What do you think is a response to this Filipina girl that I fell inlove with but she is obviously using me?

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Felicity???

She sounds so bland. I'm sorry but it's pretty obvious that she's not really into you. <*-*>

J M

Dude, Drop her like the plague, a bad habit or a hot potato. I am married to a lovely Pinay and I'm also in the military. It is apparent that she is "securing" her future. Don't feel bad about the ring, but learn from the mistake. (Hope you didn't pay too much). Alot depends on how you feel about her. You can wait for her, (don't know why you would) or perhaps you can give her a taste of her own medicine. Take the emails and other messages she's been sending you and get in touch with her husband... Not sure where you are in the world, but if you have the means, go to the Philippines for a visit. If you go once, you WILL go again. You will find literally a nation of beautiful people and kind people. You will find women staring at you in the mall because you are a foreigner and you are wondering "Who are they staring at"? until you figure out its you. On chat girls, remember this. They are there to make money and that they do. Find a girl that loves you and is sweet to you. Most would not discuss money with you, and if they do its a warning of what they want. Of course if you are courting a girl, she'd like to receive roses or chocolate sometimes but theyd be so happy with just a phone call. Anyway I'm rambling. Drop the gold digger and MOVE ON. There are millions of "Fish" in the Philippine Sea and age doesn't matter. Find you girl, love her and enjoy life. Mabuhay. Major John

Johny

Mate I'm not going to put you down like other I'm sure will but I'm going to voice my concerns and honest opinions based from my personel experience. So keeping it simple,boy meets girl,falls in love but obviously she doesn't think that way about you, even after she marries another guy and is keeping you in the loop as a back up fall guy for eventually when her marriage fails,she makes you feel good and wanted and even needed. You think about her all the time and your common logic is that one day she'll be yours,before you sleep at night you think about her and so on and so on.

So you have to see it from an outsiders perspective here. This girl is obviously very smart and knows how to play the game and I'm sure has no problem in doing so. Your the poor guy that is being fooled here and I have to say that you have to stop wasting your time mate. I mean what future can you have with a woman who already has the mentality that marriage isn't a sacred thing and that its just for mutual benefit of some kind.

I have met these kinds of women before and its their god given talent to cast a love spell on a foreigner and more than often it works because of one simple thing. Your wanting to go along with it. But you should be smart and just leave her be as your honestly wasting your valuable time with this one. Your not going to get that time back but as of right now you can be smart and cut your losses and actually find a decent girl there.

Either way I hope you do the right thing and wake up from the spell she has casted on you and drop her.

lola

just let her no that you no what shes doing and be like this relationship isnt going to go anywhre be with your husband and im going to be with who i want cheating on your husband isnt right and me being apart of it makes it worse it puts a burden on my soul just tell her that but face to face tell her nicely so she want be hurt and go crazy cause you dont no how a person really is until; u hurt them good luck

quantumrift

So you met her ONLINE or you actually physically MET her?

Come on, you can't bet THAT ignorant as to what is going on here.

You LOVE this girl so much. Yea I bet she love you so much too. Get a grip on things.

You need to get a life. Sorry but that's the truth.

Chris

What you really must do is notify her husband directly...belive me he'll apprecate it. She's not worth the headache, and eventually she'll get pregnant then the child will be the one to suffer to live with such an awful woman.

So if you love her or not, just tell the guy--if you want or her not it doesn't matter. I don't know what he will do, but he probably isn't making a meager $2000 a month anyways. And if he was alrady supporting her she should not be involved with you. But since she is you seem to be ok with her using him...but can't you realize she's using you? At least he gets to be with her as a husband, but all you get is to pay her Mom like you're her social security check or lotto payment.

Drop this girl or keep her--But tell her husband and send him the proof.

The good news is that theyve been together so short she is not permitted to stay in USA under her paper work, if it's even fully filed yet.

Dan L

I feel bad for you, and for the guy she married (if she really did). There is no question you're being scammed for your money, as you already know. Some guys don't even mind, and that's OK too. But you should at least enjoy your time with a loving girl while you're throwing away the money. In her e-mails to you, it's obvious she doesn't love you; whether she loves anyone else is open to debate.

