What drives a person to cheat on their partner?

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Differ between men and women.

For men, I presume it's the sex, the thrill and the opportunity that presents itself. The thrill of having sex with a different woman, the thrill of the possibility of getting caught. The hunt and chase all over again. I think they just want a relationship/affair that's just all play and fun, free from the daily grind.

For women, probably for the emotional fulfillment and attention that they are not getting from their partners.

The men are more likely to indulge in physical/sexual affairs and women, emotional affairs.

Fabulicious

We cheat to get what we're missing

I thought I was giving him everything he wanted. Apparently, I had no idea what he really wanted ... maybe I never had it to give.

Why does a partner cheat? Somebody, typically in an emotionally charged state, has been asking that question since the first betrayal.

Studies, by presumably objective scientists, show that men generally cheat because they want more sex or variety - they're biologically programmed to sow their seed widely. Women, on the other hand, tend to cheat because they want more emotional connection or validation.

Yes, there are other reasons ... but it's safe to say that when a partner cheats, they want something that they are not getting. And when the relationship lacks what one partner wants, it almost certainly lacks what the other partner wants as well. Still, the cheated partner is often devastated.

Men and women alike beat themselves up for not seeing it coming or not doing something to prevent it. Though, some of them, as you know, are more inclined (at least when talking out loud) to beat their partners up for lacking control, or emotional stability or decency.

Truth is, we're all doing the best we can and learning - even if at a painfully slow rate - to do better. There need be no blame; responsibility, yes. Consequences are still the best teacher, for all of us, both the cheater and the cheated.

Whether we break a commitment or merely ignore dissatisfaction, we cheat ourselves. And we don't have to have sex with somebody else to break a commitment. When we refuse to spend time with a partner or open up emotionally with a partner, we're cheating. Still, it seems that when one partner cheats sexually, they're apt to get blamed for whatever went wrong.

Unless we look honestly at what went wrong and why, though, we're likely to continue cheating ourselves - and our partners, no matter how many we move on to. A relationship is never one-sided, and neither is cheating. Ouch.

If there's something lacking in my relationship, then I'm not giving that something - whatever it is. This is difficult to swallow, especially if you've been blaming your partner for the last three (or 30) years because you don't have sex anymore or because you can't talk for more than five minutes without an argument.

Answer this question: What's missing in your relationship?

Maybe he never listens. If it's because you're "always" talking, perhaps you're not listening so well either. If she never puts out the one thing you want, maybe you're not putting out the one thing she wants either!

When somebody cheats, there's one thing we can be sure of - regardless of which study we look at or how the reasons are phrased or interpreted - somebody wanted something in their relationship that they were neither getting nor giving.

You've done the best you could. To the degree that you'll learn from the results, you can do better starting, yes, right now.

"Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid," said Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

Pay attention to the consequences of your behavior. If you don't have what you want in your relationship - whether it's sex or connection or validation - offer some of that to your partner.

Cheating is an effort to get what we want, that we can't seem to get at home, elsewhere. We can't get it anywhere, though, unless we're willing to give it.

Maybe you don't know what he wants, but you know what you want. And you have it to give.

Here's to greater joy and sweeter sorrow!

Jeffy

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What drives a person to cheat on their partner?
the 3 main reasons..

- Opportunity
even the happiest couple might find their partner cheating on them..just because there is an opportunity to do so.
example : the decent hubby with his "gatal secretary seducing him after a late night meeting with client..
honestly, how many cats can refuse a yummy fish deliverd up to their nose?

- Lust
this usually happens more to men..[i dont deny got women also la]
most of the time, after a certain period of marriage..things begin to settle into a routine and the wife dont really care much about her appearance like she used to be..[gone are the days of wearing sexy thongs..it is now granny underwear only]
thus : less excitement, everything become soo predictable..perhaps even sex with the wife is boring to him.
or maybe after having baby, the wife is super not interested in having sexual intercourse..

- Emotional hunger
this usually happens more to women..
after long hours at work, husbands might reach home late..and tired..
just wanting to fall into deep slumber.
the wives might feel they are neglected by their husbands, no more cuddles,no more listening and caring about them much like it used to be..

ViRg()

Thinking that, "the grass is always greener on the other side".
Having an insatiable sexual appetite, constant quarreling, feeling that their partner does not understand them well enough.
It could also be that they're bored with the relationship it's starting to feel monotonous.

Puan Sri kiki. lala

i wont.

if he did..
i will pijak2 him
oh yeah~

Wild Bean

Communication breakdown and the loss of passion for one another ...

When women 'cheat', it is because they are the victims ... you know, women are vulnerable when their male partners neglect them emotionally ... and then some other male guys will take the opportunity to fill this vacuum and at the same time will/might take advantage of them physically ...

When men cheat, this is because of that is their second nature unless they are God fearing type ... What is the similarities between men and used car ? Both are cheap and unreliable ... no offence but I think it is very true ... lol

jimmy

Just this - the neighbor's grass is always greener......

Bean

maybe a BMW

anderson

i agree with yak rider

Yak Rider

Dissatisfaction with their sex life.

bottle_o_scotch

curiosity in some cases, to see if it is different with another person
but as far as sex goes it makes no difference who you do it with there isn't much difference

Optimus Nate Primalâ„¢

proton pesona

gerardterranova

Lust urges

Naruto

lust ..

Î¨Î¾There is Peace in Ya!m$eng

gindy cheat u????!!!!!!!!
what he cheat u?

Sy i

Dissatifaction......unable to communicate

meandmygirls4eva

I will answer honestly, sometimes some people cheat because they lack something from their own relationship and others like the chase... However it is the long term cheating the people that will always have that "secret lover" and they try to make excuses because of it or are really "out of touch" to believe that since they were with that person longer they are still in titled to them.

To be honest people cheat because they are selfish and not mature or honest enough to say "I'm Done" with there current partner. People are imature and arent true to themselves. What is sad is that they don't even know it...

DATUK Ketam

...for men its natural....for women i dont know....maybe dissatisfaction....or lack of attention(most probable)...

...i believe its natural for men to be looking at more than one......but whether that materialise or not is another Q....

..i wouldnt use the word "cheat"....polygamy is as old as the history of mankind....its a man made rule to stay monogamous....not the Creator's...

....as such even some country leaders are having second tots...

"A speech was delivered 11 years ago. But it's worth reiterating. The speaker was one who was at the helm, leading Singapore to where it is in the world today, the one whom Singaporeans will always be grateful for, Mr Lee Kuan Yew. The concerned Prime Minister, now Senior Minister of Singapore, during a talk on "How To Keep Our Bearings In The Midst Of Rapid Changes", gave directions to the would-be leaders of Singapore, the University students.

The talk was held at the National University of Singapore, jointly-organised by the Democratic Socialist Club and Political Association on 12 Dec 1986. The full text of the speech was published in The Straits Times, 15 Dec 1986.

In closing, he addressed the issue of the dangerously declining birth rate and he suggested that it was erroneous to follow the West in being monogamous and a shift has to be made to steer Singapore away from the disastrous consequences ahead. He recommended polygamy as the solution, for correcting the declining birth rate, for dealing with the problem of the increasing number of unmarried women, for nation building and more....

Singaporeâ€™s Senior Minister, KY Lee is reputedly known throughout the world for his foresight and wisdom. Undoubtedly, his dynamic leadership has brought Singapore to where it is in the world today. "

ADD:..cik kiki..meh come Spore....pijak perut LKY..sal die galakkan polygamy...hehehhe