What if you're really inlove with a girl who's already have a boyfriend?

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in this office love-problem scenario,
the key to quality and efficiency is professionalism.

let's cut the chase.

if you can't handle your feelings well,
then you better quit.

the ideal working environment should be motivating,
and not depressing.

if you can't concentrate on your work --
because her presence keeps your blood pump rising,
forget it.

you're not making yourself productive.
you even asked this question here,
because it bothers you a lot.
meaning, you can't help but seriously think about it,
all the time --even at work i believe.

well, the choice is yours.

if you think you can keep your mouth shut until the end,
then do so.
nobody's stopping you.

just don't let your heart explode out of madness,
as it may result to a heart attack or something --
no kidding. stress will kill you, if you let it eat you alive.

i suggest that you don't say a word to her --
about your inner conflicts,
because it might worsen the situation.

remember. she's technically taken,
and nothing can change that (unless they broke up).

if she learns about your feelings,
she might feel uncomfortable with your presence.

and yeah, if you'll be busted by her,
that would be a real shame in your part dude.
especially, if the whole office learns about it.

Aref H4

Depends on the size of the boyfriend.

If he's not so much bigger than me, I will probably be confrontational with them both. Make them pay for making me suffer, day in and day out, just watching them with envy.
I may even tell the girl right in front of the boyfriend I think I have deep feelings for her, provoking a fight. Of course, this may lead to the girl and the boyfriend ganging up on me, and breaking every bone in my body.

If he really is a giant compared to me, I would probably see all of a sudden so many defects in the girl, and have sense enough not to get in their way.

If he's a midget, I would most probably back away, too. This guy must have super powers. Else, how could the girl fall for him!!!?

STEVE S

Yes, it is serious. Firstly because she has already got a boyfriend and secondly because she is someone you work with. Workplace romances can be very difficult for everyone concerned, especially if they break up but even if they don't.

I know you like her, a lot, but some of that is because you see her every day and you know you can't have her.

Just get on with your life, be her friend and if you two really are meant to be together it will happen eventually.

If you meet someone else you like, ask them out. Don't avoid other romantic involvements because you will just make your life a misery and become obsessed with her life.

STL Biker

Concentrate on more important things like making money and then after you are rich you will have so many girls then you can handle and your problem then will be:

"How can I choose which one of these hotties I wanna be with"

annabelle p

Don't despair. There's still hope for you...as long as she is single, even if attached.

If your feelings for her are real, sincere and so profound there is only one thing you have to do, must do...TELL HER! You can't let all those emotions bottle up inside you and let one chance that could probably give you a lifetime of happiness go without even trying. If she can't or won't reciprocate because she loves her boyfriend...that would surely hurt but, at least, it will give you time to re-assess your emotions and to initiate a move to move on. It is better to face the truth at once and be done with it rather than dwell on speculations all the time that will get you nowhere but back to where you started. Prolonging the anticipation and agony is not good for the heart and soul.

Cheer up and be brave. Let the man in you handle himself.

Lenna

Forget it. Find another job. If u don't want to quit your job then respect her and her boyfriend. How would you feel if your someone is barking on your future girlfriend?

Mutya P

Well, just try to continue communicating with here in your usual phase and as your officemate. And sure enough, your closeness will be the start of your friendship and it will last till you will become more familiar with each other. And it will come IN GOD'S TIME ;)

Michael L

dude just feel her out. see if she feels the same way for you. im in a situation very similar to this. Good things can happen if you give it time. just try to be better to her than her boyfriend is to her. if that helps any

Joe

Take a cold shower. There's millions more. If you know that feeling of someone else messing with your wife or gf you will move on and forget her. Its nothing but trouble. If you cheat there will be karma later. If you can woo her away from her bf you will never respect her and then later on someone else will do that to you. Find your own gf and stop causing problems.

Kady_14

there are so many available girls... y choose the one who's already in a relationship. try to put yourself in her bf's situation. give respect and let them be. try to looking else where. my friend is single and is also looking for a bf. hehehehe are u around mid 20's? and with a job? sense of humor? im actually looking for a date for her.

Winter

i think i know you...lol.. just stop, you don't want to be her second choice now, do you? Just ignore her.. pretend you don't know her because there is nothing you can do about it.. you love her but she loves another guy so, not gonna work. I say, concentrate on your work and just be with your coworkers and try to talk to other ladies at work. C'mon.. it's not the end of the world!

Mac

tell her! she might feel the same way. You really have to get it off your chest, that the only way to get rid of it or atleast control it? You will only live once, 20 yrs from now do you want to regret it?, You'll never know and if you do tell her she might think of you and realize that your a better person and love you. do you want her to end up with someonelse who might hurt her or leave her? youll never know, but you know that you wont. So tell her how you feel and youll see what happens, she might not like you now, but 1 day, who knows she might chase you around. Dude life is like gambling, if you have more options its better. Dont be afraid, tell her, be a man. thats what we are.

BBN

sige sugod lang pare! take it from this:

"Mahirap talagang magmahal ng syota ng iba
Hindi mo mabisita kahit okey sa kanya
Mahirap, oh mahirap talaga
Maghanap ka na lang kaya ng iba
Ngunit kapag nakita ang kanyang mga mata
Nawawala ang aking pagkadismaya
Sige lang sugod lang o bahala na
Bahala na kung magkabistuhan pa"

yanmehrâ™¥â™¥â™¥

i strongly agree with
annabelle p....
tell her and get hurt and then move on
or tell her and you'll be happy....
goodluck boi...

inaka!

get rid of her. give her and her bf some space and respect. there are alot of woman around waiting for you. im saying this coz i dont want this to happen.. imagine yourself having a girlfriend but someone's bugging into your relationship..isnt that annoying? so just keep your friendship and never go further. ok? move on.

Datu Dagohoy

Offer her a brand new pink car and a fully furnished apartment or condo as a gift to the one you love. You should also contact Belo to overhauled your body to become a good looking guy.

Oscar

you have to tell her your feelings. after that, it's business as usual. if you need your job, stay. if it hurts too much, go on vacation first.

nonoylovesamme

Unless she's wearing a wedding band, you still have a change, go for it.

Honestly, it will help if you personally tell her how you feel (it's a manly thing to do). Suppressed feelings tend to get worst in time, you never know it might just be an infatuation, which will just fade as soon as you done it, or you are doomed for life...

potskie

take it from the gurls:
first try asking urslf f wat u fil s love or u jst like d person, to avoid getting somebody hurt.

f u rily luv dat person nd ur willing to risk evrything to xpress dat filing then tell her besides love s life's gamble. ull never if ur victorious unless u cross that line.regrets only starts when u jst think of sumtng u lyk to do nd never doing it at all.and that's when u loose.

f she didnt accept what u had to offer dont be sad atleast u tried.its not the end for you but its the beginning of your new learning.remember that success comes from the ability to move on from one failure to another failure.

you cant avoid hurting sumbody other than urself.its reality, u cant please everyone coz its even harder to please urself.

albert l

whow! same situation! ahm! if i were you, let her know that you like her, and surely that will make you feel better even she refuses or accepts your feeling... trust me... its not a mortal sin to do that! "LOVE unexpressed is a crime against heart"

still

Try this: Print any picture of a beautiful woman , a movie star, a fashion model, or just anyone beautiful and place it on top of your desk. Imagine that she is your gf and she is working abroad and one day, you are going to meet her. You have to be faithful to your gf so, never try to steal glances on your officemate. Instead, direct your attention to your girl on the picture. Only her.

On your free time, dont look up but concentrate on answering Yahoo Questions or asking questionss. Im sure, you'll forget her in no time at all.

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