cutie_j
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There are lots of american came here in the Philippines- the intention is to get married with the woman they love and some wanting to meet Filipina believing and like the idea of pinay as very submissive wife-which is true that pinay is known for that. There are lots of cases we will considered when we say submissive but this days i dont think being submissive is true to all just think why those OFW wife/mother trying hard to work abroad leaving there families while the husband has no work. But because filipina women are good in nature we think/tend to be family first i could say filipina women are responsible just it matters where <community>, what level<education> or the background <work> – so if you chose those filipina working in the bar – then what do you expect but its your choice - what i said marrying someone does not come on what race he/she belong. It is how you accept each other; love each other from the start to the end of life that you'll be sharing together forever. Just sad to say - not all lucky enough to find a perfect partner for life.
But for me i am very happy with my husband i love him sobra, we love each other and accepted each others weakness because we believe marriage is forever and considered marriage a give and take relationship. I am a college graduate and I can teach if i want - but because my husband has a good income and living a comfortable life then we both decided to focus our time together in the family.
Just in addition to the resentful looks.
If you noticed Filipino love to look at people eye-to-eye or straight from the eye. That’s why we had this song “ sa mata makikita “ or in English “You can see in the eyes” you can tell- no words coming out but it speaks the truth just the look. But to some out of curiosity because you look different or you’re just too gwapo/sexy that’s why they cant stop looking at you. But I’m sure its no harm. Just be friendly :) But not good to americans with bad intentions and not using there brain thinking they can still find true love when there age gap is 15 - 40 or even upto 50 yrs. but where not here to judge so if they're happy with what they're doing let it be they're old enough to decide. |
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Mary Magdalene is my mom
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Many Americans are caught in the Philippines doing indecent acts to Filipinas and children--pedohiles find the country a goo dhunting ground because Filipinos are meek and poor. That may be the rentful look you got.
But some decent Americans have become trustworthy friends of the community. I have some friends who owns beaches in the country and are very nice guys. It takes a while to win the Filipino trust. But once you violate him he is ready to kill a foreigner like killing a chicken. So you better behave--is such an undertstatement.
Most Americans go to the Philippine to screw a prostitute. This is evident when there were US bases in Angeles, Subic, Olongapo, Cavite and lately in Mindanao--the military joint exercise.
But generally most Filipinos wanted to go to America so that cancelled out any doubts about their real intentions and motives. They like American women but find it hard to nail one. |
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oneiloilokano
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We all know the ugly american types your talking about.
However we are exceptions to the rule. My wife is 40 and I am 47. We have been married almost 9 years now and have lived in Iloilo since 2002.
It's been my experience that most people here are friendly and I have had no real problems. The few giving the resentful look. well what can I say ? You know the way we are stereotyped on those soap operas and most have never left the country and know how it really is. |
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Bhuwisit
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It depends. The men who come to the country to marry its women can be classified as such:
1. Guys like you who seem to be decent well adjusted and marry someone within their age range. You probably have a sharing and equal relationship based on mutual attraction and devotion--just like if you married back in the USA. Unfortunately, you are in the minority;
2. The other type are the pervs who decide to marry an "island girl" because they've heard that these women are weak and easily subjugated. Typically these guy's personalities, attitudes and lifestyles are considered disgusting by their own womenfolk. Often these men have menial jobs, if at that, minimal education, a chauvinistic attitude, are dreadfully insecure about themselves so the only way they feel good about themsleves is when they are surrounded by people who they feel are inferior to them--and makes 'em feel like a king that they're not back home. Stay away from these guys. |
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iscikedelic
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All was said above. I agree and respect their point of views especially buwisit's
All I can say now that I am married to American and what I can say about him is that he is a loving husband. He is responsible, no doubt. He prepared about many things like he all ready have student plans for the kids and life insurances, retirements and we both have prepared in case any of us past away before the other (God forbid). We also have medical insurance for both of us, including dental. He never abandon me when I was about to get blind and until now that I am sick. Probably can't find someone like him in my own race (ha ha pardon). I know there are responsible Filipino guys out there (but really not too many) but then I did not have any success finding one. |
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mrs.m
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I see a lot of american men who in my opinion target filipino women under the belief theyre more submissive. Not cool.
I see filipina women marry American men for money.
I think you should know eachother before you get married-- to anyone-- instead of personal gain. |
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Big P
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Wow, interesting discussion after reading other answers.