There are, indeed, many loving and sincere and gorgeous girls in Philippines who would love you whether you're rich, or not - AND you'd get to enjoy the relationship while showering her with gifts.

As others have told you, if any Filipina (gotta love 'em!) asks you for money before you're married to her, move on - NEXT! Also, when you're looking to be serious with a girl overseas, don't indicate that you'll bring her to your country; instead, indicate that you'd like to live THERE. This one simple ploy will eliminate many of the golddiggers up front - the ones who want to use you to leave their country.

Best of luck, and please write off your losses, and move on to another relationship - for your sake. You'll find another who will actually love you, and you'll be twice as much in love with her! You don't want to be like a frustrated friend of mine (another of us lovers of fine Filipinas), who jokingly says that someday he'll die, and the last words he'll hear will be "papsy, before you go, where did you leave your wallet?" ;-)

To put it simply your being had.
How can you possibly consider having a relationship with her. Firstly she is MARRIED and neither of you seem to respect this.
Secondly what makes you think that she won't do the same to you.
This says it all "I bought her a nice engagement ring and a week later she married an USAF guy that sent her $500/month"

HonuBaby

i'm sorry that you feel hurt .i know you really love her. does she feel the same way too, frm her heart ?
i don't mean to judge her out, she's using you as a stepping stone to pay off her expenses or using you in general. filipinas also known for their cunningness. they can be sweet and lead you to their trap. and if you are not careful, you are their big catch ! she's NOT the one for you. please wake up !!
i don't mean to upset you further, only you can stop this relationship. be strong & be wise.

missmama

Can you trust a woman who cheated her husband?

pero_102

LMAO! fool me once, shame on you!
fool me twice , shame on me!
i really can't believe why so many men get so fooled by some scams.
know about the story of Cinderella, the one who got a prince charming,? Well many have that cinderella complex, waiting for some guy to take her away from her miserable life. So, they look for rich guy, a big fish to catch. Bit the whole story there started by the prince looking for true love so he posed as an ordinary person bc he knows well (not dumb) that many would only like him for the title or the riches.

If you want to find true love, ask her or confide to her that you're just an ordinary cab driver and not even american citizen. See what happens and hold on to your chair for the shock of your life.

maej

I don't want to pass judgment to your 'love' but hey, you just have to wake up man, and think about it... think...think... and think...

The girl you are after is married, very much married. Have you seen her in person? Or you just take her word for everything? How can you be so sure that she will eventually divorce that Russel? She's married to him, yet, she's still asking for allowance from you, whew! you are so generous. And you, can you really accept the fact that the woman you love is with somebody else? Isn't it called infidelity? marriage for convenience is okay, if both parties consents to it. In your situation though, it looks like this Russel is at a loss here.

Besides, is she's doing it to you, how can you be sure, that she is being faithful to you? Or are their some other like you's in her life as well?

Give it a thought and pray.

God bless!

edit: btw, you said it yourself. "she is using me".... sadly, looks like she really does!

Pointy

There is one born every minute ... I hope you are not one of them.

sandy

Yeah, like what the other people who answer said, it time to say no and move on to somebody else. Its hard to let go someone you love but in this case, I think its better to let go before you get more hurt or something.

McMaevie

shes married?.. just tell her forget me and have a happy life with your husband.

And you have to close your email account and change a new email account..
forget about that Girl shes not growing up yet all she cares is your Money.
You can Find single one.
don't pick the married they just make your life miserable.
When you meet someone online don't send money unless you visit there and meet her in person.
good luck.

ronald_pwll

you should just tell her to get lost . i know that you say you love her . but sounds like she is scamming you . there are lots of honest loving and faithful women in the philippines . how do i know ? i married one of them . the first rule in dating online is , if they are asking for money for any reason run as fast as you can

Mario M

you are being played like a sucker there is no girl, she is not married to an airforce guy she just likes suckers like you to send her money I bet you are talking to a guy right now. get some help turn off your computer and walk away

mancity

You are being used,i think you already know that in your heart.There are many genuine Filipinas out there,you have just been unlucky.Don't let it put you off trying again.Find the right one and you will never regret it.I have been married to my Filipina wife for "3 children" and 13 very happy years.

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