Where is the best place to go in the Philippines to find a good wife, I'm American and want to start a family.?

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Doctor J

As the song goes "Love comes from the most unexpected places".

So you will find love anywhere in the Philippines when it is time for you and your lady love to meet. In fact, you may find her without having to move. She mat be a Filipina, or another Asian, or one of your own.

I assume you are looking for a Filipina wife because you have friends happy with their loving Filipina wives. But let me tell you that like all marriages, nothing is perfect. Some have regretted the relationship.

Come around. Socialize, and you will find her one day. And here's hoping she feels for you, too.

flipperr

OK you're 28.....So you're not some fat, old, bald American looking for any wife out there. I mean you're not some ugly guy who doesn't attract any women of any kind back in the US? I'm assuming that you are a decent looking guy who is ecucated, in shape, and somewhat sophisticated....Right? Not some fat, balding slob hanging out in strip clubs.

Honestly, people will tell you that there are beautiful women all over the Philippines. From hearing that you would think everone on the street looked like a model....WRONG!!!!

If you want to meet a decent self respecting woman then I would recommend going to Makati or Global City. There you wll find women who are cultured, educated and sophisticated. They will not go for you because you are an American. They are not desperate to date any foreigner and have a little more self respect. Anyone who tells you to date somone from the islands is nuts. I'm a Filipino American also and I wouldn't date any of those girls from the province simply because they will be interested in me for the wrong reasons. For citizenship or to escape poverty, which I'm not desperate enough to settle for such a woman. And if you are an educated, sophisticated, and decent looking person then I'm assuming that you're not desperate either.

Besides Makati and Global City are where the girls are at. I've seen too many loser American's who are desperate enough to date someone who looks like a maid. My advice is go out to the nightlife and find someone who is cultured, educated, and sophisticated. If not you will just end up with a woman who looks like she cleans toilets for a living!

shiya

Don't mind Bhuwisit. I'm familiar with his answers of the same nature for quite some time now and it's quite clear that he's either xenophobic, insecure of foreigners, or unfairly biased against multi-racial partnerships.

Anyway, that's not as easy as it sounds. For one, the easiest route will be through the internet. Problem is not the cream of the crop go online. So what you'll mostly find are financially-wanting women, less educated, simple etc. etc. Not exactly ideal by any stretch of the imagination if a partner is what you're seeking. Sure, I'll get some flak for this but let's get real okay. Do you see how most of these couples interact in Manila? They barely talk. They can be loyal, faithful, caring etc etc. But that's an entirely different thing.

I suggest you come here and ask mutual friends to set you up with women. Filipinas make good wives. That I can vouch for. You just have to weed out the undesirables, and that's not an easy thing to do for a foreigner unfamiliar with the culture and society.

As for you wanting to set up a business, it's probably just as tough as in any other countries. Different opportunities abound wherever you find yourself. Too bad the current economy's a pinch. Good luck! Don't be pressured to start either a family or business. You're only 28 years old. I'm not saying you take it easy. It's just that we are most vulnerable to committing mistakes when we are too focused on the goal and we refuse to take heed of the signs that tell us otherwise.

Hunter

Pegasus!

adnauseam

There are 3 islands in the Philippines such as Luzon, Visayas and Mindanao. Stay away north especially Manila. Ladies there only like to partly and up to no good. You can find a classic Filipina beauty mostly in Visayas and south of Mindanao with good values and untainted heart. Good luck!

Matt T

Quite easy - it depends where you want to live. For me, I'd recommend that you get yourself a job there first and then when you feel OK, that's the time you formally settle here in the Philippines.

I'd pick Tagaytay City for you - it is a nice and beautiful mountain city close to the beaches of South China Sea and is cool year round - a lot cooler than the lowlands, in fact. One added point is that Tagaytay City is just one hour away from Metro Manila, and that there are lots of international schools nearby. There are also lots of resident Americans in Tagaytay City (although most White Americans who have lived here for several generations have traditionally lived in nearby Cavite province, as well as in nearby Antipolo City).

And yeah, Filipino American women can be arrogant and snotty as you said because they have a superiority complex that they are better than their counterparts here in the Philippines where in fact the Philippines is just as urbanized as America is - the meat of the matter is, we have larger malls, livelier nightlife, and a variety of restaurants from every cuisine than most American cities do.

Pinongpyang

just after you stepped out of the airport,you can find a wife.

