When love has gone, what do married couple do?

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nena aka NENA

try marriage counseling po. that or go your separate ways now. maybe the separation just might be the catalyst for the spark to rekindle.

true there's no divorce in the pinas but there's divorce in america so maybe later on if there's really no chance for reconciliation and to give you both the freedom to re-marry, then get your divorce here in the states.

good luck po.

Marriage is for life, not for a day or two...

anjali

the first step is to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. you need to be able to tell him that although you love him you're not happy and give him something to help the situation out... like let you do what you're happy doing..
goodluck!

nicelvguy

Hello,
Think back on the reason you married him, if it was not for money then what was it? Did he stimulate mentally, not just physically?
Did he put you on a pedestal and honor you? What was it that made you love him, and want to marry him?
The marriage is not over till you both look at each other and say that there is no more love. Then you both look into each others eyes and feel that you can not spend the rest of your life with this person then it is over.
My wife and i spend time apart, but when we join again, we are unbreakable. It is normal to feeling of independence, but when you marry it is suppose to be for life.. (Or it used to be)

Joe

Just get someone else and don't be shocked if he does the same. He's probably as tired of you as you are of him. If you start to care about each other again later then at least you won't have to do the siminar again. Thats the most realistic answer I can think of.

pero_102

you have no access between your wealths, what sort of marriage is that?
love is natural to fluctuate(rise and fall) in a relationship. but what should bind you together is respect for each other,or else, para que?(what for)
you don't have to yell at each other when having some issues. Make a rule that you talk over it after meals and seated or lying down,not on a new or full moon or under influence of intoxicants.
Love will grow back, there is always something to agree on.
Take care,both of you.

girl ur looking for!

u know what my opinion about marraige is not all about LOVE its also bout companionship..

maybe you need a space or time to be with friends.. have u watch the movie "THE STORY OF US" leading character is Bruce Willies married with his wife for 15 years and they planned to separate because they thought they dont have love anymore..when they fetch the kids from a summer camp and just that moment the wife glance at her husband and all just flashback on her head from the day they said I DO and then they realized that they have a history, a story of their love that just bloomed and need to keep the flame burning...

but i know u have a different story but remember the day that you said the I DO in the altar, infront of the servant of GOD and the people who still hope to believe in LOVE

toshi

I'm sorry this has to happen to you, and I completely understand how you feel as I have gone through the same path. I can only tell you to re-evaluate what you really feel for him. It may just be a tiny fall out, or a little misunderstanding.

Try to work out on the relationship first before giving it up. Take him with you when you travel, so you can both explore new things and meet new people. Bring back the love by doing things together. Date. Go to the movies. Eat out. Get a massage together, or simply spend a quiet time at home cooking for each other.

It's so hard to go through annulment these days, even if money isn't the issue, both your emotions are still on the line. Save your marriage, start a conversation or a game of Q&A, ask him things you still don't know about him... silly but important things like, what time was he born, what hospital he was born in, future plans, dreams, leading to very intimate thoughts... try it first before saying goodbye.

Goodluck! If you wish to talk, I'll be a friend, just send me a message.

tisya

it is very normal to feel that way on the adjustment period,it will take a while to sink in the truth that you and and your husband are now one.dont focus on the negative aspects of your relationship,learn to communicate with your hubby.in the first place you marry him out of love so it is easier to work things out.and put it in your mind in every relationship there is always obligations comes with it.wives are counseled to be submissive to their husbands....watch your wedding video so you can review your wedding vows and maybe see the reasons why you tie the knot with your man.goodluck

Coy

When love has gone, couple certainly start to drift away. You are showing tell-tale signs already like wanting to shop and dine alone. The next time you would like to do is sleep in bed alone until you see less and less of him. That is quite sad, but that is usually the case.

Why not get some days off for a vacation together, like a second honeymoon? In that manner, you will renew your love with each other. Tell each other what makes you comfortable, fear, happy, etc. Sort of re-levelling off your expectations with each other.

Good luck!

Mea

learn to love him even more... be patient and talk to him.
Cause who ever said love was easy? Love is hard work, and just strive hard to mend your relationship... i mean thats what marriage is, isnt it?

I pretty sure at some point of everyones life that they regret their actions... you can, but only for fleeting moment, and then continue to look forward... thats why divorces aren't allowed in Philippines. Marriages are sacred. And love is not a one time thing, nor is it easily aquired. There is a fine line between in infauation, attraction and love.

Just dont give up, and continue to seek God.
God bless~! And i hope everything works out for the better

Lala

truly before getting married that you thought about the responsibilities it comes with.....?

Try rekindling the old intimate feelings you have by getting away. Be honest to yourself and him.

jay8ee13

Remember when you said your vows, "thru think and thin"? You can't throw in the towel just because you have to do some choirs or can't go shopping! Seek some counseling first and then base your decision off of that.

...There has to be more than this going on for you not to feel happy

heartburn

hire somebody to liquidate your....
assets

Eusebio

Burnt out? Bored already? You want your independence back?

I think you need some time apart but not to the extent that you will consider permanently separating.

You can try marriage counseling.

nang.amie

find a playboi.

eggy

Married couple in the Philippines always try to fix their marriage. If the couple can't fix it anymore they separate and go back to their parents. Sometimes they just separate and look for a live in partner with out having an annulment.

Bob

I think the filipinas that answered before me have some very insightful answers.

I will tell you how other I see this...

I met a filipina that targeted foreigners for marriage. She ended up marrying one of them but me and her still keep in touch. She tells me she enjoys living in the USA but is not happy with him. she tells me that she will cheat on him with me when we meet again and eventually divorce him because there IS divorce in the USA where they got married. She talks to me all the time in the email while he is at work and sends me revealing pictures of herself posing on their bed in sexy dresses that she obtained somehow. She wants me to visit her where they live so we can have an affair. She is the most beautiful girl I have ever met in my life.

That is what happens when people marry for the wrong reasons in my opinion. It is inevitable. It is bound to happen. That is called life. When I cause her to cheat on him I am not going to feel sorry for hiim even though he went into debt to marry her. I am not going to feel bad for him that I make about 5 times more money than he does. I am not going to feel bad for him when he is at work and I am sleeping with her in his bed. And I am not going to feel bad for him when she leaves him for me or some other wealthier guy that can give her more of what she needs. I am not going to care because that is life.

But I am going to look forward to the day that I can be with that angel again. How I long to be with her and hold her in my arms. To smell her fragrance. To massage her aching muscles. To bring her breakfast in bed. Most of all though I miss beiing with her because she treats me very good and takes care of me even though I don't expect her to do it....

`â™¥â€¢Debbie the PINAY`â™¥â€¢

if you still want to have your relationship back, you need to make efforts to reconnect, try reading this book "Seat of the Soul" i watched it from Oprah show, it's nice
www.seatofthesoul.com.

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