What's the best way to meet REAL girls in THAILAND .... NOT Bar-Girls????

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angel_eyes

well to tell you the true is difficult to fine a Thai women that not pro's. if you just visiting for a couple of days. or if you like to meet a regular women make sure they are not young and have job from respective establishment, like the Hotel staff. good luck for looking...

madonna_toller

First I wanted to answer don't visit Bar's etc. but since your are on a vaccation it's not possible. Just watch out: even sales-girls,hairdresser's etc. are keen of meeting a FARANG (thai name for foreigners). Unfortunately most of them believe that we are all multi millionaires and they are more interested in your money than anything else. Well educated girls from rich families would never (apart from a few exceptions) want to meet a tourist for romance. On top they stay among them and are not to be seen in normal Bars. Just enjoy it here (it's beautyful though) but pls don't look for a true,steady friendship.

L96vette

One of the best sites on the net, if not the best, about Thailand, from those who live there/visit frequently.

Entire books have been written about your question, but here is a link to a great submission. I would read the rest of the postings, or at least a good number, as you will discover that many stereotypes of Women from SE Asia are WAY off base.

One IMPORTANT thing to learn: while everyone likes to be treated with respect, the Thai culture is VERY different from that in the West. For example, our (sometimes) upfront and honest approach, even if put diplomatically, can be insulting to a Thai, and losing face is something that they tend to avoid at all costs.

Also among the more conservative Thais, holding hands in public is seen as inappropriate, but this reportedly is changing among the younger generations.

From what I have read from Stickman, if you can find a girl that has spent a good deal of time at a university in America or other western country, this goes a long way to helping your cause as she has been exposed to western culture.

BEWARE of any girl that will jump in bed within a few dates. If she's truly a GTG (good Thai girl), you will have to take your time.

waree

Outside the bar girl scene, Thailand's still a pretty conservative country (I mean that in a good way). Buddhist moral values are very much in operation. If you want a genuine relationship with a good Thai girl its going to take a long time and you're going to need to be a good person throughout. Learning to speak Thai would also be a good idea. If you're looking for a sort term (sexual) relationship with a non-prostitute, like an office girl, maybe Tokyo or Manila would be better/easier places for you. I'm not saying its impossible in Thailand but its going to be tough. Of course, if you're extremely rich it'll be a lot easier but then you've got the problem of being able to tell the good girls from the girls just looking for cash, the 'would you mind to help me pay my rent this month?', etc. girls. The other plus factor you might have is being handsome. Whether its good or not is a different question, but the reality is that being good-looking can make a person's life a lot easier here and open doors that would otherwise be closed.Blues eyes are a plus even if you're no Brad P. You might want to read 'Culture Shock, Thailand' so you have some idea how Thai people think and would like you to speak and behave when in Thailand. It'll also mean you are less likely to blow your chances with a normal Thai girl if you do manage to find one.

laostransport

You have to understand something first. 99% of the regular Thai girls only like Thai men and don't want to be friends with foreigners. Families to regular Thai girls will not be happy at all if their daughter get friends with a foreigner. Just find a bargirl. They are used to foreigners, speaks maybe a little english and they are not bad at all. They have also been "regular" girls before they enter the bar scene. Dont be afraid.

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sirilxx

Malls, in my opinion.

World of Suffering

Go to real bars, not whore-house-like bars. It's pretty hard to do find real women if you don't live here.

jackychan

its impossible everyone there is a hooker or ladyboy or both. good luck.

Don K

My lady is from thailand and we have been together for the last 5 years. I met her in the USA and we are still in the USA. Where she works there are many thai women working there and many from lauo (how ever you spell it) and mexicans and white. So maybe if you are from the usa you could just look around town and find one. I did. I mean asian women seem to be all over the place here.

love911

Since the sex trade is the main means of moola in Thailand, it will be hard..but, the best place would be the open markets, that is where alot of girls work during the day, helping their family sell goods for little income.

efrankdeniro

Contact them online and tell them you are coming to live in Thailand.. very easy...

ElOsoBravo

Pretty difficult for a casual traveler. Decent girls are not shopping for farang, and society & families are very conservative and protective.
While this sounds totally outrageous, your best bet may be to surf the most reliable dating services. These women will not be bargirls, but they have simplistic visions of meeting a farang for long term security and caring, i.e., they are not out just for a fun time and most already have children for whom they, or their grandparents, are responsible. They may be pleasant and engaging, but forget your dreams of meeting beautiful Asian women at your beck and call.
Opportunities are far greater for long term expats who engage in volunteer or social activities, and are in a better position to absorb themselves into Thai society.
I'm trying to be particularly realistic in these comments; perhaps, you will find yourself far better opportunities.

spanky

Some good and bad advice above - - I have a thai wife from a fine but poor family. We had 2 months of chaperoned dates and when she made up her mind to go home w/me, her intentions were marriage.

It can be difficult to tell a bargirl from a "regular" Thai girl in that the bg's might tell you anything.. just started work yesterday etc..

For me, it took an intro from a friend, a working knowledge of Thai culture and language etc.. You will experience language as well as cultural differences.. but best simple advice is to look at her family.. If they tend to drink too much, chances are they are broke and you will be looked to for a source of funding..

best of luck..

peanutz

Just be yourself and go to the pubs and bars. The patrons are not bar-girls. You can make conversation if you find anyone you like. The girls do go pubbing and clubbing nowadays, to unwind after work or study. You will be able to differentiate the bargirls from the patrons quite easily.

gbdelta1954

As Spanky said there is good advice and bad advice. I met my girlfriend through an online service. I used www.thaillovelinks.com, there are probably 2 dozen of them. They are listed on www.thaiwebsites.com I think I was lucky, it took almost a 15 months of exchanging emails and visits before she made up her mind. Yes, she wants to marry me, she's 26 and I am 52 so it's not about age. And yes, I will probably marry her. She says that she wants to get married around 30 y.o. Okay!! If you look around Bangkok you don't see alot of men working in the city. Yes, taxi drivers and laborers but, not at the bus stops nor on the subway or skytrain. There is a shortage of men period. If I had a choice to do it a different way, I would go to the bars, not the beer bars. Q-Bar on Soi 11, places like this where you have to pay 600 THB to enter, around USD 15. Then another 2 drinks about USD 5 total for a couple beers. I went with a couple of lady friends and If I did not have my friends with me. There were at least a couple ladies there, I knew I could at least talk to. Bottom line: You could get to know someone in one visit. I think it is better to meet them online and chat with them online if you could. Talk to them on the phone to make sure you can understand each other. And when you do meet, be careful. One thing the others did not mention is they could be a ladyboy, a Katoey, a male in drag. They can be deceiving and dangerous. They can be very pretty but, the honest ones are looking for love too. As you would here, meet in a public place, always for your safety and their comfort. And read what you can about the Thai people so you understand the customs. Good luck.

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Most male tourists will think that all Thai girls are either prostitutes or just looking for an easy-way out with rich foreigner, but if you really spend enough time in this country, you will realize that this is far from the truth. If you have the chance of spending any time in Thailand, you will meet many nice people with very conservative values, in fact way more conservative than many american or western women I know...for sure, there are a lot of working girls out there but there are also a lot of nice, loving, faithful and beautiful women who only dream of finding their Mr. Right, so don't let the first impressions fool you! Problem is, you won't meet them in bars but you will need to be introduced through friends and relatives.

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