for glory future,not love.

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one way to know that this girl really in love with your friend or not,is take time.
time will answer everything.

â™¥ Miss E â™¥

Not being handsome is different to not being attractive, you have to be attracted to someone and have a special connection in order to love that person. There are plenty of handsome men out there that absolutely love themselves, therefore of course you can love someone and not think they are handsome, you just find them attractive. I think in a ideal world women would prefer a good heart, someone to treat you with respect and with love over being handsome any day, I know I would.

Whitehawk

actually in thailand the term good heart is very common "Jai Dee" all the girls will tell you the same thing - They want men with good heart, not handsome.

I believe its because of the sterotype of the thai men that bring this on:
The sterotype of thai men (dont mean to offend anyone here) - handsome and wife beater. Lazy and expect the ladies to bring home the money.

So many of the women like farangs and think they are a lot more gentlemanly and can provide for her and her family.

Whether she really loves your friend etc ... only time will tell.

Ratchanexpat

I have never heard of a Thai girlfriend telling her boyfriend to his face that she does not think him handsome. For this I applaud her honesty. If he truly loves her, there is nothing that you as his friend can probably say to dissuade him. That being said, it would be nice to know if everyone who has met her and seen them interact leaves with the impression that she truly loves him. If he were obese and a drunkard, I might admire her efforts to have him eat healthy and drink less. If, as you say, he is neither, I am a tiny bit concerned that she wants to change and control him. Still, it's his life. I wish both of them happiness.

papars

Thai women usually do not cheat and hence, your friend is lucky to have won the heart of one. In Thailand, and according to Buddhist preachings, external beauty is fleeting and hence, not a major consideration.

Floppy Dick

Oy Stevie !!! Love is on the inside. (good looking people above always say that)

Michael F

I think she is saying he's not handsome only by way of emphasizing that her feelings for him are not shallow, and that she cares for him because of his personality and kindness: that it's not simply a sexual attraction she feels, which she knows can be a transient feeling.
Saying "you have a good heart" is a common compliment in Thailand. Thai's believe it's the finest compliment they can give you. And probably they're absolutely spot on.
Incidentally, I hope you're fit for the Rugby World Cup!

taggie

What does she do for a job ?
The thai women will take good care of there men ,while they are with them , but if someone better comes along while your friend is in england ,he will be history
They only want someone to provide for them and there family

à®œâ˜†Â§weet Angelâ˜†à®œ

I think she loves him. There is no reason why only handsome man could be loved.

The important thing are feelings. Because beauty goes away with time, while feelings stay there.

Remember that eyes see physics, but heart sees feelings.

She is concious that her man is not handsome. Maybe she is sooo direct to say it but the important things are feelings.

doubledeuce44

Maybe so. The real metric here is the income differential. If she is a professional with a functional work life in Thailand, then this is probably genuine.

If, on the other hand, this person is for lack of a better term, poor- then its most likely a way to find a green card.

Its also important to understand that in Eastern cultures, the concept of physical attraction as a prerequisite to life companionship is not so much of a cultural premium. Unfortunately, to a large degree, money and social status is. So, proceed accordingly.

Crybaby Bob

A lot of Thai women have 4-5 guys on the hook paying money to keep her. There are some that are genuine, they want a Farang because he has money and will take care of her. Many Thai men are not interested in older women (29)and chase around and drink and find a new wife and dump the old one. Just because she is religious and eats right doesn't mean that she isn't conning him.
That being said anything can happen, nobody knows the true heart, you just have to believe. I would caution against giving his heart too easily because the Bar Girls are trained to decieve. Do not give anymore that you can afford to loose, just like gambling. Get a prenup. And yes I believe she loves him for his heart, she's probably had many cries over men that were handsome and treated her badly. There's a lot of dispicable Farang men in Thailand.

African Farmer

There are many women in Thailand and they are not all the same. So many stories are being told.

Check out some of the forums, e.g., via BangkokPost.com or www.thaivisa.com

Mystery

i have been attracted to, and dated many men who i did not consider handsome.

dave o

most probably she does.Good looks are unimportant to most thai women(and men for that matter)although it can be a bonus
You have to tick these boxes:- Is he kind,can he support me financially(and family),clean,not a drunk,druggie,gambler,not a batterer,would he make a good father to my children
Really not that different to a western woman really,so why western women find it helpful to brand thai women as 'prozzies' is beyond me.
As with many asian cultures you find a suitable candidate,then let love grow.A much more realistic and successful approach.Works for us

Toffo

If you or any good man finds true love in a real Thai woman then you have struck pure gold. They respect older men as it is part of their true culture. Of course much of this has been lost in the sick madness of western example thanks wholly to our U.S. and Aussie friends during the horrible Vietnam war. It was then that these monsters introduced the Thais to what is now the poison in their wonderful culture. But they are not all out for the money and casual sex ! I have had a Thai ladyfriend for 3 years now who is in Australia at present and she is lovely in every way. She calls me reguarly while I am in uk and we will reunite soon in November. Just keep in mind that these strong yet gentle people have had it very very rough over the years and are absolutely dedicated to their King, their culture and their families. Also Thailand is a Kingdom which though tarnished by what I have already mentioned, has never totally sold out to the west and hasn't been colonized.These ladies know a good man when they see one as opposed to the "stupid fat farang " they are so bored and familiar with in the westerner ridden resorts and bars . A man with some dignity and strong ground rules for his own and his partners future will continue to be respected, if he lays it on the line where the boundaries are and that he is not just there to provide for her family. He must also stress to her that he too is not so easily won over by flirtatious,fickle pretty girls and has his own self values ! As for the handsome bit, well as Rod Stewart said in his "Georgie" song .....
" youth's a mask and it don't last, live it long and live it fast, you will never get a second chance... ".
Listen ! Looks never matter to your true soulmate.
I am not Pearce Brosnan either, am 49 yrs old yet my Thai sweetheart is absolutely beautiful,19 years younger than myself, never fails to let me know how much I am missed, and worries that I may stop loving her ! True love is in their heart, and they won't part with it easily I tell you. But once you have it then you have a treasure. Something many in the west have long since lost. Be positive. ( Buddha )
" choc dee " and " sawasdee " to your friend !

True T

It's not always a culture thing.

Many people out there are looking for a secure and comfortable relationship. The more older you get, it's not all fun and games anymore.

Most woman would tend to want to find a decent man with a secure job, so they can spend a lifetime together comfortably.

Most men would tend to want to find a decent woman that would one day be the mother of his children.

I have personally heard of many sides of the story.

Marriages that are solely based on security:

1. Love blossoms, grows into a family, lifetime together.
2. No love, stay together for the sake of the children.
3. Can't tolerate... etc...

To answer your question, from your story, she could most likely be genuine, but only your friend can really decide.

You know the saying, 'love doesn't feed the family..." or something like that. Sometimes people need more.

Hope I'm not just babbling nonsense.
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Addition:

Should also consider what the woman does for a living.

Stevie

of course - a lot of ugly people below me will say that love is on the inside but thats what ugly people below me say to make themselves feel better

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