Nativetexican

In the province. City or social Filipina's aren't much different than American women either. If you want a country girl, its the same as in the USA, you need to go to the country. Shoot me an email if you want a more detailed opinion, I was 27 and totally naive when I came here. Its a cool place but don't believe the island paradise hype the RP has its problems also. I would suggest making a deal with yourself and make a commtiment to date a certain number before you make your decision to get serious about anyone paticular woman. It will be hard, because there are some really plastic women here. You won't know how to identify that trait at first because its more suttle here and will be foreign to you. Plastic is the Filipino term for a fake or materialistic type person. Social means a Filipino that is upper tier, and usually a jerk to every other Filipino that is poor. Not all social Pinoy's are like that, but most unfortunately are.

Brian B

I would suggest OKCupid.com

I'm not advertising or anything for the website - just answering the question as best I can without having been to the Philippines.

I don't think you will meet a cool girl by saying all American women are arrogant and snotty. Just relax and you will more attractive to girls (in the Philippines, I mean).

What buwisit said, that was rude. I see you are trying to help by pointing out what you perceive to be his mistakes, but it is coming across as judgmental.

I would say research social hot spots on the internet. I am a travel agent so I could help you, if you'd like, just email me. My information is public.

I would say just go on okcupid.com, it's a completely free dating site, and simultaneously searching the internet for places in the Philippines that seem to have a nice environment, and trying to find a girl who lives in a nice place. Alternatively, you could just move to the Philippines and meet women there in the same way you would meet and court them here.

I would request that you just respect their culture; do not try to Americanize the woman you meet. If you are moving to the Philippines, make yourself a part of the Philippines; do not turn the Philippines into America. It is not that you are doing this. It is just a pre-waring or whatever.

renicke@att.net

First you have to go and look! Because Fil. Am. girls are not the same as Pure Philippina! Business is not easy! Bull ship dont know the way! It not that easy! You can do nothing without a Philippina partner!

bong62

investigate and make a plan...choose a place and put up your business when you are settled you will meet new friends and from there you will meet a future wife..that is if you are lucky

oneiloilokano

I would recommend one of the smaller cities like Iloilo or Bacolod here in the Visayas (middle). Less chance of getting a gold digger. Plenty of nice women here in Iloilo with old fashoned values. My wife is from here. I am also an American, IS Navy retired at age 40 and living here since 2002.

Feel free to shoot me an e mail if you'd like another Americans POV that has already been through the process and tired of "American Women".

Dave M

What Shiya said was right on
Do not look online for a girl friend or wife. Visit Philippines get to know whatâ€™s up with the people and culture itâ€™s a wonderful country. If you are a nice guy it likely you will meet a good woman. Take your time and be yourself.
Email oneiloilo likely he can help you.

Donâ€™t start a business in the Philippines, for many reasons.

Dear Ms Bhuwisit,
If you had the slightest clue about American women you would know why so many American men come to Philippines looking for a wife.

Delauria

Many would surely be very interested! But please, let us know how old you are and what kind of women will suit your taste.

clt1221

ugh. theres too much white in the philippines already! (sorry.) but last time i went like all the kids where half white & why go to the philippines? try Bangkok.

(y)

Those people giving negative and judgmental answers above don't even live in The Philippines. They may or may not be Filipinos but their agenda is to make this forum an exclusive FilAm chat room for themselves and their high brow cronies to enjoy. They tend to make certain people whom they dislike or disapprove of feel like they have no place on this earth while they enjoy a good life in America. They tend to look down their noses at the people who come to their home country and end up supporting their own relatives they left behind. You pegged it about right with "arrogant and snotty". They're here on this site too.

Bhuwisit

What's wrong with an American wife? There are Americans of Filipino descent too--just in case you've got "Yellow Fever". If you look hard enough in your neighborhood, you're bound to find one. A lot of us have. So the question we all have for you is thus: what happened on every date you ever had with an American woman (regardless of her race, creed, religion, etc.) that was so traumatic that you would run away to a country all the way across the world?

You really think that after years/decades of of dating a woman in your own neighborhood and apparently not getting anywhere--that a woman whose language you do not speak, who grew up in a culture you know next to nothing about, halfway across the world from you, will magically be compatible with you? Are you serious?

Think about it.

dusadee

Go to Thailand, Beautiful natural woman.
Also great place for business.

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