My marriage and family life is all good. I don't need to explain any further in justifying my marriage as being legit. To all those who maybe concerned, you live your life and I will live mine. It does not matter.
We all have a burial site waiting for us.
Enjoy!!(smile) |
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jd
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consider yourself and the answers from the foreigners here.
I don't think most of us are bad people.
I'm going to be 59 in Feb and she will be 49 in March. We love each other and take care of each other and her future will be fine when I'm gone.
I think the majority of marriages work out fine and I don't get all that many dirty looks. Or I don't notice.
The only Filipino that has ever given me trouble is the Godless whore that hangs out here looking for people to insult.
Everyone else has been very respectful and helpful.
There is always a bad apple and always a woman that will take whatever he puts out.
That's life.
I like to feel I'm helping out by taking good care of my PPhilippinefamily just as I did in America with my five kids. It full fills me. |
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Ω allan y
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lucky them |
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Anne C
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filipinos are generally receptive..i would wanna believe that you get stared at, not because of resentment,..but merely because you're different and you look different.
well, indecorous men do come in different forms and races, and they also exist in our very own local male population. |
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Maria likes to chat
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I'm engaged to a U.S. citizen and he is hard working, not like the lazy, cowardly Filipinos I have met here or where I was raised!
The only way I have ever seen a Filipino stand up to another man is when he is drunk or high, not like a brave American who would defend his woman and family to the death at any time. |
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emartel01
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This is no lie!!! I was in Subic Bay last weekend at the White Rock Resort. My family and I saw this one Filipino girl with an American guy. She was literally half his size. She stood up to about his shoulders and he was about 3X as wide as her. NO KIDDING!!
Now I'm an American also (Filipino by race) but we just got a bad impression about this couple. Typical stereotypes of those types of couples. The fact that we were in Subic Bay didn't really help either. Anyways, my relatives (native from the P.I.) just kind of laughed and thought they looked like a silly couple.
I don't necessarily think all Americans are like this though. I'm also an American but I am the same nationality as the locals. But I don't mind foreigners coupling up with Filipinos. There are some good ones out there and some men who are decent people. Its just those old fat guys who give Americans a bad rap! |
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jarrylbatarina
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hmm they marry them because filipinos are known to be caring and have that unusual love. so i can say that its for practical reasons. cost of living here is low, u can enjoy your moey at its fullest and u can have many people in your house helping you to do anything. they treat u like a visitor for the rest of your life and u are a special treatment than anyone else. |
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I'dStillPreferNoName
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Nothing. Congratulation |
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Lullipy
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first of all, can people stop insulting our men? i find nothing wrong with them whatsoever. whatever they do, so does everyone else. I LIKE THEM, SO STAY OFF. HAHAHAHA. ; D
moving on...
I have nothing against foreigners marrying filipinas. That being said, honestly... i would still feel an initial distrust if one were to marry any aunt of mine. that's why you have to do "ligaw" and stuff, to prove your good intentions.
as to why people stare at you, it's because you're caucasian and you look different so you stand out. :D
just a tip: some people might think you're aloof and unfriendly. try smiling at people who look at you and they'd smile back. they'll warm up better if you're the happy type, as is the normal filipino mood. hahaha. |
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saGROligious
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bhuwisit stated it very well. now if i can just be 1/8 as eloquent......
but i can say this: HEY, JD, YOU'RE NUMERO DOS!
lolz |
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bromeliad
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most filipino men are drunkard and will encourage their wives in working as DH to other countries, while they receive the allotment and spend it with their mistresses and beer drinking sprees. So these americans that you mentioned doesn't appear to be so extraordinqry. |
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Matt T
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American men like Filipina women.
Filipina women like American men.
Filipino men like American women.
American women don't like Filipino men, unfortunately.lol
That's the reason for the jealousy of the Filipino men.
A story goes like this:
Filipina women like Filipino men, but...
Filipina women see American men and their Caucasian looks.
Filipina women see the bad in the Filipino.
Filipina women see only good in American men.
Filipina women falls head over heels to American men.
Filipina women says lotsa negative stuff about the Filipino man.
Filipina women goes to the American and gets the shot.
...most get married and live happily ever after. A tiny minority get mistreated, abused, and worse, killed.
Most have mixed race offspring - they become the TV actors of the Philippines, and the cycle goes on - the quest for the white skin and brown hair continues in this country overcrazed with Caucasian features....
...and the Philippines goes down. |
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Juan C
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"thanks for the money"... |
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